I am shaking I am so angry

Scout05 · July 2010

The OP asked why she didn't get more u/s and some JERK had this to say:

eowynmn:

AmyNicole622:

We haven't told anyone about the BFP yet but I spoke with my sister in law about her doctors visits and how many u/s she got. She told me she only got ONE! At 20 weeks they do an u/s and that's it! I don't know if I'm crazy but that news really upsets me! What if something is going wrong that the blood test can't catch?

How many u/s will you get? Am I nuts to ask for at least two more during the pregnancy?

Yes you are nuts. And why is it so important to know if your baby has something wrong early? Are you planning on aborting anything that doesn't meet your standards?

FVCK you. Yes, that's what I did. I aborted my precious baby because he didn't meet my "standards." It had nothing to do with severe chromosomal complications or the pain - the agony - they told me he would be born into if we ever made it that far.

I am crying right now. People think this, And I know people in DH's family think it's what I did. Why are people so cruel and small minded?

I would have killed myself if it would have saved my baby. I would have done it in a heartbeat.

dondraandluis · July 2010

Aw man Allison. I'm so sorry you had to see that. That person is a piece of sh!t and knows nothing. Screw them. (((HUGS)))

butterfly843 · July 2010

Sending big hugs. My dh wonders why I can't deal with certain people and it's because of dumb comments like that.

AppleRidge · July 2010

Wow, that is absurd. People don't seem to comprehend the concept of a baby suffering in utero, and that a termination is an incredibly selfless act from someone who wants a baby from the bottom of their sole.

I'm sorry, love.

ShellShockedMama · July 2010

this has me in tears..I hate her

ETA: Yea, I couldn't not comment.

grr_aargh · July 2010

On the one hand I feel like people who say such things deserve a swift punch in the vag. On the other hand, I guess it'd be nice to live in a world where the NTS doesn't hold the sort of dread it does for all of us.

So while I hate her and am angered by her words, I'm also jealous of all of those people there who feel as though u/ss before 20 weeks are "unnecessary" and "don't show much." We all know far too well how much they can show.

Mostly I'm sorry she hurt my friend. Allison, don't let ignorant comments get you down. The people who love you know you're a good mother.

CarrieLeigh84 · July 2010

I'm sorry, Allison.

There are dipshits everywhere in the world. They run rampant. The important thing is that YOU know how much you loved your child, and we all know that as well.

Court1 · July 2010

I don't wish anything bad on people (well, not horrible), but god help that woman if she ever has to face something so horrible. You never know what life's going to throw at you. And fvck her.

rjl07 · July 2010

I'm so sorry you had to see that. Not that I wish that on anyone, but it would be nice if people understood the types of things that could actually happen and realize what you had to go through. I hate that people think that Down's is the worst possible outcome of a bad scan. ((hugs))

jdeats71 · July 2010

she's a fvcking douche......I'm sorry Allison.

((((hugs))))

AtoB · July 2010

Ohhh my. What an ignorant statement. Some people will just never understand, they will have perfectly textbook pregnancies, healthy kids....and they just won't ever get it.

KelinandKevin · July 2010

OMG.. that is so terrible!! I am so sorry! You have every right to be angry!!!!

bbhalphen · July 2010

I'm so sorry Allison! You did what was right for the baby. She's an idiot. (((hugs)))

KristysRedBarn · July 2010

Wow, she is so very uneducated and really just plain cruel. I'm sorry Allison. I feel terrible for that OP.

DoingItRight · July 2010

I am so sorry Alison. That poster sucks!!!!

PeetiePie · July 2010

I'm not sure where this is coming from, but this is making me cry. (I do that a lot when I'm angry) WTH?

Amanda78 · July 2010

I'm so sorry you had to see that sweetie. She doesn't know what she's talking about.

frogyie · July 2010

I saw this post and responded to the OP. I don't know why they were all giving her crap about the question... They were all really mean and I totaly understand why you would be pissed... hugs!

Shemico · July 2010

*hugs* Some people are so ignorant.

writergirl5786 · July 2010

((hugs)) oh honey I'm so sorry. Love you tons. I hate that you had to see that and that ppl are so awful. Get I'll throat punch em for you!

BeachCole · July 2010

I hate her so much. You are an amazing mommy, Allison and you were thinking about what was best for your sweet baby. We all know that. That girl is a farking idiot and she has no idea what she's talking about. ((HUGS))

michrocc · July 2010

I'm so sorry, Allison. I'm sorry that such ignorance exists and that you had to be subjected to it.

[[[[[[[[[Big hugs]]]]]]]]]

redstars93 · July 2010

Do not leT HER GET TO YOU! SHE PRIDES HERSELF ON BEING SNARKY BUT SHE'S REALLY JUST A BIITCH. TRUST ME. SORRY FOR CAPS- ON DH'S STUPID IPHONE

Olive44 · July 2010

Sorry you had to deal with that idiocy today.

JaimieLee · July 2010

Super Angry

I have no words. I hate people sometimes - there are TONS of good reasons to want to know about potential issues early.

OCIrishBruin · July 2010

Oh Allison, I'm so sorry sweetheart. That woman and anyone else who would say or think such a thing is a complete and total moron.

Huge (((HUGS))) hon.

babes12 · July 2010

wow. what an idiot that person is. obviously they have no idea what it would be like to be in that position.

i remember when we lost wyatt this one nurse was just not nice, not compassionate etc. so she took us into a room when i was about to be discharged and was implying that we knew wyatt was sick. I had to explain to her that we had no idea he was sick and that we were devastated not that we wouldn't be if we knew but it's crazy how peeps form opinions before they even know a persons history etc... not sure if this makes sense but it makes me angry when peeps come to conclusions about you before they even know the entire story. ugh.

hbkises · July 2010

dondraandluis:
Aw man Allison. I'm so sorry you had to see that. That person is a piece of sh!t and knows nothing. Screw them. (((HUGS)))

I couldn't have said it better

EKG · July 2010

Not sure if you will even see this, but as someone else who has been there, done that I gotta say I just love those self-righteous "I would never abort!" girls. Confused

Until you are sitting there, listening to the doctor explain the possible outcomes (which are all horrible) for your unborn child, and then your options, which are all equally horrible, you really have no idea what you would do. None. I am so sorry you had to see that.

Scout05 · July 2010

EKG:
Not sure if you will even see this, but as someone else who has been there, done that I gotta say I just love those self-righteous "I would never abort!" girls. Until you are sitting there, listening to the doctor explain the possible outcomes (which are all horrible) for your unborn child, and then your options, which are all equally horrible, you really have no idea what you would do. None. I am so sorry you had to see that.

You are totally right. I never thought I would be in that position, or make that decision. But I had to do what was right. And I know I did.

I am so sorry you have to know how true this is as well.

pepomntpat · July 2010

{hugs} People are stupid and she obviously does not know what she is talking about.

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