Ugh...My BD...Vent!!!

Mama_of_Four · July 2010

Im a single teen mom(18) & i never cared that im single. I have the support of everyone in my family. So while i was pregnant I never once asked my BD(baby daddy) for anything for the baby. He just never cared he has other kids that he doesn't take care of(i know. i got pregnant because the condom broke) anywho well my baby is now going to be 4 weeks old. He was born with a very small jaw & tongue. He has a trackeostomy & a G.tube. He's been in the hospital since he was born. & his dad does not care! At first i didn't mind because i thought he was going to be healthy & stuff(which he is healthy of everything else. he's a 42weeker) But now that my son is sick & hasnt came home. had surgery a week after he was born & again yesterday & his dad does not give a fu*k about it. When he was born i texted him to let him know! Then i sent a pic & the baby had all types of oxygen tubes & feeding tubes! He never called to ask why or he never text back! i call him the day of his first suregery to let him know he tells me "okay well keep me updated" wtf is that? ask why & to see him dont tell me to keep you updated. i seen him last week saturday you know what he says "Oh my God your out tonight?" how about you ask how your sick son is? im just so mad & it hurts me to know that someday when my son is older he will ask about his "dad" & will ask if his dad seen him while he was sick & stuff. Its going to break my heart to tell him "no baby your dad wasn't there" He hasnt even tried to come meet him!

im so glad i have the support of my family because having a baby with a trackeostomy & a G.tube is hard. Very hard i dont know how ive been doing it this past month! I love my son with all ive got & more. & i dont understand how some people just dont care about their kids! I just HATE how he just does not care about his OWN blood. He NEVER even told his family about this baby!

im sorry im just so upset that i had to let someone know! Thanks for letting me vent well ramble. Im so mad i dont even think any of this made sense! lol i just typed everything that ive been thinking about this whole month!

On the other hand seeing my son grow everyday & smile just makes me feel soo much better! i wish he was just home with me right now(still in the hospital) & i cant wait until he comes home. It should be SOON within the next few weeks!

SORRY SO LONG!

BMenz · July 2010

not to (possibly) be the bearer of bad news, but have you ever wondered if maybe he was scared that because ds is so sick he might have died and that's why he's pushing himself away and that he's scared to see all of the tubes that he's hooked up to?

yeah it's douchey to act this way, but have you asked to see db in person and talk with him over what scares him the most?

Mama2S-K-M · July 2010

BMenz:

not to (possibly) be the bearer of bad news, but have you ever wondered if maybe he was scared that because ds is so sick he might have died and that's why he's pushing himself away and that he's scared to see all of the tubes that he's hooked up to?

yeah it's douchey to act this way, but have you asked to see db in person and talk with him over what scares him the most?

He has other kids he doesn't take care of...is he scared of them too? Huh?

OP: He is never going to change. He's an a$$ who goes around populating the world with children he has no intention of taking care of. Lesson learned. All you can do is move on and take care of your little boy, who is ADORABLE by the way! I'm glad you have your family to help you.

I was a single mom at 18 and it's not easy, but you can do it.

Mama_of_Four · July 2010

BMenz:

not to (possibly) be the bearer of bad news, but have you ever wondered if maybe he was scared that because ds is so sick he might have died and that's why he's pushing himself away and that he's scared to see all of the tubes that he's hooked up to?

yeah it's douchey to act this way, but have you asked to see db in person and talk with him over what scares him the most?

I doubt it that he's scared. Because while i was pregnant he had "plans" to leave to a different state the month of my due date. & DS wasn't sick enough to die. He's actually healthy. Everything other then his Jaw & Tongue are noramal full term baby size. it was just that his jaw & tongue wouldnt let him breathe & eat. & i told him that he doesn't have tubes anymore. Just one which is just a humidifier since he has the trackeostomy & he breathes room air. The room air is really dry. His G.tube(feeding tube) i can detach it & he doesn't have it. I also seen him in person last sat & he didn't even ask about the baby. If he really cared i think he would at least call to check up on DS or he would have asked me to see a picture & how hes doing when i seen him in person.

BMenz · July 2010

Mama2S-K-M:
BMenz:

not to (possibly) be the bearer of bad news, but have you ever wondered if maybe he was scared that because ds is so sick he might have died and that's why he's pushing himself away and that he's scared to see all of the tubes that he's hooked up to?

yeah it's douchey to act this way, but have you asked to see db in person and talk with him over what scares him the most?

He has other kids he doesn't take care of...is he scared of them too?

OP: He is never going to change. He's an a$$ who goes around populating the world with children he has no intention of taking care of. Lesson learned. All you can do is move on and take care of your little boy, who is ADORABLE by the way! I'm glad you have your family to help you.

I was a single mom at 18 and it's not easy, but you can do it.

whoa. totally didn't even see that part....not enough paragraphs!

i recant my previous post. he's an a$$ and either needs to step it up (not likely to happen) or move on yourself

Mama_of_Four · July 2010

Yessss! I know this & im a dumba$$ for even messing around with him! because i've known him for years & i know about how he doesn't take care of his other kids. But i did learn my lesson! Yes thats what im going to do now. & thanks thats all i hear the nurses say! "oh hes so cute. oh look at his hair." lol

Mama_of_Four · July 2010

BMenz:
Mama2S-K-M:
BMenz:

not to (possibly) be the bearer of bad news, but have you ever wondered if maybe he was scared that because ds is so sick he might have died and that's why he's pushing himself away and that he's scared to see all of the tubes that he's hooked up to?

yeah it's douchey to act this way, but have you asked to see db in person and talk with him over what scares him the most?

He has other kids he doesn't take care of...is he scared of them too?

OP: He is never going to change. He's an a$$ who goes around populating the world with children he has no intention of taking care of. Lesson learned. All you can do is move on and take care of your little boy, who is ADORABLE by the way! I'm glad you have your family to help you.

I was a single mom at 18 and it's not easy, but you can do it.

whoa. totally didn't even see that part....not enough paragraphs!

i recant my previous post. he's an a$$ and either needs to step it up (not likely to happen) or move on yourself

Yea sorry about my typing. When i type i just go on & on that i dont even realize. & yea he won't step up.

carrieannew · July 2010

File for child support and go on with raising your son. He is a douche and will always be a douche. If the fact that his son was having surgery at such a young age did not get him to come there, nothing will.

I give you lots of credit. I was a young mother with my daughter and honestly if she had any sort of complications I really do not know how I would hold it together.

Honestly you do not need him. Just make sure you cover yourself legally and get him to pay support.

Mama_of_Four · July 2010

carrieannew:

File for child support and go on with raising your son. He is a douche and will always be a douche. If the fact that his son was having surgery at such a young age did not get him to come there, nothing will.

I give you lots of credit. I was a young mother with my daughter and honestly if she had any sort of complications I really do not know how I would hold it together.

Honestly you do not need him. Just make sure you cover yourself legally and get him to pay support.

Thanks! I dont know how im doing it either! & He doesn't work just so that he WONT have to pay child support. One of his other baby mamas has him on child support. He went to jail for it & got out because he hasnt been working. Then he found a temp job in da begining of the year so he can get taxes back & when he found out they would send his refund to her he quit & he never even filed. He also said he wants to give up his rights to that baby so he won't have to pay for child support.

mrgn · July 2010

carrieannew:
File for child support and go on with raising your son. He is a douche and will always be a douche. If the fact that his son was having surgery at such a young age did not get him to come there, nothing will.

I give you lots of credit. I was a young mother with my daughter and honestly if she had any sort of complications I really do not know how I would hold it together.

Honestly you do not need him. Just make sure you cover yourself legally and get him to pay support.

Carrie I you.

This is EXACTLY what I would have said. (Except, I am a young mother.) It's incredible that you've held onto your strength through this with your baby. Definitely impressive for anyone, nevermind an 18 year old.

Mama_of_Four · July 2010

mrgn:
carrieannew:

File for child support and go on with raising your son. He is a douche and will always be a douche. If the fact that his son was having surgery at such a young age did not get him to come there, nothing will.

I give you lots of credit. I was a young mother with my daughter and honestly if she had any sort of complications I really do not know how I would hold it together.

Honestly you do not need him. Just make sure you cover yourself legally and get him to pay support.

Carrie I you.

This is EXACTLY what I would have said. (Except, I am a young mother.) It's incredible that you've held onto your strength through this with your baby. Definitely impressive for anyone, nevermind an 18 year old.

Thanks!

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