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Family Gifts

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Okay, I wasn't sure where else to ask so here it goes. My folks and my inlaws want to buy stuff for the baby, which is great! The problem... my MIL wants to buy stuff that is used from friends like a stroller and possibly a car seat, when I've already picked out a car seat/stroller combo we like. I don't want to say no but she wants to buy all this stuff for baby used which is okay, but I don't want EVERYTHING to be used, I want some new stuff. How do I say thanks but no? Its not like we have the money to buy everything. Then my folks say they will pay for diapers which I think will be cloth and the inital costs will be at least $500 which seems like way to much. I have two extremes, used or too much money. I really appreciate what they are trying to do to help us, cause baby was a surprise so we can use all the help we can get, but still how do I say nicely especially to the MIL no?

Sorry this got so long, I have no one to really ask, my husband is away in the military so he can't talk to his mom for me.

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Re: Family Gifts

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    A used carseat is NOT recommended, because it may have been in an accident.

    I love hand me downs, so I'm fine with used stuff. For that, I can't help you.

    But you should say that, for safety reasons, you want a new carseat and a new crib. Those are the biggies.

    See if you can find CD sales so your folks can save some $. Or accept the fact that they want to spend $ on their grandchild. If they can afford it, go for it.

     

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  • momoftwinsplusonemomoftwinsplusone
    I agree that a used carseat is not the way to go!
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  • NavyGMWifeNavyGMWife
    Carseats also have a lifespan.  After a certain number of years they are no longer to be used to do new developments, laws, regulations etc.  You can also use that as a reason as well.
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  • CatfishAnnCatfishAnn member

    Good luck!  My in-laws go crazy buying stuff for our dog; I can only imagine what they'll be like when we have babies! 

    A friend of mine recently turned down a somewhat tacky gift from her mother in law with a polite but firm "No, thank you."  It seemed to work, with no reasons or excuses necessary, and apparently no feelings hurt.  I plan to take a page from her book when the time comes!  I hope it works for you, too!  

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