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Irritated with DH/his grandparents (very long vent)

mechanicsgirlmechanicsgirl
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Maybe I'm overreacting, IDK.

He went out to his grandparents' house today to do some work around the house.  He likes to go out there every once in awhile and help.   Fine with me, didn't bother me at all.

I've been worried about DD's eating situation for a few days now, and she's giving me a TON of trouble today.  We're going to the doc's office (per nurse's advice).  It's likely she'll have to be cath'ed as a precaution because of her history of acting this way with a UTI (again, per the nurse).  I don't mind taking DD to the doc's alone, normally, but figured this is something DH would want to know about/make the decision of whether to come home for himself.

I called.  He didn't pick up.  He has a history of doing this at his grandparents, because for some reason he thinks they'd be upset if he answered the phone.  I have no clue why - they are the most easy going people on the planet. They love me, so they wouldn't be phased a bit.

I tried texting....still no reply.  I left a message, explained the situation, and waited.  Two hours later, I called his grandparents house and asked to speak with him.

IMO, this is something he needs to be picking up the phone for.  Period.  Granted, it's not an emergency really, but what if it was?  I get that he can't pick up the phone at work, but he can now, and I feel like he should have.

Finally, I talked to him, he sounded upset that he didn't know earlier (yeah, like it was my fault), and that he'd "try" to be home in time to come to the appt.  I took this with a grain of salt because his grandparents DO have a habit of keeping him much longer than he expects to be there.  He repeatedly texted me after, saying he was getting things done and would be home.

I just texted him saying, "I guess this means you can't make it?" (the doc's appt is in 45 min and he's about a half an hour away if he dropped everything and ran out the door).  He responds that he's going to "try" to make it to the doc's office.

Now brings me to his grandparents...he will drop everything if they are in the hospital or sick and be with them, but they can't get that he wants to be at the doc's with his potentially sick daughter?  They won't let him leave for a legit reason?  

Of course, he should grow a backbone and just leave, but he doesn't want to ruffle feathers.

*sigh*

I know this was long and pointless, but it helps to get it out.  I'm more irritated that he doesn't have the balls to leave if he wants to (and if he didn't want to, that he didn't have the balls to tell me that he'd be home at the expected time - after the appt), and that they are inconsiderate of what he wants.  

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Re: Irritated with DH/his grandparents (very long vent)

  • mechanicsgirlmechanicsgirl
    Wow, that was super long.  Sorry.
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  • Breezer80Breezer80
    I think we have the same husband. Mine is like this with his entire extended family. It makes me feel like us (his "other" family) aren't nearly as important to him as his "real" family is/are. Drives me nuts. And the being kept waiting thing until the last second --- yeah. happens to me ALL the time. I finally have decided I have spent my last Saturday afternoon sitting around waiting "just in case" he does come home. Sorry dude.
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  • majors31majors31

    i would be annoyed about the phone thing.  especially of how pregnant you are.

    is it possible he wants to get everything done and not have to go back out there and drive 3 hours round trip again?

    i hope your DD is okay.  

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  • Kasia&MikeKasia&Mike

    imageBreezer80:
    I think we have the same husband. Mine is like this with his entire extended family. It makes me feel like us (his "other" family) aren't nearly as important to him as his "real" family is/are. Drives me nuts. And the being kept waiting thing until the last second --- yeah. happens to me ALL the time. I finally have decided I have spent my last Saturday afternoon sitting around waiting "just in case" he does come home. Sorry dude.

    This!. ha ha .  It sucks, but I haven't figured out how to get him to change.  Sorry!  Hope your LO is okay! 

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