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Daycare Issue- Please Help...

happytobemrs.mhappytobemrs.m
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DD is going to start daycare on the 27th...

 

Here is the problem. She still likes to be held A LOT. Not constantly, but dor a good portion of the day.

She hasn't started a lot of self-play yet because she hasn't grasped at a toy yet.

My concern is that I know that 2-3 daycare employees with 10+ kids are not going to be able to hold her as much as I do and understandably so) but I don't want DD crying all day either.

Do you plan on or did you start holding DC less in prep for daycare? I know this sounds stupid but she only likes to be in her bouncer for a few minutes max, only lasts on her activity mat for a few minutes and other than that she is always wanting to be held. (Which I love, but I know that she can't go on like this.)

Oh how I wish I could be a SAHM...

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  • vanillacouragevanillacourage member
    At our daycare they do actually hold the babies a lot of the day - because the older babies are more content in a bouncy chair, or crawling around on a mat, or playing around with each other.
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  • JustMarried2005JustMarried2005

    I wouldn't change anything with her these last few weeks...you don't want your last few weeks with her at home to be screaming.  I do think she will get better about independant play as she gets older, and there might even be a huge improvement in the next few weeks.  Once they hit that 3+ month mark, they are so much happier and easier.

    She might have a rough start in the beginning at daycare, but most kids acclimate pretty quickly.

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  • b&r2006b&r2006
    Have you talked to the daycare about your concerns? If most of the kids are older (crawling, walking), they might be able to hold your DD a good bit. I'd want to know how long, on average, they hold a child that age, how long they'll let her cry if she wants to be held and what they'll do if they all have their hands full. She'll be ok!
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  • pmdunsworthpmdunsworth

    DS doesn't need to be held as much at daycare.  There is more going on around him and he just lays in the floor and takes it all in.  You never know how your DC will react to daycare.

    Plus, the people that run the daycare have taken care of many babies who want to be held a lot and babies who cry a lot. I'm sure they know what they are doing.  That's why you picked them, right?

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  • macaroni1979macaroni1979 member

    I am a SAHM whose DD loves to be held also! This week I started to watch a good friend's 4 mo old. I was really concerned that DD would be very upset since obviously I could not be with her and hold her 100% of the time. Surprisingly, she has done very well. I think she enjoys looking at another baby-she has never seen one. And just watches me from her boppy chair or mat when I can't hold her.--Two things she would never do before. I guess what I am saying is that the new "scenery" has given her something to "do." And I feel like her being able to watch and not be held is good for both of us!

    Hope this helps you!

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  • Swannja1Swannja1

    DS started daycare last month, and he is a "hold me baby", I did not change my routine with him before I went back to work b/c I simply love holding him and cherrish the time I spend with him. DS has adapted to daycare and enjoys being in the exersaucer and the other things his daycare provider has for him. When he has "hold me" days she holds him and gives him as much as attention as she needs.

    Daycare providers realize this is part of the job when taking on an infant (at least they should realize it), and wont let them cry all day.

    Side note: Because DS loves to be held and is "needier" than some (heck! he's a baby I dont expect any less) we found a small licensed family daycare so that he could get the extra attention he may need on "needier" days. DS is the only baby and is 1 of 4 kids at his daycare.

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  • LaLaSweetsLaLaSweets member

    My dd will start daycare next month and I noticed that we all have our own concerns. I'm sure it will work out for all of us ; )

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  • radiokateradiokate
    I was SO worried about this same thing, I really thought the daycare would kick her out for being too "high maintenance" or something! (Maybe an irrational thought, but I was seriously worried! :) But amazingly, within a couple days, she was totally content to just hang out in a bouncer or a swing... So now she'll actually use that stuff at home too, which is nice that she's adapted! I think the daycare people are used to that with infants, so I don't think they would expect otherwise! :)
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  • njsharnjshar

    I'm worried about this, too.

    I have a very, very fussy baby who does not cry, but turns purple and shrieks if she isn't given what she wants.  She wants to be held, wants the bottle very frequently (I pump) and sometimes just wants to play.  I pretty much have the hang of what to do for her, but none of it involves her sitting quietly be herself.

     I would hate to think of her just sitting somewhere crying.  It would kill me.

    I chose a woman who watches 4 kids out of her home and I think I'm going to call her to get her opinion on whether this is do-able.

     If it's not, we're thinking we may hire an in-home nanny for a while.  I could SAHM, but DH  works in a real estate investment company - not the best place to be these days.  I make the same as him and the loss of my salary would not only be huge, but would also make us so reliant on him in this shaky economy. 

    Of course, I want to do the best thing for her.  It's a horrible decision all around.

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  • happytobemrs.mhappytobemrs.m

    Thanks everyone. I guess it is normal to have these fears. I think she will adjust as well. I hope she does it without too many tears!! :(

     

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  • smiling76smiling76 member

    I'm glad you asked this.  I'm going through this right now--he started on Monday and has screamed there most of the time every day this week--and he is a hold me baby as well.  But it was the only way to calm him. 

    I picked him up yesterday and he was screaming and she wasn't cuddling him--just had him like laying flat across her legs--it pissed me off.  He was so upset and had been crying for approx 20+ minutes straight---poor sweety.  He ended up throwing up from it....and when she handed him to me he didn't even realize it was ME....he was just too upset.  It broke my heart. 

    I am praying he is doing better there today....I don't know what to do.  There are very limited daycares near us.  We're in a rural area.

     


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