DH & I are struggling to find stuff to do on weekend nights.
Going out to dinner (if it happens) takes place early because DD has a relatively early bedtime (7 at the latest) - and it's not like you can have a really leisurely meal with a toddler in tow. We would love to invite people to our house, but a lot of our friends have kids/babies themselves so we're all essentially in the same position.
Are we just stuck staying home on the weekends forever or going out separately so one of us is home watching DD?
(Obviously, this does not include nights where we have someone to watch the baby.)
Re: what do you/DH do on weekend nights?
We are traveling many weekend to see family, so on the nights we are actually in town we love just hanging out together on the couch and catching up on DVR'd shows. Other nights we have had friends over for games and they just put their kiddo down in a PnP in our master bedroom. We've done the same with DD (put her to sleep in a PnP) at other friends' houses as well.
And sometimes we actually spring for a babysitter and go out on a date. But that is rare rare rare.
We usually stay in unless it's specifically date night. DS is not fun when he gets tired and we try to keep him up past his bed time more more than once a week (usually Fridays because of services and dinner with my family).
Honestly, DH and I are homebodies so we didn't go out with other people that much even before we had DS. Most of our friends have kids and are in the same boat. Sometimes we'll get together with them, but it's usually for an early dinner.
We get together with friends. Everyone we know has kids, so they all play and stay up late.
Or we stay home. Some Saturday nights we're big losers and are in bed by 9 pm.
Friday nights are family night, either a movie or game. We eat dinner on trays in front of the TV if it is a movie night.
Saturday nights most often we hang out and watch a movie after the kids are in bed. We do have friends over fairly often. They all have kids too. When the kids were little we would just put them down at the friend's house (in a PnP) or they put their kids down at our house. Now that most of the kids are older we just keep them up a bit late let them lay around a watch a movie (maybe falling asleep) in the other room, and usually end things around 9-10pm.
we usually hang out at home. dh works late most friday nights so i do my usual friday night -- i take a hot bath, setup my laptop in the bathroom and stream tv shows that i've missed and drink a couple glasses of red wine. mmm..
saturday nights usually we just hang out at home and cook dinner together, play games or watch movies. we are also homebodies - i think it's because the weeks are so crazy for us that we really enjoy that time alone with each other and are able to finally catch up with each other. we do go out about 1 sat night a month - usually my sister comes over to babysit.
Maybe we'll just have to suck it up and start schlepping the pnp around ;-)
I wish I could answer this question.
DH works nights basically 7 days a week. He gets one weekend off a month and that is usually spent with my sister coming here or us going to her house in Houston. My weekend nights are the same as my weekday nights - dinner with Camy, her bath, her bottle, us to bed.
You're totally jealous. I just know it.
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I'm in the same boat as BeckO. (Sorry, BeckO, I feel your pain!) DH works late pretty much every Friday and Saturday. So I spend my weekend nights feeding the kids, bathing the kids, getting them to sleep, getting Vivian back to sleep when she wakes up 3 times, and collapsing on the couch with a glass of wine and my Kindle/the remote/my laptop.
On DH's evenings off (Sunday and usually one weeknight) we're homebodies for now because we stick to the bedtime routine with DS and he likes to go to bed by 6pm. We watch movies and shows we DVR and sometimes sit in the backyard with a beer/glass of wine and catch up.
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Yep, we're in the exact same boat. We each go out separately unless my mom happens to be in town and we can squeeze in a date night. Still need to find a sitter! We've been too chicken to try keeping the boys out past their bedtimes. And I shudder at the thought of possibly waking them up during the transfer to car seats and then to cribs.
Maybe we'll have to work up the nerve to do the pnp thing.
We usually just hang out at home, cook, watch TV/movies, blah, blah, blah. It gets boring.
MMT we're in exactly the same boat. The good thing is my mom or little sister watch him once a week or so so we can go out. We learned so early on what a disaster it was to keep him out past bedtime that I'm not willing to do it again. I shutter at that thought.
I feel your pain!
this is what we used to do a lot too and it worked pretty well with Megan! We haven't attempted it since having 2 though... it's just hard to imagine / a lot of effort to get both of them to sleep at friends house.
We don't go out much. We have a friend couple that comes up to our house or we go down to theirs. L will sleep on the floor on some blankets...bonus for us b/c I lent out our pnp. We have become good friends with our neighbors, so many weekends we are hanging out with them. Our monitor can pick up L from across the street outside, so he can sleep in his crib.
Otherwise we watch tv and just hang out on the couch relaxing from our busy weeks.