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Stacyc625
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POLL: How have you changed in the last five years?
Stacyc625
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What has been the biggest change in the person YOU are- in the last five years?
What do you think was the biggest attribute to the change?
How do you feel about the change?
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Re: POLL: How have you changed in the last five years?
I got fat. Real fat for me.
I got comfortable in my relationship and got much better at my baking skills
I hate it. But am currently working to fix it!
Five years ago I was a single mom living with my parents.
Now I'm married, had another baby, stay home, own a home, and moved to a different state.
I'm not sure which change was the biggest one!
I became selfish. With my time, my family, etc. Being taken advantage of too many times will do that;) I found it to be a good thing though because I take a LOT better care of myself now and I'm less likely to take BS from people. I used to be super shy and would act like things were fine when they weren't. That's not to say I did it all on my own though...I had/have some people who are great examples of how I don't want to live my life: jammed packed, stressful, sickly, extending myself too far, etc. I work out to relieve stress, I say "no" if I don't really want to do it and I no longer strive to fit into someone else's mold of what they think I should be
Oh, and I don't mind tomatoes anymore. 5 years ago I hated them, lol.
DD#1~8/17/96------DS~10/24/05
gained 30# and it sucks.
I've become less stressed and don't worry about everyone else and what they think.
Having 3 kids in 3 years made me this way! LOL!
I LOVE the change. I'm more confident in myself, and happier......even after going through some rough times with my kids and DH.
Having a special needs child has made the biggest impact, and therefore change, in the last five years.
Being a health-conscious person in general, eating right, giving up OTC meds, coffee and all those "bad" things during my pregnancy gave me a false sense of control. Having Parker taught me the bitter lesson- you have no control. BUT, however bitter at the time, I'm much more at peace with myself and my life now because I've stopped fighting pointless battles.
Was it a lesson I feel I needed to learn in the way I did? No. There will always be a fresh emotional scar from my experience with Parker. It hasn't gone away yet and I don't anticipate it going away. But, I've made peace with what happened.
I reeeally hope no one flames me for posting this.
5 years ago, I was promiscous, dabbled in drugs, and lived the party lifestyle that the crowd I hung out with did. I was self conscious, and looked for temporary fixes that made me feel better about the mistake that was my first marriage, and what I was doing with my life.
Today, I am such a proud Holly Hobby/Suzie Homemaker type mom who gets enjoyment out of things like having a bake-a-thon with my sister, exercising, and enjoying my family life. The person I was five years ago feels like a person I don't even know. It makes me sad but I learned from my mistakes, and luckily never got in any serious trouble for the things I was doing.
I was thinking about the biggest change in my life- and it has been learning to separate things that are important to me vs trial- minute- things.
Be it commitments, friends vs aquaintances, work commitments, family etc. I only spend my time on things that are important to me.
Five years ago I sooooo over commited myself to things that meant less to me- and i devoted too much time to things that really didn't deserve my attention. (i.e people that were not true friends, causes that weren't overly dear to my heart etc)-
I have gotten much better at only agreeing to things that REALLY matter. My family of course being primary.
I am much happier now- for sure. hands down.
My goodness, Gisele is getting so BIG!
What has been the biggest change in the person YOU are- in the last five years? Five years ago, I cared most about travel and going to concerts. I was also trying hard to get DH to agree to get married! I was changing careers, about to start graduate school, and very excited about that. It was really all ME ME ME at that point in my life.
What do you think was the biggest attribute to the change? Definitely DD. I don't do any of the exciting things I used to do, but she brings me joy every day. It's a different sort of satisfaction -- from being up on everything going on in the world to being very deeply in tune with one person. I feel like I must be much less interesting, but I don't care too much. I'm actually the most confident and secure I've been in my life.
How do you feel about the change? I guess it's good, but at the same time, I do miss feeling really driven and active in the world. Maybe I've tipped the balance a little too far (for my comfort) towards home life. It's just that this life is so easy to manage and so rewarding, day to day. As DD gets older, I hope to go back to the "old me" a little bit more, while still being a good mom.
Five years ago, I was still technically a single parent (we were engaged and planning the wedding) and my parents had moved in with Jordan and I temporarily because they sold their home and were still househunting. So logistically, a lot has changed for me in 5 years (my parents moved out, DH moved in, we got married, we had Ben, Jordan graduated from elementary school and started HS, I was laid off from my job of 11+ years, etc.).
Other than the fact that I seem to dislike people more and more the older I get, I don't really feel that I've changed all that much as a person in the last 5 years. I didn't used to be this way and I think this is a product of the fact that so many people in this world are only worried about 'me' and have no common courtesy for the next person. I wish that people weren't so self absorbed and showed more random acts of kindness towards their fellow man, but until I start seeing a big shift in society, I'm ok with feeling this way.
I could not agree more with this and I think that's big reason for me too. When I said that I became more selfish, it was definitely for my own good because I felt like a doormat. I am still surrounded by people who are all me, me, me as in, "How can I benefit from this? Will I get some attention?" It's sad. I have also had random people do the smallest things that do wonders to improve my day...I try to do the same because you never know what battles someone is fighting. One of the reasons we recently replaced our mailbox is because I felt bad for our mailman who is an older gentleman. Anytime we received something that didn't fit in the mailbox, he was nice enough to bring it up to the house. However, I know that it must cut into his route (we're rural)....he'd have to drive up our driveway each time and get out of his car and I think he has trouble walking. He never complained about it though and while I'm sure we weren't the only ones he did it for, he was always friendly:)
DD#1~8/17/96------DS~10/24/05
What has been the biggest change in the person YOU are- in the last five years?
Moving across the country in 2006 with my new husband and being 7 months pregnant contributed to the biggest change in who I am over the past 5 years. We were out here ALL ALONE, with no familiarity to fall back on, no friends, no family, no help, no old hangouts, no comfort. We were completely autonomous with no safety net and were really doing it all on our own, which was not at all how we saw our future. However, it was the best thing that could've happened to us both and we are more confident, strong, happy people because of it. We each grew up a lot and grew closer together in our marriage, only having each other to lean on this entire time.
What do you think was the biggest attribute to the change?
Oh, sorry, already answered this one! The biggest attribute was the move itself.
How do you feel about the change?
Damn, I already answered this one, too!
I have never been happier and feel it was the best thing that could've happened to myself, my husband, and our marriage!
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