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starting to discuss TTC #3--mini freak out...

Kat28655Kat28655
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DH is all about having a 3rd child. I'm on the fence. I'm tired, I'm concerned about my age and the impact that might have on the health of my child. I don't feel like I have a lot of time to make this decision. Any words of wisdom? FWIW, I'm 35 and DH is 40.
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Re: starting to discuss TTC #3--mini freak out...

  • NowDNAtooNowDNAtoo
    We had this mini-discussion the other day as I'm 40 and DH is 46 (almost 47), but we didn't come to a conclusion.  Our other 2 children are completely healthy and we are very thankful for that.  I am tired at times, but really enjoying my children and would love to see one of them have a same gender sibling.  My biggest concern is that I would have to go through an IUI again and/or need IVF and that we would end up with twins.
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker TTC #1 Cycle #18 m/c Jan. 9, 2007, chemical pg May 4, 2007, methotrexate shot Oct. 5, 2007--m/c Oct. 9, 2007, IUI Nov. 17, 2007 It worked! beta 11/30 & 12/6 TTC #2 Cycle #5 IUI July 20, 2009 -BFN 8-3-09 Cycle #6 IUI August 17, 2009-BFP! 8-31-09, beta 9-1-09, 9-8-09, saw the H/B 9-22-09 EDD 5-10-10
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  • kinsalebridekinsalebride

    i would talk openly with DH about what your concerns are and see what his perspective is on it since he is all for having a 3rd. maybe it'll help sway you one way or the other.

     for DH and I our plan was always to have only 2, god willing, and we just had our second daughter in May. I love our girls to death, but definitely would've loved a son also as i grew up in a family of 3 girls and just wanted to know what it'd be like to have a boy around. but DH and I feel like we have our hands full with 2 and don't want to change our lifestyle any further or stretch our finances to the hilt by adding a third. and the thought of being outnumbered scares me to death!

      best of luck in reaching a decision.

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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin

    I'm a little older and so are my kids, so we were in your shoes not too long ago.  DH was talking about #3 before #2 was even born and I was already exhausted!  But, as #2 got closer to 2 y/o, I could see #3 as a possibility.  I wish we'd started TTC around her 2nd bday b/c we're still TTC and now I"m really anxious to get my baby making years behind me.  I would just give it a little time, though.  Your baby is only 4 mos old, you're supposed to be tired now. IMO, 3 kids is easier when #1 and #2 are a little older.  DS is going off to KG this year and both are so independent, which is a mixed blessing.  It will be easier to add to the family, but harder to go back to the baby stage. Maybe planning to TTC when #1 is 4 will help a bit with the overwhelming feelings.  That way, when #3 arrives, #1 will be almost going to KG.  GL!

    DS1 age 7, DD age 5 and DS2 born 4/3/12
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