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husband is deployed and im 38 weeks pregnant

Mirsha Mirsha
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Hi everyone!

Well being pregnant is not easy....and now my husband is deployed. Im keeping my fingers crossed he gets R & R to be able to come home and see the delivery....we scheduled a c-section. But being a Military Wife I know things dont ever go as planned. Anyone else out there going through something similar?

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  • ames71ames71 member

    You'll find lots of women here dealing with the same thing and many who have already dealt with it. Mine has been deployed for all but the first couple of months of my pregnancy. He's home on leave right now and I'm a happy, happy girl, but unless the baby comes early he'll miss the birth too. 

    I hope it works out for you two and that he gets to be there, but prepare yourself for the chance that he won't. I've been keeping my expectations as low as possible and it seems to have helped so far. Hang in there!

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  • sophiab1sophiab1

    I know how you feel about hoping he makes it for the birth.  I just keep thinking that I'm lucky right now because I have family close by.  I can't imagine being alone and having to go through this.  Or having to deal with other children.

    Do you have someone lined up to help you after the c-section?  That is pretty scary going into that even with a good support system, I can't imagine alone!

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  • mollylilamollylila member
    imageames17:

    You'll find lots of women here dealing with the same thing and many who have already dealt with it. Mine has been deployed for all but the first couple of months of my pregnancy. He's home on leave right now and I'm a happy, happy girl, but unless the baby comes early he'll miss the birth too. 

    I hope it works out for you two and that he gets to be there, but prepare yourself for the chance that he won't. I've been keeping my expectations as low as possible and it seems to have helped so far. Hang in there!

     

    I'm in a similiar situation!!  Well DH left at about 5 months and has one week of leave a few weeks befofre I'm due, so unless I'm early he won't be seeing LO for a loooong time... (no talk of R&R yet, but still wouldn't likely be for the first 6 months of LO's life)

    To OP... Just keep your chin up, reach out, and enjoy your time with your baby. Good luck with everything!! 

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  • proudarmywife08proudarmywife08
    I was just in your shoes. Thankfully DH's R&R lined up with my due date thanks to his commander and my OB was willing to schedule and induction while he was home. I know that is not the norm though. I have done both pregnancies alone though, once while DH was in training and once while he was deployed. Its tough but definitely doable!
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  • feehan27feehan27
    I definitely know how you feel.  I am 30 weeks pregnant right now.  My husband was deployed in the beginning of my pregnancy and his deployment won't be over until next May.  As of right now my Dr will induce me when he gets his 2 week leave, which is only 3 days before my due date.  I want him home so bad but am trying not to get my hopes up because I know how the military is really good at changing everything last minute.  I also have this really bad feeling that I'm going to go early and have her before he gets home.  He says he would be okay with that just because it gives him more time with me and the baby afterwards before he has to go back, but its scary to think about doing it without him.  He has an older daughter from a previous relationship and was not involved in the pregnancy or labor at all, so I really want him to be here for all of this one!  Keeping my fingers crossed!Smile
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  • DuckLoverDuckLover

    My DH left when I was 37 weeks pregnant.  He was around for half of it. Lots of training and field ops.  Hes a Marine so he doesn't get R&R.  He wasnt supposed to meet DS till he was 6 weeks old but he was born with a life threatening defect so he was sent home on E Leave.  I totally know how you feel. It was so hard to go through labor, emergency c section and then finding out your newborn (who you were told was perfectly healthy) could die and then him having surgery and not being there because I was recovering still without DH.  But, I got through it. 

    Ill say that for my DH it was harder for him to leave because he had met his baby when he prepared himself all along to not meet him till later on. 

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  • AlenasMommy2010AlenasMommy2010
    My husband left 4 weeks ago, he has around another 4 weeks before he's home. He'll be here *hopefully* for the birth, but like you said, we aren't really guaranteed. Fingers crossed he's home for you girl!
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  • HopeFleetingHopeFleeting
    My hubby isn't deployed..But I was due July 1st.. and he got orders to be in Ft. Drum June 15th... lol.. Needless to say, I ended up staying behind while he moved up there...and now we've found out that he'll most likely be deployed again in January which leaves me going umm... Move to Ft. Drum and be by myself for a year with a baby... Move home to be around family.. or stay put down here by Ft. Hood where I at least know a handful of people... lol.... Decisions decisions!
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  • 1984mommy20041984mommy2004
    I did back in '08. My husband was deployed and did not make it back in time for our son to be born. Tankfully my mom made it up from Arizona which is 10 hrs away so I wouldnt be alone. Good luck and I really hope he can make it.
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