Back from IVF consult with RE: Update

babygirlpriest · July 2010

Met with our RE Friday to discuss next steps. If you don't remember/know my back story, we've had three losses, all chrom. related, but none of them the SAME chrom. problem . Bascially he said we have two options:

Try again (which to me sounds a bit like the definition of insanity but whatever).
IFV with PGS (apparently different from PGD but the same idea).

He presented both options with arguements for and against each (which I appreciate). We finally asked, "If I was your daughter, what would you tell me?" And he said, "IVF - no questions. You've been through enough! Just because we can't medically PROVE a chrom. problem doesn't mean it's not there."

So the big question mark is insurance. Since we can get pregnant, insurance may not want to cover IVF. And since all three losses were DIFFERENT chrom. issues, insurance may not pay for PGS. Because of course we should trust the medical wisdom of number crunchers over medical professionals.

We're checking my insurance on coverage but either way leaning pretty heavily towards IVF. This was not how I planned to spend my inheritance but I guess it's nice to know it's there if we need it.

Scout05 · July 2010

I love you hon. I agree, I think you have all been through enough. I hope the insurance company doesn't have their heads up their asses.

::hugs::

AppleRidge · July 2010

I'm so glad your doctor gave you a straight answer on this. I hope they're able to advocate for you with your insurance provider and get this all figured out for you. I would love to see you do IVF if it can help avoid the pain of another loss. Good luck with everything!

babes12 · July 2010

i'm sorry but i think i do agree to go for IVF. hopefully you'll get some coverage!!!! (((hugs)))

maritzburggirl · July 2010

I'm so glad you had the appointment, and now I really hope insurance co-operates! I'll be crossing my fingers for you and supporting you every step of the way! hugs.

SweetieD21 · July 2010

That's nice you got pros and cons of each option. I'm praying your insurance will cover some of it!

Court1 · July 2010

I hope they offer you some coverage. I'd probably go for the IVF too now. You guys have been through so much. :::Big hugs:::

ade2be · July 2010

I'm glad your doctor gave you an honest answer...and I agree with him....you've been through enough.

I hope you can get insurance to cooperate. It sucks to have to play their games to get things like this covered.

Amanda78 · July 2010

I like your doctor. I hope your insurance company works with you for both IVF and the PGS. Big hugs.

KristysRedBarn · July 2010

Your dr sounds great. I hope insurance comes through for you.

JuJuBe3 · July 2010

I am glad you asked the 'if I were your daughter' question and got a resounding answer. That is really helpful. I hope the insurance works out and you can move forward soon.

KelinandKevin · July 2010

WOW!! Sounds like you had a good appointment. I know what a hard decision this all is. I had to use my 401(k) to pay for IVF. Whether it works or not I don't regret it. I needed to know for myself that I tried everything to become a mom. I hope your insurance can help you out!!!!! Please keep us posted!

gwennythepooh · July 2010

I'll keep my fingers crossed that insurance comes through. I'm glad you were able to get a definite answer!

mlmtgg · July 2010

I am so glad that the RE gave you options and pros/cons. and knowing what they would personally recommend is huge.

I hope the insurance helps out. If not, remember there is some help with med costs available on the IF board (and here too depending on what you use). I know not much of a financial help in grand scheme of IVF - but every little bit does help.

Tinybride08 · July 2010

Best of luck with whatever you choose.

swanck · July 2010

Oh honey. I'm so glad there's a plan, and there's someone who's there to help you move forward. I'm sorry you have to take these steps. But I'm excited for the possibilities for you!

I hope insurance comes through!

Best of luck and lots of prayers as you move forward.

hoping&waiting · July 2010

Well, I am glad your RE gave you such an honest answer/recommendation. Hope you get good news from your insurance!

jdeats71 · July 2010

I'm glad you got some straight answers from the RE. I would go for the IVF at this point. Insurance blows but hopefully you can get the coverage. OOP sucks beyond words (that's where we are with all treatments). Good luck!!!!!!!

dondraandluis · July 2010

I'm glad he gave you an answer straight up. I hope the insurance company doesn't act like jerks and cover atleast some (((HUGS)))

Sonadora · July 2010

::hugs:: I hope that your insurance sees the light and will cover this all for you.

kew243 · July 2010

I'm going to cross my fingers insurance pulls through! You have been through enough!

johannaknip · July 2010

I'm glad you Dr was honest and supportive. I hope that your insurance company isn't full of douches. Love you bunches and I can't wait to hear good news from you!

rjl07 · July 2010

I hope you can get the ins coverage worked out. Maybe your RE can write a letter saying it's medically necessary or something like that to help push it through. Good luck! I'm glad you have a plan. I think I'm starting in the next month or 2 also so maybe we'll be cycling together.

schen0510 · July 2010

I absolutely LOVE your RE for being so upfront. That is wonderful. Keeping all my fingers crossed that your insurance covers it. I would also talk to your RE about payment plans. My RE has a couple of different options including financing. I know it sounds crazy but you may not need to jump into using all of your inheritance upfront if you can finance it. Hopefully you will not need to worry about this though!

OCIrishBruin · July 2010

Sounds like you have a doctor who really understands, which is great. I hope your insurance company is reasonable and you can move forward quickly. I agree - you and your DH have been through enough. (((Hugs)))

PeetiePie · July 2010

Wow, it sounds like the new RE is amazing hon. I hope your insurance will cover it. GL!

bbhalphen · July 2010

Good luck! My RE is pushing for IVF with PGD. He said the same thing about the chromosome problems. I know it's a lot to think about right now. I will say a prayer that insurance will cover it!

triple_sevens · July 2010

I'm really glad your doctor was so straight with you on this. IVF is a big step, but if you feel like it will bring you more peace than the alternative (and obviously, a better chance at a healthy pregnancy), then it sounds like it's worth it.

I'll be praying for you guys to make the decision that works best for you--and for the IVF route to be as painless/easy as possible if that's what you choose.