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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
First post. Miscarriage after baby loss
Hi all. New here. I lost Cora as a newborn. I got pregnant in June and miscarried earlier this month. I, well, I don't even know what to feel/think/do about the miscarriage. It's like I was so deeply grieving Cora it doesn't even register.
Anyone in this sad club of a miscarriage after a baby's death? Just wondering if one day it will hit me hard, you know.
Here's all about Cora in case anyone was wondering:
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Re: First post. Miscarriage after baby loss
Twin boys born too early at 17w4d and 18w2d in February 2010
Transabdominal cerclage placed September 2010
DS born at 35w1d in February 2011
Twin girls born at exactly 36w in February 2013
We love and miss you Jillian (18w) and Peanut (6w). Welcome to our TAC miracle Jacob!
Ditto this. Wow. Just wow. My heart is so broken for you. I can't even imagine what you went through and are continuing to go through. Cora was so beautiful and you sound like such a wonderful mom! My T&P are with you. Please keep us updated with how you're doing.
BFP #1: 07/10/2009, Missed m/c, D&C 08/12/2009
BFP #2: 01/31/2010, Identical Twins died in utero due to TTTS, D&E 05/19/2010
BFP #3: 09/16/2010, natural m/c 9/21/2010
PCOS & Bocornuate Uterus Dx 1.4.2011
BFP #4: 01/11/2011
I am so so sorry for all that you have been through. I can imagine going through something that traumatic would affect how a miscarriage is hitting you. I haven't had a miscarriage, but I know that my grief for my daughter comes in tidal waves. I will feel like I am finally coping okay and then it will al hit me like a ton of bricks again. Cora is so beautiful. You and your husband will be in my prayers. ((hugs))
I'm so sorry for both of your losses. My heart goes out to you. I hope you can find support and comfort from this board. T&P's send your way.
I have no words for you.
Since my D&C I've pulled away from The Bump some, it's too hard and I need to move on.
But for you I had to say I'm praying for you and hope that one day I am half the mom you are!!
I am so sorry for your losses. I can't imagine how painful it must have been for you.
I'm glad you are using this experience to reach out to others through your website and blog. DH traveled to El Salvador earlier this year with the Gift of Life organization to help the babies and children there with heart defects, so the cause is near and dear to us, too.
T&P for you through this difficult time.
BFP 5/9/10. U/S - no heartbeat 6/2/10 (7 weeks). Induced miscarriage 6/7/10.
Chemical pregnancies 12/2/10, 1/3/11, and 2/7/11.
dx: RPL due to poor quality uterine lining; begin progesterone January 2011
BFP 3/10/11. EDD 11/19/11. E arrived 11/15/11!
Loss Blog | Life Blog
I am sooo sorry. My heart breaks reading your story. Lets spread the word...Big hugs to your losses...
Im so incredibly sorry for your loss. A loss is a loss no matter how early/late in pregnancy or after it is.. I pray that you are able to find peace and comfort.. I have lost three babies (7,8, and 18 wks) and it is devastating.
I just want to reach through the computer and give you a big ol hug!
Remembering Evelyn and raising Bailey
Evelyn Born at 24wks 6days on May 22, 2010 due to pre-e Passed away May 25, 2010
BFP# 2 Delivered 6wks early due to preeclampsia
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I lost my son (1 day old) just three weeks ago and I don't know how I would handle having a miscarriage after such an extreme loss. My thoughts are with you and your family. (I do think you will find this website to be a comfort.)
I'm so sorry you are going through all this. My first baby was stillborn when I was 5 months pregnant. We waited a few months and I got pg again but had an early m/c (at about 7 and a half weeks). It was so different, I had delivered my son and held him and have pictures of him but with the m/c I was spotting then bleeding...there was a heartbeat at 6 weeks 5 day and then a week later there was nothing. I had misoprostal and had a m/c at home. It was so different...I was so wrapped up in the death of our son. In fact, I only talk about the m/c occasionally but when people ask how many kids I have I always refer to my son. It was still a loss and I get that and had it been my only loss I would feel differently I think but compared to holding my baby in my arms it was completely different.
I don't know if it will ever hit you hard...it's been 3 years since my son died and 2 and a half since the m/c...I still feel the same about it...it was sad but just not the same. I will say, that since having my daughter my views on pregnancy have changed...maybe having a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby has changed my thoughts. My pregnancy with her was hard and stressful...but I went to the dr. weekly and just tried so hard to stay positive. Now, I am pg again and sometimes I forget I'm pg. I never thought I would be able to have a "blissfully ignorant pregnancy" again but I'm as close as I'll ever be. Part of my calmness is in knowing my daughter was perfectly healthy and survived so there is no reason it can't happen again and part of my calmness is because my husband and I survived the death of our son and heaven forbid it happens again, I know we could survive that too.
Give yourself time and feel the feelings you need to feel but in my experience (we go to support group still so I meet lots of parents who have had a loss) the experience is not the same and should be grieved differently.
I am going to read your story now but if you ever want to talk, you can PM me or send me an email. amy1189 at gmail dot com.