Non-clicky: SEX!!

erino&chrish · July 2010

How often do you do the deed? And if you do it regularly, is it for DH, because you want to, etc....? We are only about once a week-wondering if this is the norm? (Edit: we are in our 30's, if that makes a difference!)

redhead2466 · July 2010

We are roughly the same, occasionally twice a week....however for us it is DH's schedule that affects how often we can do it. I work during the day and he is all over the place, so if he isn't working, he's sometimes very tired.

Once a week for sure, though.

a_chance2007 · July 2010

poor DH hasnt had any gotten any sex in over a month and a half... or longer! this pregnancy I have had absolutely NO sex drive what so ever. Before we got the BFP we would have sex at least once a week. usually more 2-3x a week.

eesome · July 2010

Once or twice a week, and I do it because I want to.
We only see each other on the weekends because of our crazy opposite schedules, so that's the only time we have, unfortunately.

Chrysallys · July 2010

It still sucks, thank you BF and tear. So we are lucky if we do it once or twice a month. I have no drive, at all, anyway.

erino&chrish · July 2010

Chrysallys:
It still sucks, thank you BF and tear. So we are lucky if we do it once or twice a month. I have no drive, at all, anyway.

Sorry to hear that. I don't have that much of a drive once we get LO to bed, clean up, etc....and I know DH is tired, too. We try to make a point of it and always have fun in the end, but it's almost like we do it to do it sometimes. Does that make sense?

ineffect · July 2010

We also do it rarely. Once a month, if even that. Not bc of sex drive. We both have it. I had a 3rd degree tear from the birth which was repaired rather badly, and it really REALLY has made sex horrible. Actually, it's quite painful. I have a lot of scar tissue. I would like to sue my OBGYN, but I don't have the money or the energy. She really messed me up in that way. Thankfully, I have a lovely and patient husband who loves me anyways. But, I feel bad for him.

punkfiction_v.3 · July 2010

at least 3-4x a week. bc we both want to lol

asgarrisi · July 2010

We are about every other week or so...sometimes once a week. This pregnancy has worn me out and DH is so tired from waking up early for his new job that by time 10 rolls around, we're actually ready for shut eye. Before I was preg., we'd be in the 2-3x/week category!! Can't wait for that to happen again...I miss it, we are just too tired, lol

earthboundmisfit · July 2010

Right now, I haven't had sex since January Indifferent

Hoping to change that soon, but nonpregnant it's usually only once a week since having my DD. But I've been on hormonal birth control for like 5 years and it really affects my libido. We are using nonhormonal IUD after DD2 is out so I hope that helps!

electricdoctor83 · July 2010

We used to do it a lot more than we do now. DH's schedule for work is pretty hectic and we often have opposite shifts so we don't get to sleep together hardly ever. He also started a undergraduate program along with his 50+ hours at work so sleep is hard to come by for him. I think he'd rather sleep than put any energy into sex.

I initiate most of action going around in our home.

erino&chrish · July 2010

electricdoctor83:

We used to do it a lot more than we do now. DH's schedule for work is pretty hectic and we often have opposite shifts so we don't get to sleep together hardly ever. He also started a undergraduate program along with his 50+ hours at work so sleep is hard to come by for him. I think he'd rather sleep than put any energy into sex.

I initiate most of action going around in our home.

This is us!

excitedforlittleone · July 2010

Maybe once a week? More like once every two weeks. It's kind of hard though because I work nightshift and every other weekend. We are more of cuddlers though lol.

ali-1411 · July 2010

Depends. Some weeks we go every night and some weeks we don't at all. Lately, it hasn't been at all because I think my new birth control pills have killed my sex drive. But sometimes we'll plop the kids in front of the tv on a Saturday afternoon and lock our door for a quickie.

gbtc01 · July 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
at least 3-4x a week. bc we both want to lol

We do too sometimes even as much as 5x's a week

LawLove08 · July 2010

Well, we're TTC right now, so that's a different story. ?But during "ordinary" times, once or twice a week.

DH would like to do it more, but I had a 3rd degree tear with Matthew, and sex is still painful, especially the first few minutes. ?So sometimes it's hard to get myself motivated to deal with the pain until it becomes fun.?

tarebear9891 · July 2010

Pretty frequently. Only because my husband likes to play 'let's make a deal" where we have sex and he takes the night wake-ups. His idea not mine but I totally love the deal I get. He figured out fast that the less tired I am the more I want sex lol.

erino&chrish · July 2010

tarebear9891:
Pretty frequently. Only because my husband likes to play 'let's make a deal" where we have sex and he takes the night wake-ups. His idea not mine but I totally love the deal I get. He figured out fast that the less tired I am the more I want sex lol.

LOL-totally worth it! Your family is beautiful BTW!

AngelLuver_02 · July 2010

3-4 times a week because we both want too and make a point of making time for each other.

tarebear9891 · July 2010

erino&chrish:
tarebear9891:
Pretty frequently. Only because my husband likes to play 'let's make a deal" where we have sex and he takes the night wake-ups. His idea not mine but I totally love the deal I get. He figured out fast that the less tired I am the more I want sex lol.
LOL-totally worth it! Your family is beautiful BTW!

Aw thank you:) And we both think we get the good end of the deal so it works for us lol.

grinsandgiggles · July 2010

I had a really bad tear and things just aren't comfortable for me. It was sadly about once a month, but I hope to start TTC this winter. We're trying to do it more to see if I can get more comfortable (and well, because we need it in our marriage). I have zero sex drive too, so that doesn't help. Now we're doing it about once a week.

violetvirgo · July 2010

5x/week usually. we both initiate - we both give in to the other sometimes. it always is awesome in the end. there times we go through little bouts of only 1-2x/week, but it's not the norm.

we're in our late 20s.

ksugrl84 · July 2010

Around 1x a week to 1x every two weeks. Sex drive has a lot to do with it, we just seem to have opposite schedules when it comes to the deed. And with us its always one thing or another, for example I was gone for a confrence for almost a week and came back and he had a terrible sinus infection and by the time he felt better he was scheduled to get his wisdom teeth out. Things like that have been happening to us since we started dating. Also the paranoia of getting PG again, I am on the pill but if it was up to me (and its not) he would be wearing a condom and pulling out. Really not ready for another LO right now.

*Caress* · July 2010

We do the deed at least 3-4 times a week. If it was up to DH we'd do it 6-7 days a week. I don't mind 3-4 times, but 5-7 is a bit too tiring.

Jen748 · July 2010

Maybe once a week but DH works weird hours so he isn't home three days a week and if things are going on on those other nights, sometimes it just doesn't happen.