FFFC, nervous about it

finally2006 · July 2010

So the first time DH and I did the deed (he was 17, I was 16) I got pregnant.

I never told anyone about it, not even DH. At about 8 weeks, I miscarried. I kept the whole thing to myself for years (even from DH, then BF because I did not want him to be scared).

I have always felt really sad about that baby because even though I was 16, I have a really supportive family and I think I would have been a good mom. After having DD, I feel kinda of relieved it ended that way. When I had DD, I was in such a perfect place in my life to have a child and I appreciate every day of motherhood, instead of struggling along with my first baby at 17.

It makes me sad that I think this way.

ruffle&rust · July 2010

So not flameworthy but definitely ((((hug)))) worthy!

getnmarried910 · July 2010

=( My heart hurts for you. You shouldn't have to carry the weight of that alone.

Cheekie4 · July 2010

Brandi_Boggs:
So not flameworthy but definitely ((((hug)))) worthy!

This. ((hugs))

MarthaP18 · July 2010

Not flameworthy at all. 1000s of hugs your way. I know I understand and can relate.

cindydee · July 2010

I can kinda connect with you on this one..i m/c twice. age 21 & 22..(both with DH then bf at the time)..no one knew accept him... I wasn't scared of "struggling" b/c i knew i would have my parents support & dh & I had been together since i was 17..i guess i was more scared of the both of us just not being "ready".. this time around when i was pregnant with Evan we had a wedding date set & we owned a home together, it felt right. It also makes me sad that I think this way but then I think that if i didn't m/c i would never have met Evan the new love of my life

jhenry1204 · July 2010

Aw, hunni. I'm so sorry. Hugs. This is definately not a weight you should be carrying.

berrysweet · July 2010

I'm so sorry.

Did you ever end up telling DH about it?

Nikibug · July 2010

Brandi_Boggs:
So not flameworthy but definitely ((((hug)))) worthy!

This. HUGS! I had a miscarriage, but not at a yonge age. It was diffcult to deal with being able to share with people. I feel sad that you had to keep that to yourself all these years

littlemaybaby · July 2010

I am so sorry you went through that alone and so young!

finally2006 · July 2010

berrysweet:

I'm so sorry.

Did you ever end up telling DH about it?

I did tell him right before we got married because I did not want to have secrets and he cried Sad

I should have told him sooner. It was such a weight for me and I did not want to burden him.

catycombs · July 2010

That is far from flame worthy. I'm sorry you had to go through that by yourself. 17 is very young. {{{hugs}}}

Cheekie4 · July 2010

finally2006:
berrysweet:

I'm so sorry.

Did you ever end up telling DH about it?

I did tell him right before we got married because I did not want to have secrets and he cried

I should have told him sooner. It was such a weight for me and I did not want to burden him.

You married the right man.

berrysweet · July 2010

Cheekie4:
finally2006:
berrysweet:

I'm so sorry.

Did you ever end up telling DH about it?

I did tell him right before we got married because I did not want to have secrets and he cried

I should have told him sooner. It was such a weight for me and I did not want to burden him.

You married the right man.

Ditto.

ashdonne · July 2010

I am sorry you had to go through that alone. Sounds like you have a keeper there in your husband. Sometimes I think God has a bigger plan for us that we cannot realize.

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