IUI

Quetzal1212 · July 2010

So, I lurk quite a bit, and generally don't post. But, I just need to tell someone outside of my DH that we started on our first IUI cycle this week.

This whole experience has been a difficult one, but I am happy that my DH and I are handling things well, and seem to be on the same page. At least he has been incredibly supportive. As for telling people, that has been hard. I work with very nice people, but at the same time, any information shared spreads like wildfire, and things are sometimes distorted. I have had too many people who I have not spoken to about even trying to get pregnant and ask if I am pregnant yet. Yes, seriously, I had someone pat my stomach a few months ago and ask. I may be slightly overweight (10 pounds in my head, 20 according to the BMI index, but I am a strong believer that it is biased and does not account for ethnic differences. Stick out tongue )

At any rate, I have decided to not share with people at work. Having different appointments throughout the week means that my co-workers know when I am not in the office, so I am trying to figure out the most polite way of dealing with cases. I work closely with people, so I have to be "nice." Today, I had the question - "any news yet?" I answered with a happy (as much happy as I could muster) "Not yet!" I guess I have to add that since I am older, my co-workers were truly happy that I finally got married given my age, and have been incredibly supportive. But, given that I have not successfully gotten pregnant, I don't really feel like sharing so openly about my life.

But, I am still hopeful. I mean, why not me, right?

rach2100 · July 2010

Hi and welcome! GL on your IUI!!

jcath · July 2010

Hi and welcome to the board. I try not to tell co-workers too much - luckily my boss doesn't really keep tabs on my schedule so I just put private appt on my calendar and go when I need to.

Good luck on the IUI

kikibird · July 2010

Good luck to you!

Deanne Shehane · July 2010

Welcome. This is a great support board and a smaller group compared to other boards. Feel free to vent, freak out and ramble about all the things you can't tell anyone else. Good luck and I hope your IUI works on the first round!!!!!

redsoxbono · July 2010

I'm sorry people are being that way. Almost nobody at work knows we are TTC and nobody in our families know.

Could you nicely say, "Thank you for asking, I'm so lucky to have support at work, but what if we leave it as, "if I have news, I'll tell you"

That might be a kind, polite way to ask people to give you space.

I'm starting an IUI next month. Right now I'm on summer vacation, but when we move to the next IUI or IVF it will be right when school starts (I'm a teacher), so that will be tough.

I'm glad you found this board, as Deanne said feel free to vent away with us!

Best of luck on your IUI!!!!

JilliansMoma · July 2010

Welcome and good luck to you! While TTC my DD we didn't tell anyone either. I didn't want the many questions from hubbies family mostly (I mean they were asking @ my wedding reception if I was PG yet!) This time around we are open about what's happening. It has been less stressful than trying to come up with reasons I would be late to work or have to leave early, or couldn't make that family function. IMO it is a really personal time in our life and up to you if you want to share or not! Anyway welcome and much luck on your IUI.

shyntrue · July 2010

Welcome & GL!

Quetzal1212 · July 2010

Thanks everyone. I really do appreciate it. I am really trying to stay positive.

And, no one asked about anything at work today!!!

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