Tired mommy, any suggestions appreciated.

msnehz · July 2010

Our daughter would sleep straight for 5 hours at night then wakes up crying in her crib. We pick her up and bring her to bed with us because after that she pretty much wakes up every hour wanting to comfort nurse. We are both feeling exhausted and not sure what to do. Any advice/suggestions?

Jen1231 · July 2010

How old is your LO?

Have you tried any methods of CIO?

Depending on how old she is she should be able to sttn without having to nurse. We need more info about you LO. Smile

EDIT: Scratch that I saw her age in your ticker. By 6 months Mason was sttn and I was still nursing, so it can be done. If you let her cry when she wakes in the middle of the night do you think that she will go back to sleep?

beckyanddon · July 2010

you may have to CIO a bit and limit the comfort nursing.

do you use a passy or a lovie?

i cant help past that we just took out the 11pm feeding and my LO sleeps from 8pm to about 7am... we do let him cio if he wakes at night unless he is screaming his head off.

Temp785382312506150 · July 2010

I wish I could help - I didn't get to bed last night until 4 am and that's only because DH took over then to let me sleep. After midnight, DD just refuses to sleep.

I'm looking forward to the other responses because I could use some help in the sleep department, too!

msnehz · July 2010

Jen1231:

How old is your LO?

Have you tried any methods of CIO?

Depending on how old she is she should be able to sttn without having to nurse. We need more info about you LO.

EDIT: Scratch that I saw her age in your ticker. By 6 months Mason was sttn and I was still nursing, so it can be done. If you let her cry when she wakes in the middle of the night do you think that she will go back to sleep?

I don't know if she will. She cries screaming so we end up picking her up from her crib. I'm worried that she might wake up completely in the middle of the night if we don't pick her up and let her keep crying.

msnehz · July 2010

beckyanddon:

you may have to CIO a bit and limit the comfort nursing.

do you use a passy or a lovie?

i cant help past that we just took out the 11pm feeding and my LO sleeps from 8pm to about 7am... we do let him cio if he wakes at night unless he is screaming his head off.

No she hates pacifiers and just gets even madder if I do switcheroo on her. She doesn't have a lovie or anything in her crib either. Without comfor nursing she starts screaming her head off :-(

beckyanddon · July 2010

my little man loves his seahorse and his lovie... he never sleeps with the passy

is your LO teething?? check that out because a little tylenol or teething tablets may do the trick

my LO doesnt have any poking through yet but the DR said he is most likley in pain due to the redness of his gums a little tylenol usually does the trick to soothe him

msnehz · July 2010

beckyanddon:

my little man loves his seahorse and his lovie... he never sleeps with the passy

is your LO teething?? check that out because a little tylenol or teething tablets may do the trick

my LO doesnt have any poking through yet but the DR said he is most likley in pain due to the redness of his gums a little tylenol usually does the trick to soothe him

I thought of that since she did have one bottom tooth partly out since last week. But I checked her gums and they don't seem to be red or inflamed. I didn't want to just give her tylenol if she doesnt need it.

Momachama · July 2010

Try patting her on the back/shusshing her to sleep. If she crys after 5-10min of this make sure she is fully awake to nurse(not in your bed). Then put her back in the crib and shush/pat till she falls asleep. If she is screaming pick her up to comfort, but put her back once she calms down. This has worked well for me so far Smile

msnehz · July 2010

Momachama:
Try patting her on the back/shusshing her to sleep. If she crys after 5-10min of this make sure she is fully awake to nurse(not in your bed). Then put her back in the crib and shush/pat till she falls asleep. If she is screaming pick her up to comfort, but put her back once she calms down. This has worked well for me so far

We tried the patting/shusshing but didn't get to do them for very long since she would cry harder and gets madder. Putting her in bed with us was our last resort since we're both overly tired and end up like walking zombies at work.

first-time-mama · July 2010

beckyanddon:
you may have to CIO a bit and limit the comfort nursing.

do you use a passy or a lovie?

i cant help past that we just took out the 11pm feeding and my LO sleeps from 8pm to about 7am... we do let him cio if he wakes at night unless he is screaming his head off.

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NovemberNZ · July 2010

My DS would much rather sleep with us too, but I rarely let him. I have found that keeping him on a schedule really improves how he sleeps. He goes to sleep around 8:00, wakes up around 2:30 (sometimes 3:30, 4:30 or 5:30) and then normally wakes up every 2-3hours after his first waking. Sometimes he is up just twice, most of the time 3 times. I just nurse him and put him back in his crib after 10minutes of nursing and he will go right back down. If I trying rocking, patting, shushing... he screams his little eye balls out.

soccermom-to-be · July 2010

Sounds to me like you have a very smart DD who knows that if she cries hard enough you will pick her up and bring her into bed with you.

I know it's tough when they awake in the middle of the night and you will do anything to get them back to sleep but unless you plan to co-sleep/bed share (which is fine but doesn't sound as if this is your ultimate plan) you will probably want to nip this in the bud.

CIO can be very hard on the parents but it does work (at least it did for both my girls) and I think it's something you might want to consider trying. It takes a commitment on both your parts but I honestly believe that a few days of crying (for both you and baby) is worth it in the long term. Both my girls have STTN since they were 6 months old. My DH and I both work so there was no way we could survive on such little sleep.

If it's teething then you will need to wait but if it's just 'I want mommy' then I would recommend researching methods and going with the one that you're comfortable with. We did our own 'Ferber' and it worked very well. Cry 3 mins, go in, rub back (no talking), walk out and say 'I love you' while shutting the door. Wait 8 mins, repeat above. Wait 12 mins, repeat. Wait 15 mins repeat. Both girls took pacis and I never put them back in b/c then it would train them to wake up when they lost it in the middle of the night.

With DD1 it took us 3 nights and with DD2 it took one night.

Good luck.

msnehz · July 2010

soccermom-to-be:

Sounds to me like you have a very smart DD who knows that if she cries hard enough you will pick her up and bring her into bed with you.

I know it's tough when they awake in the middle of the night and you will do anything to get them back to sleep but unless you plan to co-sleep/bed share (which is fine but doesn't sound as if this is your ultimate plan) you will probably want to nip this in the bud.

CIO can be very hard on the parents but it does work (at least it did for both my girls) and I think it's something you might want to consider trying. It takes a commitment on both your parts but I honestly believe that a few days of crying (for both you and baby) is worth it in the long term. Both my girls have STTN since they were 6 months old. My DH and I both work so there was no way we could survive on such little sleep.

If it's teething then you will need to wait but if it's just 'I want mommy' then I would recommend researching methods and going with the one that you're comfortable with. We did our own 'Ferber' and it worked very well. Cry 3 mins, go in, rub back (no talking), walk out and say 'I love you' while shutting the door. Wait 8 mins, repeat above. Wait 12 mins, repeat. Wait 15 mins repeat. Both girls took pacis and I never put them back in b/c then it would train them to wake up when they lost it in the middle of the night.

With DD1 it took us 3 nights and with DD2 it took one night.

Good luck.

When did you start doing Ferber? Is it for puttting them to bed at night or for middle of the night wakings?

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