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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
"miscarriage"?
I've decided the word "miscarriage" really sucks--not just because of the definition, but because of the perception.
I think it implies like either the baby or the mother screwed up and "wrongly carried" the baby. Since the baby is innocent, it probably wasn't the baby.
So that leaves the mom as the "responsible party".
Sucky. This happened to US, we didn't make/want/or have anything to do with it happening.
I don't yet have a proposed new word. Any ideas?
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Re: "miscarriage"?
miscarriage is a whole lot better than "spontaneous abortion" which is the official medial term.
no thank you on that one.
any other ideas for new terms?
Oh gosh; it sure is. :-(
I feel the same way about miscarriage. Mis carry, like you just carried it wrong. I was actually drafting a blog post about how horrible this word sounds.
At least spontaneous abortion sounds like it was just a surprise (albeit a bad one) and not that I did something wrong.
Yep. Hate, hate, hate it. And while we are on the subject I also hate chemical pregnancy and molar pregnancy. I always say I lost a baby rather than had a miscarriage.
I'm personally a fan of using the term "pregnancy loss" as my alternative is the ugly word: abortion.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
I like this. I often feel like people just don't get that you actually DID lose a CHILD, not just the idea of a baby.
None of the options are very kind. this seems to be the case in so many issues around women's health.
And I too strongly dislike "chemical pregnancy." My first mc was a "chemical pregnancy," but I didn't call it that aloud. It's a term that makes all the pain, sadness, and loss we felt sound like it came from a science experiment gone bad. :-(
This. I've had two spontaneous abortions and two missed abortions according to medical terminology. I would prefer the standard m/c and missed m/c terms anyday.
ETA: You know what I REALLY hate? When people say that something was a "miscarriage of justice." I don't know why it aggravates me so much, but it does. I know that it doesn't really have anything to do with this post, but I thought I'd put it out there, lol.
Exactly. It's not like we thought we were pregnant and then got a BFN. We had babies growing inside us. Even my baby which stopped growing early at 6w already had a heart, limb buds, a liver, a brain, mouth, jaw. It was not a microscopic cell or a medical mistake.
We love and miss you Jillian (18w) and Peanut (6w). Welcome to our TAC miracle Jacob!
I just say I was pregnant last week and now I'm not. People get the point.
It's been 6 months since my d&c. I still have a hard time with the "m" word. I will usually say, "my surgery" instead of d&c. For me, I had a blighted ovum, so it's hard for me to fully reconcile my pregnancy loss with the loss of my baby when there was no baby to lose. Yet, I was still really pregnant (for 13wk) and it still hurts to know I won't have my baby in my arms next week.
I'm trying to let myself be ok with the fact that my DH and I did in fact create life and that it was a real loss of that life. Stupid "m" word.
That was terrible of your doctor, and certainly hope you told him so. Unacceptable.
There is nothing cute about the term "miscarriage."
Please put up a ticker warning in your posts. As a former Feb-mother-to-be, I don't appreciate being reminded of how far along I should be when I am on this board with no warning whatsoever. Thank you for that courtesy.