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holding your infant too much?

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i've gone back and forth on whether there's such a thing as holding/cuddling too much with your newborn.  nurses at the hospital say it's good to have a lot of skin to skin contact....i just don't want to make our baby one of those that can't/won't go to sleep unless she's in your arms all the time. 
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Re: holding your infant too much?

  • soon2beWhittysoon2beWhitty
    i believe that you can never hold them too much.   They are only little once, enjoy every minute of it.  I hold him whenever I can because there will be a day when it's no longer enough to sit with Mom, snuggle with Mom, or be anywhere in the same time zone as Mom.  I'm taking every minute I can while he'll still let me.
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  • KittenGatorKittenGator member
    No, it's impossible. They spend nine months inside of you, with your 24 hours a day. They're going to need to be held and you should not worry about spoiling them or creating habits. HTH!
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  • vanillacouragevanillacourage member
    You cannot hold your baby too much, unless they're obviously becoming more interested in the world around them and you're keeping them contained.  :)
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  • CoastieWife08CoastieWife08

    A newborn doesn't have the mental capacity to understand spoiling. 

    The nurses are right. It's called the 4th Trimester.  Your baby needs to adjust to life outside the womb. They don't really realize that they are seperate from you yet.  Get a sling or wrap to help free up your hands while you get some bonding time. ;)

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  • adhenashadhenash
    i don't really know...i cuddle and hold dd all of the time but she can be put down and hang out or put herself to sleep sometimes. but she does have her moments when she won't sleep unless she's cuddled.  so i say CUDDLE! they are only this small for a little while!
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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member
    Babies who get lots of mom's attention actually get ahead developmentally.  Don't worry about spoiling your newborn.
    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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  • lucky17bridelucky17bride
    Holding your child is apart of their security.  You cannot spoil a baby. 
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  • happytobemrs.mhappytobemrs.m
    Hold your baby as much as he/she wants. It will actually increase their sense of security.
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  • k8elee03k8elee03

    Not possible. It's just not possible.

    And, from what I've read from other moms on this board, there are some babies that do need to be held all the time. It seems that just happens sometimes and it doesn't seem like those moms did anything to cause it.

    For the first couple of weeks, Lily fell asleep on me, and anytime I tried to put her down, she woke up 10 minutes later. So I held her while she slept. At first it frustrated me. Then I thought, so what if I lay here and hold my baby all day? In the big picture, this is such a short period of time. And after the first couple of weeks, she would sleep longer when I put her down, but I just didn't want to.

    Now, here I am, back at work missing my little girl. But I'm glad that I can look back at those 10 weeks and maybe I didn't get much done, but I held my baby as often and as long as I could. KWIM?

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