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LET'S BREAK THE SILENCE!

anangelbuganangelbug member
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 This article is hard to read (all too familiar & sad) but makes me want to get active and do something! (it's 9 pages, but you have to click next).  We can start by breaking the silence in the waiting rooms.  Look how we all support each other here and talk etc.... but in the waiting rooms at the RE, at least in my experience, it's a whole other story. Why is that?   What if we all just start befriending other women in the waiting rooms?  (ok, so I can't do much on that end since I probably won't have any more appointments at an RE, unless I keep my current doctor as my GYN or consider donor egg in the future) but I am all for speaking up and speaking out and breaking the silence.   Thoughts?

 https://www.self.com/health/2010/08/breaking-the-silence-on-infertility

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  • BenandDinaBenandDina

    I have actually struck up conversations with people at my RE's office (not at my OB/GYN's, where it was pregnancy-fest most days, and even when I was pregnant, I tended to keep to myself there).  And, I ended up making a few good friends that way, as well as meeting some very nice people.  I'm all for it - the more we keep infertility and/or pregnancy or early neonatal loss silent, the less support, understanding and research funding to solve this horrible problem we get.

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  • Ginger71Ginger71 member
    It's so odd, isn't it? I sat in a waiting room smaller than my closet at cornell waiting for my ER. My knees were practically touching the girl across from me. We never said a word.....
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  • Family hopesFamily hopes
    It is interesting.  I see the same women every time I go in (except today - strangely empty) but we don't say anything.  I notice that most of us don't even make eye contact with each other.  I'm going to try to strike up a conversation at my next visit.
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  • roselln2roselln2
    I agree about the part that silence about the issue in general impacts advocacy, and I think that the issue needs to be talked about more so that people understand its impacts, relevance and need for research. But I don't think the solution is talking about it in the waiting room. I'm totally okay with sitting quietly reading my book or playing on my iPhone. I like my peace and quiet, so if you see me... ssshhh...
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  • thebeadingladythebeadinglady

    My RE's office is really small and the waiting room is almost always empty. I think I have seen other people in there maybe twice. I will say I have trouble talking to strangers no matter what the situation. Let alone when I am sitting in the waiting room with a cup full of my DH's sperm.

    But I think the idea is really nice, and if I had more courage I would totally do it.  

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  • HannaBHannaB

    I just blogged about this, sort of.

    I want to be open about it in my real life -- Facebook, at work, on my blog. Because why shouldn't I be? We are fighting something and we need the support. On the other hand, I am not as open as I would like to be, because it just invites too many questions. And sometimes I don't want to talk about -- not because I'm sad or because it's too hard (though sometimes those things are true), but because maybe I want to talk with about football or a TV show or YOUR baby. Right?

    And like I mentioned in my blog post, I am OVER the sad face. I know all y'all know exactly what face I'm referring to!

    https://theseprices.net/2010/07/the-balance-between-saying-too-much-and-not-enough/

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