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WWYD re: Birtday Gifts

nurseBrookenurseBrooke
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months
We really don't DS to get a lot of gifts for his birthday, but we have a HUGE family. We also have some relatives that are really hurting financially. I don't want people to feel obligated to bring a gift and I don't want to be rude. If people do bring a gift I'd like it to be educational at least. Is there a way to put this on the invite without sounding rude? WWYD?
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Re: WWYD re: Birtday Gifts

  • monlyn9monlyn9 member
    I wouldn't put anything on the invite. A few people will inevitably ask what to get him and at that point you could say that gifts are not necessary but if you feel inclined, these are the types of things we want/need for him. Then ask if they can spread the word throughout the family.
      
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  • monkeyqueenmonkeyqueen
    I'm not a fan of requesting certain types of gifts. I just can't see how that wouldn't come off sounding rude and presumptious on an invite.    If people ask what he need/wants, then tell them..... but, other than that, it's up to the guests to decide what they want to spend their money on:)
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  • KandM05KandM05

    Yeah, I have to agree that you can not put any kind of limitations or special requests for gifts.  Again, if someone asks your for ideas, then yes, you can mention that you'd love for him to recieve some educational gifts.

     As for the family members hurting financially - they will buy accordingly.  You dont need to make any mention to them (again, unless they specifically talk to you about it, then you could say that there is no need for a gift, that their presence is present enough).

     I feel your pain though.  My husbands family is rather large, and we simply dont have room for each kid to get so many gifts. In this case, at Christmas time, I ask my husband to make mention to his family to please not go overboard, since we dont like the meaning of christmas to get lost in all the gifts (we also dont have room for them!). You could do something similiar.

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  • nicte83nicte83

    I disagree about a hundred percent. Unless this huge family is lucky enough to spend time with you they will all be calling (or probably getting wrong) the clothing size you LO is in now or they will overlap a ton with things you have or gifts others are getting.

    I remember this sort of thing from a baby shower post way back and they had a cute way on the invite to "hint" that the baby's library was a bit bare and that those would be a great gift because they already had a fully stocked nursery.

    I'm using that idea for my baby's first birthday because A. it's true, B. there are a wide range of prices and options, C. he doesn't need more toys , and D. books are relatively small and easy to store.

    Hope this helps!

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