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DH jealous of baby?

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in Babies: 3 - 6 Months
I feel like my DH is jealous of how much I love our son. I mean, yes I constantly hug and kiss him and dote on him... but he's my baby and my love, that is normal, right? My DH has actually said that I love him "too much". How can you love your child too much?! I think DH has actually withdrawn from DS because of this jealousy. When he comes home from work, he runs straight to our dog, but he doesn't even look at the baby. He can go an entire day without even holding DS. I guess I should be really trying to give my DH a lot of love and attention, too.... but honestly, with the way he's acting around our son, I'm not feeling too affectionate....
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  • mrs.Awoodsmrs.Awoods

    My DH had a case of baby blues until just recently. He'd say the same thing... and things like "It's an unfair world. You love the baby way more than you love me now."

    It's a huge adjustment period for them as well. I think we forget sometimes the way things were prior to baby. Yes, your world should revolve around the baby now. But try not to let the relationship between you and DH suffer in the meantime. Show him lots of attention too. Once the baby is asleep, have some quality time together. I'm sure he's just missing the relationship you two had before and doesn't know how to deal with it.

    It's hard being a mom. You have to balance taking care of a baby and a husband. :)

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  • sleepingbeauty825sleepingbeauty825 member
    Really? I would ask my husband to seek help if he starting acting like that.
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  • lmpdjclmpdjc member
    It sounds like your H is being an a$$.  Men are just big babies when it comes right down to it.  Of course your new baby is the center of your world right now, should be the center of H's world, too!
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  • melbry15melbry15

    imagelmpdjc:
    It sounds like your H is being an a$$.  Men are just big babies when it comes right down to it.  Of course your new baby is the center of your world right now, should be the center of H's world, too!

    I think this is a little harsh.  Before baby, wasn't your DH the center of your world?  Relationships are work, no matter who it is with.  You can't neglect your DH now that baby has arrived and while they do command all of your attention while they are awake, take the time to dote on your DH a little while they sleep.  I also think it's important to remind them that things have changed drastically for you too and how exhausting it can be to take care of LO and then have to take care of DH too.  We had this argument a couple of weeks ago, where DH was feeling ignored, but I had to inform him of the ways I was trying to give him attention (like preparing meals for him, having DD awake and happy for when he got home, trying to keep DD from waking him up on Saturday at 5 am, etc).  Once he saw the ways I was trying to "take care" of him too, he felt a lot more connected to me again (and less jealous too).

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  • BabyLove987BabyLove987
    You have to make time for DH and put some effort into your relationship.  It is easy to get wrapped up in being a mom and forget that you are a wife.  If you don't pay more attention to DH, you may not have a marriage in a few years.
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