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DH really hurt my feelings

Mrs. DissMrs. Diss
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Maybe I'm just being sensitive, but DH really hurt my feelings. He acts like I don't do anything.  He made some comment about me holding DD for 5 seconds and then always giving her to him? Seriously?  I am with her 90% of the time, wouldn't you think he'd want to spend some time with her on the weekends since he doesn't see her much during the week?  Even when he is around I watch her/play with her most of the time. And EVERY time she gets upset he tried to hand her to me. I am with her all week, I work part time and cook/keep the house.  He seriously hurt my feelings and doesn't even seem to have noticed. Awesome ...
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  • MrsPattersonMrsPatterson member
    Ugh that sucks!  I'm always amazed at the amount of denial our DH's manage to keep themselves in.  I will never stop wishing that DH could spend 2 or 3 days being me.  
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  • ceramseyceramsey
    I'm in the same boat, though I think DH does appreciate what I do. I feel like when he has DS he'll sit w/him on the couch or put DS in the jumper next to him and then turn on the tv. Yes, I do this on occasion, but I also spend 12 hours w/him during the day; I'm allowed my down time. I just think DH doesn't know how to play w/him at this age, so I've had to do some gentle teaching, give him ideas, demonstrate. DH started a garden this year, so they do spend time looking at it and watering it "together". I think once DS is more mobile he'll feel more comfortable playing w/him. I would say something to your DH-it's the only way I got through to mine. GL!
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  • ceramseyceramsey

    imageMrsPatterson:
    Ugh that sucks!  I'm always amazed at the amount of denial our DH's manage to keep themselves in.  I will never stop wishing that DH could spend 2 or 3 days being me.  

    DH watched DS for about 5hrs one day while I was at a meeting. That night he said the most wonderful words, "It's hard entertaining him all the time. I have so much more respect for what you do." Alleluia!!!! I was in heaven! 

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  • pollykinzpollykinz
    oh honey, I could SO have written this post a million times!! my DH is the exact same way - he holds DS for like 2 minutes and then either puts him in his high chair or on the floor. I always say the same thing to him, don't you want to spend time with him when you're home?? they're idiots, seriously. I'm sorry he hurt your feelings - big hugs.
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  • eas15905eas15905
    I'm sorry he hurt your feelings.  Sometimes they just don't get it.
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  • Mrs. DissMrs. Diss
    Thanks ladies. I appreciate it. I'm certainly not perfect and the house is never as clean as it could be, but I try.  I just wish he appreciated all that I do.  Oh well ...
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  • vera1127vera1127 member
    I know exactly how you feel. DH is infamous for coming home and saying "This house is a disaster." One time he did it after I spent like an hour picking up toys, folding blankets, and trying to make the house look decent. I have cleaned at least one room every day this week and never said one word. I totally get it, and I know what it feels like to try your hardest. Hang in there...maybe one day they'll get it!!
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  • Babs022Babs022 member
    huge ((hugs))...they just don't get it sometimes.
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  • BeckyS1211BeckyS1211
    hugs hugs girl, they don't get it most of the time!
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  • racer88racer88

    I'm sorry hun, huge hugs to you. Darn DH's just don't get it....maybe someday, just don't hold your breath!

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  • popcorn13popcorn13 member
    Boo, DH! 
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  • TheEnglishgirlTheEnglishgirl
    Sorry honey. You should leave him alone for a good afternoon and see what he has to say.
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  • OregonMamaOregonMama
    DH was great about spendng time with her until the last two weeks.  All of the sudden he is doing the same crap!  As a matter of fact he just did it.  I asked him to take her for a few and he acted put out and did finally take her.  She started fussing and said "she needs fed" and I said no she doesn't, I just fed her, she's just tired and needs rocked.  What does he do?  Sticks her in her swing.  Seriously, just rock her for two minutes and she'll be out!  UGH!!!
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  • roundtheworldgirlroundtheworldgirl member
    I would have smacked him.  You STAY AT HOME.  So when he's at work, you're with her ALL DAY.  He should spend more time with his daughter when he's home - both to bond with her and to give you a break.  Sorry he's being a jerk.
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