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m6web2617@yahoo.comm6web2617@yahoo.com
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Hello,

I have been with my husband for over 7 years and married a year. I am going to be 29 on 2 months and am ready to start a family. He is not. Its killing me that he is not ready (he is 33 yrs old) I feel like we do not have forever and his dad was just diaganosed with cancer so it makes we want it even more. I have expressed to him how important having kids is and he tells me in 2 years. Im starting to have anger towards him cause this was something he knew I always wanted from day one. It hurts to know that this is something I am to wait on him for. I try to be understanding and want him to want kids or know this will not be a happy time for anyone. Its really hard around my cycle cause I cross my fingers everytime that maybe there is a chance I am pregnant. I am not on anything he pulls out in time. SO I know there is that slight chance.  Any support or advise will help, Thanks Sad

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Re: New here and looking for support

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    You may want to make your screen name something other than your personal e-mail address.

    If he's not ready, he's not ready. It may be hard to hear, but at least he's not saying "never". He's saying "2 years". You'll only be 31, and he'll only be 35. Plenty of time. You really both need to be on board in order to make this work out.

    While his dad was just diagnosed with cancer, that doesn't mean an automatic death sentence. And I wouldn't push for kids and their added stress on an already stressful situation like that, just because grandpa may or may not be around.

    I would have a conversation with him about maybe meeting in the middle, or tabling the discussion completely for 6 months to a year and then re-opening the dialog.

    GL

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  • m6web2617@yahoo.comm6web2617@yahoo.com

    Hello,

    I realize this is something we BOTH need to be on the same page about but its hard to wait. 

     

    Also  "Please Note: Once your username is created, it can't be changed." I am unable to change my name.. 

     

     

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    imagem6web2617@yahoo.com:

    Hello,

    I realize this is something we BOTH need to be on the same page about but its hard to wait. 

     

    Also  "Please Note: Once your username is created, it can't be changed." I am unable to change my name.. 

     

     

    I know it's hard to wait. But keep the lines of communication open and you may be able to talk more about your reasons for waiting/not waiting and modify the timeline as you go along.

    You can create a new username.

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