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Why do I feel like I did something wrong?

babyluv617babyluv617 member
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I was nursing C earlier and D seemed more interested than usual. He kept putting his face really close. It's like he was trying to copy C and nurse. I offered him milk and he said yes.

He didn't nurse. I'm not sure that he knows how anymore but he put his mouth to me. 

Why do I feel like I did something wrong by offering? I nursed the kid for 19 months. It's something natural and a special bond we've had, so what's this pit in my stomach? 

Society?? The people who were relived when he weaned bc they were worried about me?? Something else??

Tell that wasn't a stupid move and it's all in my head.

Mama to D 6.16.08 and C 3.11.10
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Re: Why do I feel like I did something wrong?

  • jenny1980jenny1980 member

    Unless I'm missing a 10 year old in your siggy, you're fine! ;)

     

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  • CrunchOoEezyMamaCrunchOoEezyMama
    Whenever DD asks for milk I do the same.  It's usually after she's seen a baby nursing.  She just puts her mouth up to me, doesn't latch and then leaves or giggles.  I figure it's better than refusing and having her get upset. 
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  • papagenapapagena member

    You didn't do anything wrong.  I've actually heard a story of a mom actually letting her son start to nurse again - she taught him how to use his tongue correctly and everything so he could really nurse.  I'm pretty sure he was older than D.  Heck - my LO is still nursing a bit, and he's only a few months behind D. 

    That said, if you're uncomfortable with it, don't feel like you have to continue to offer.

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  • babyluv617babyluv617 member
    imagepapagena:

    You didn't do anything wrong.  I've actually heard a story of a mom actually letting her son start to nurse again - she taught him how to use his tongue correctly and everything so he could really nurse.  I'm pretty sure he was older than D.  Heck - my LO is still nursing a bit, and he's only a few months behind D. 

    That said, if you're uncomfortable with it, don't feel like you have to continue to offer.

    Thanks, ladies. =) 

    I think it was all the pressure around me to wean in the first place that made me feel like that. Or that "normal" people wouldn't have done it. I'm okay with not being normal. 

    Mama to D 6.16.08 and C 3.11.10
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  • CABunnyCABunny member
    I wouldn't give it a second thought.
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  • purplepugglespurplepuggles

    you didn't do anything wrong so don't worry another second!

     

    now, my DS keeps coming up to me and squeezing my boobs. that's SUPER fun. he gets that DD is eating, but doesn't get that i really don't need help holding my boob...

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  • Lotte134Lotte134
    Don't feel that way at all! I've heard a similar story from many of the moms in my AP group. He's just curious and and wants to do what baby does. Obviously he doesn't remember how to latch so he'll probably loose interest quickly (much more quickly than if you deny him, I bet!).
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