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March 2011 Moms
I need some courage!
I am scared to death to tell my mom I'm pregnant! She is not your typical mother/grandmother. She hates kids actually - she already has five grandkids that she can't stand. In her defense, most of my nieces and nephews are very badly behaved teens. I'm very close to my mom, especially since I almost lost her to cancer a few years ago. I really shouldn't be so nervous to tell her but I am! I guess I just want her to be excited but I know she'll be disappointed and it's going to hurt. It just makes me kind of sad 
Does anyone else have any momma-drama or some advice?
Hope you are all doing well!
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Re: I need some courage!
I would be flat out honest with her and say
I know you don't like kids, I'm not expecting you to be someone your not, babysit, or do that kind of grandma stuff, How ever I would like your support, in what ever form you can give and it matters to me because I love you and we are close and I don't want this to drive us apart.
She may be more supportive if she knows you don't expect her to change for you. I hope that helps. I can't imagine what it would be like to not have mom support.
Wow... are you talking about my mom? We are totally in the same boat!
I told my mom a few days ago, and it did not go well. She just stood there with her arms crossed. My dad tried to make a few jokes but it was like crickets. I told DH that I wasn't expecting much out of her b/c she had always encouraged us to not have children, but I was disappointed when I got no response. It was awful. I was so upset... for 30 minutes, and then I was over it. You can't expect people to change unless they want to. I love my mom but will never understand her.
On the other hand, my MIL was excited enough for all four of our parents. She is great. My DH told her about my mom's lack of reaction, and she has been great about checking in on me.
My advice to you would be to not take it personal... as much as I know how difficult that can be.
I'm sorry and empathize with you!
I don't have any advice. I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry that you are in such a tough situation and I hope everything works out for you.
I'm pretty sure my MIL won't be happy to hear there's a LO on the way. She's made it clear that the two grandkids she already has are plenty and that SS is plenty for us and we should not have anymore....I think she is worried that we would ask her to watch LO all the time (she had DH niece the 1st year and SS often for a couple years when DH was dealing with divorce and being single dad).
I plan to do like PP suggested and tell her that we understand she may not be excited, but that we are and we do not plan to dump the LO on her. We will include her as much or as little as she is comfortable with. Here's hoping opinions change once she knows.
Good Luck!