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Stacyc625
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POLL: What has been your biggest mommy 'struggle' so far?
Stacyc625
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Re: POLL: What has been your biggest mommy 'struggle' so far?
Stacy! 31 weeks already!
My biggest struggle is going from determining what I want to accomplish and what is best for them to accomplish. Essentially- slowing down to their speed and not rushing things that are important to them. Their needs/wants are important just as mine are.
Making decisions. It seems like I read an article/book/website that states one thing and then find something that contradicts the first thing! It's draining when you are trying to do what's best for your child, you try to research that and end up more confused than in the beginning!! This has diminished some as they've gotten older, but it's still around.
Right now - whole milk or 2% or skim when they hit 2. I've heard whole for brain development and there was a study that found that kids that drank whole milk actually weighed less than their skim milk drinking counterparts. Then I found an article in a parenting magazine that said that whole is good but that it may be contributing to obesity so to switch them to something else at 18 months. Aaaaaahhhhhhh! <head exploding>
Infancy, for sure. Babies are so tiny and vulnerable until they are around 6 months. I just had a hard time with it, especially the sleep deprivation. DH was not so great with infants either so we were in a world of hurt
I am envious of people who are naturals with infants!
The good news is they grow up fast and before you know it you have a chubby awesome 1 year old to run after
Overall, my patience. I am not the most patient person and tend to flip out at times when DS acts up, doesn't listen, or does something that makes an unnecessary mess. It is a constant struggle to remember that he is human and isn't going to be perfect. I always apologize if I get upset and he is good at forgiveness so I guess he is learning something there.
Phase - "terrible twos" as they are called. It was tough from about 22 months until about 3 1/2. DS hit kids and had a hard time listening. It was frustrating, but once we got through it, he is really sweet and listens most of the time.
DD#1~8/17/96------DS~10/24/05
Agreed!
Managing twin toddlers by myself while out in public and at other people's houses. I am still struggling at times!
It's a GIRL!!
Definitely feeding, which has been a problem from Day 1. She's always been a light eater, sometimes to the point where it interferes with her health. I rarely know whether I'm pushing her too hard or not hard enough to eat. I side on being relaxed about it in her presence, but the stress of trying to prepare nutritious new recipes (that she then rejects), counting calories, making huge batches of purees to hide in the few foods she approves, and worrying about all of the above, gets to me.
Also, her gross motor delay and all the neurological worries, and even simply scheduling an appointment with a neurologist here in New Jersey, which makes me long for ANY alternate health care system. I love DD to pieces but wonder what life would have been like if she was a completely "normal" child, and all I had to worry about was discipline or potty training or whatever. She's been doing really well for going on six months now, fortunately, and I've enjoyed it!
As a SAHM it's been having no mommy/sahm friends. None of our close friends have kids and only a couple of acquaintances do. That's made being a SAHM really lonely.
As a mom in general, my biggest struggle has probably been patience. I don't have nearly as much as I thought I did!
I dealt with severe PPD after DS... almost to the point of psychosis and was suicidal. It was horrible, and it's still hard for me to talk about now, but I know that I'm not the only one, and that helps. I started to overcome it when DS was around 7 or 8 months old.
Recently, the hardest thing is having enough energy to keep up with my very, very, very active two year old, and not having any mom friends around here.