No Baby Shower Please

sjcoregon6 · July 2010

Anybody else out there not want a baby shower?

bigbeckstl · July 2010

I don't. After my wedding, I realized how much you get caught up in the moment and request things you will never use.

Hyfagal · July 2010

I'm not going to turn away gifts from people that want to give them.

rms55 · July 2010

I don't want a shower, but I'm not sure I count since this is my second baby. With my first, my MIL threw my shower, which was lovely. However, no one from my side of the family came because I was not married and pregnant. I just don't want my side to throw me a shower because 1, I think showers for second kids are tacky, and 2, they weren't there to support me the first time.

christyp80 · July 2010

I do want a baby shower, but I get a little apprehensive wondering who is going to plan it. My family lives halfway across the country, and I'm the first of my local friends to have a baby, so they're not really used to throwing these things. One more thing to worry about... Stick out tongue

LipstickLibrarian · July 2010

This is my second LO, so no showers this time, but I also didn't have a shower when I was PG with DD. I just don't enjoy being the center of attention like that - I learned this at my bridal shower. I'm kind of shy and the whole scene made me a bit uncomfortable.

sjcoregon6 · July 2010

LipstickLibrarian:
This is my second LO, so no showers this time, but I also didn't have a shower when I was PG with DD. I just don't enjoy being the center of attention like that - I learned this at my bridal shower. I'm kind of shy and the whole scene made me a bit uncomfortable.

Thats what I fouInd out from my bridal shower too. My DH thinks its silly not to have one but he did not have to sit through the bridal shower. If ppl want to give gifts I would accept them but to have a shower for more things I can buy myself seems silly (and uncomfortable).

johannaknip · July 2010

I do, but not for the gifts. We have been trying for this baby for quite a while. If I actually make it that far, I will want to celebrate!

sjcoregon6 · July 2010

johannaknip:
I do, but not for the gifts. We have been trying for this baby for quite a while. If I actually make it that far, I will want to celebrate!

Thats the best reason for a baby shower I have ever heard! Congrats!

SBear12 · July 2010

I definitely understand hating to be the center of attention... never my favorite thing. But my mom and DH convinced me that the people who love us really appreciate having the chance to celebrate the upcoming baby with us. And it's true... I love going to showers for good friends/family.

So we did a laidback BBQ in lieu of a more traditional shower, made it coed (including kids), and more of an "open house" so people could come and go as they please. And that worked out really well for us. Plus I SO appreciated all the gifts we got... there was absolutely nothing we didn't end up using. Another option is to have a "meet the baby" type party after the baby's born, but only if you're okay with many, many people wanting to touch and hold your new LO.

All that to say, there are other options, even if you don't like the idea of a more traditional, girls-only shower. Oh and I should add, I definitely won't be having one this time, because I agree with PP that 2nd showers are a bit tacky (at least where I live, that's the general consensus).

bre87 · July 2010

i don't mind a shower but i HATE baby shower games. so i told my friends to just think about maybe having a lunch somewhere or just a good get together, like a PP said with the bbq.

i have heard about the meet the baby parties but that seems a little difficult to get set up with a newborn in the house. but i have heard great things about them because people come and go as they please.

AnneEB · July 2010

We got pregnant with DS about 3 months after we got married, so I was so embarrassed to ask the same friends/coworkers/family who had just gotten me a bridal shower gift and wedding gift to now get me a baby gift. So I kept it so small, I think only 10 people were there.

Beccaboo0713 · July 2010

LipstickLibrarian:
This is my second LO, so no showers this time, but I also didn't have a shower when I was PG with DD. I just don't enjoy being the center of attention like that - I learned this at my bridal shower. I'm kind of shy and the whole scene made me a bit uncomfortable.

I complete agree. I had 3 last time and I hated it! I am so happy that this pregnancy will be shower free.

JCragg · July 2010

My kind of thread. Nope. In fact I have told the grandparents if they try their grandparenting rights will be revoked. I am an event planner by nature and dispise the tackiness of a shower. The tacky games, women only, the gift opening and having to act surprised or happy. No thank you. I am having an open house, or a sip and see hosted by my husband and I. One party for everyone to come to if they want and at any time.

monlyn9 · July 2010

Beccaboo0713:
LipstickLibrarian:
This is my second LO, so no showers this time, but I also didn't have a shower when I was PG with DD. I just don't enjoy being the center of attention like that - I learned this at my bridal shower. I'm kind of shy and the whole scene made me a bit uncomfortable.
I complete agree. I had 3 last time and I hated it! I am so happy that this pregnancy will be shower free.

I agree. As much as I appreciate the generosity of my family and friends, after having a huge bridal shower and then 3 baby showers a year and a half later, I am very glad to be done with all of that.

seachelle417 · July 2010

I do and I don't. I definitely want to celebrate and I know that once they all find out, my relatives will want to celebrate too (I'm having the first great-grandchild, so all of my grandparents and aunts and cousins will be excited...they've been pestering me about when it's gonna happen!). The only problem is that MIL made my bridal shower a planning NIGHTMARE for my sister (MOH) and my mom, because MIL "knows best" when it comes to planning parties. I know my sister is already on the defensive about her and is more likely to handle it quickly, but MIL can be very bad-tempered and VERY passive-aggressive.

liannemarie82 · July 2010

I have a few of my close friends that I have told already telling me that they want to give me one. I am not objecting to it, this is number 3, but I have been told that you are able to have another if it has been 5 years from your first, which it has. So I was not planning on having anymore, and I gave away almost everything. So I will be one to say that I do not mind gifts, and I don't mind attention either. Just my personality I am guessing.

JayKay2387 · July 2010

I totally agree on not having a baby shower for #2. However my best friend won't let up - I have plenty of time for her to understand I just fell it's tacky lol. But, we do plan on having a BBQ or some other party more for like a "Come and see baby" after he/she is born. We did the same thing with DD for both sides of the family and our friends and it was very casual, we stated no presents on the invitation also.

greyt00 · July 2010

I want one but not sure I will get one. I just don't think anyone is going to throw it for me. I don't have a lot of friends, especially in my town. Even if someone does throw one I barely have enough people to invite. I'm prepared for the possibility of just not having one, and I'm trying to be happy with that because this pregnancy is such a miracle that all i really want is for everything to work out.

LA_Badger · July 2010

We feel the same. If anything, I like the idea of making it a family get together and celebration - sans gifts. We'd rather take care of those things on our own...we're not registering (nor did we for our wedding). Time with family is much more important to us.

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