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mcmann05
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When DH is messier than the kids? (daycare kids) I'd REALLY love it if it wasn't like pulling teeth to get him to clean something?!
He does do laundry but that's IT and normally, it's only his!
I'm gonna pull my hair out!
I think he thinks since A. I work from home that that means I have to do it ALL and B. he was raised where his Mom did it ALL!
We never ran into this problem until I started the daycare a year ago!
ETA: I NEVER ask him to clean anything daycare related!
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Re: Does anyone else LOVE (Sarcasm noted)
Tyler Anthony arrived on 9.21.09
The Chronicles of Justin and Tyler
So you never ran into this problem before because YOU were doing it all before? If you haven't already, I must recommend a book called The five love languages. Both of you should read it. Its an eye opener and its funny how certain things I didn't notice before. It should give your DH some clue.
Hope you have a library card to check it out. Why people behave a certain way has a lot to do with their personality. Have you ever noticed the messiest person just happens to be a very jolly and friendly person who loves hanging out with people? They are also always forgetting things because they are not detail oriented. Which of the four do you think is your husband is?
Choleric: This is the commander-type. Cholerics are dominant, strong, decisive, stubborn and even arrogant.
Melancholy: This is the mental-type. Their typical behaviour involves thinking, assessing, making lists, evaluating the positives and negatives, and general analysis of facts.
Sanguine: This is the social-type. They enjoy fun, socialising, chatting, telling stories - and are fond of promising the world, because that's the friendly thing to do.
Phlegmatic: This is the flat-type. They are easy going, laid back, nonchalant, unexcitable and relaxed. Desiring a peaceful environment above all else.
This are 4 types of personality discussed in a book called Personality plus by Florence Littauer. I would suggest you read that one too if you get a chance.
Awesome! Thanks, great rec. I'll have to check it out when I go to my weekly library trip tomorrow.
The funny thing is, that I'M the messy one. :-) HE just likes to complain about how dirty is and only until it gets to a certain level will he actually chip in. BEFORE now, he was the one that pulled the cleaning weight because when we lived in Germany...it was new to me being a wife and I was an only child who grew up doing no cleaning of my own. THEN, we moved to Florida and I was the bread winner while he was in school. I just don't know what's going on now that we're back in Ohio. I'm thinking it has to do with the daycare, that he thinks ALL the cleaning falls on me now since the kids mess up at least 90% of the stuff. It's just that I do ALL the toy cleaning and picking up (which duh, IS my job) and I do ALL the dishes because 75% of those are from daycare which is yet again MY job....but...
I don't know, I was just so annoyed since I'm doing a massive cleaning today and he's sitting on his butt.
OK, you officially win! :-) My DH works 40 hours a week but he doesn't get paid for that many (long story) and I work almost 60! He should still be volunteering to do more and it drives me crazy. Good luck! I would keep pushing if it were me.
Ha! I met my DH at work years ago. Oh at his desk he had everything so organized! He had me fooled! He's not a lazy person, he just appears that way cuz when he puts in mind to something it gets done. But I can never tell him to do anything! He is very resistant to me "telling" vs "requesting" to get something done. I don't know if its a man thing or what.. I am far from being bossy. But sometimes men really are clueless. If they do what needs to be done and when it needs to be done, none us would have to NAG! Hehehe! I hate nagging btw.
YES, YES, YES! This is my DH exactly! All of it! I hate nagging too therefore most of the time I just end up doing it myself. I think we are going to all out have a scream fight one night about my "asking". lol
OMG my DH was exactly opposite. For example, when he used to live with his parents he always had to make his bed and had plenty chores to do in the house to help out! So ever since he has been independent, he hadn't had to do it so he doesn't. You would think having done chores all the time he would be likely to keep up the habit. Not so. He knows how but it doesn't bother him if things are laying around and not put away.
I on the other hand, grew up spoiled in Bangladesh where we had servants to cook our food, wash our clothes and do our chores in the house. If you have a decent income you can afford to live pretty comfortably. My sole responsibility was being a good student and make the parents proud. So I never had a habit of making the bed and even after I moved here I still don't make the bed!
Except when I feel like it. Hehehe!
YEP, this sounds like my DH up-bringing. However, he moved out when he was 18 and became a neat freak with his roommates. Then, joined the army so it didn't get any better. But for some reason it's like something clicked in his brain and now he just does NOTHING at home....ok, the laundry and even then it piles up until it takes over our bedroom (I go on strike with the laundry). lol
Sorry, my DH always does the laundry! Though he's not excellent at putting them away, but I guess I could/should do that! Hehehe! But I must say I am too busy "bump"-ing here.. hehehe! Who wants to do chores while I can have fun talking to you great gals!