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baby showers: coed or girls only?

Kristi221Kristi221
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I found out quite by accident last night that DH would like to have a coed shower or at least, as he put it, a "diaper kegger" with the guys while I'm at the baby shower with my friends and family.

It never even crossed my mind that he would want to come to the baby shower, having only ever been to ones with women only. He was pretty upset that I didn't consider this option and thought I had it all planned out already. I don't even know when/where it will be, just that my sister has talked about throwing it for me.

Anyone else's DH want to have a coed shower or have a party on his own?

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Re: baby showers: coed or girls only?

  • hewinkedhewinked
    Two friends of mine DHs had a separate party of all dudes.  Each guy that came had to bring a pack of diapers and then the guys went out and did man stuff, lol.
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  • ilovetolaughilovetolaugh member
    I'm having 2 showers, one all women and one co-ed.  it was DH's idea to have the co-ed shower and he's so excited!

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  • silverwater00silverwater00
    I am throwing my own shower since I live far from the rest of my family and I'm definitely having a co-ed shower. Most of my friends are guys so I couldn't even consider doing it any other way. our theme is "baby's 0th birthday" so I'm having balloons, pizza and cake. The only games will be grown up games like cards and board games. This way I can include everyone, especially DH!
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  • blondek8blondek8 member
    Friends of ours are throwing us a co-ed BBQ/shower. It suits us both. I don't care for "women only" events. They're just NMS. To each their own and obviously do what works for you both!
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  • countrymice06countrymice06 member
    I like the idea of coed showers, particularly if your family/friends don't get a chance to get together that often.  I am driving 16 hours to go to my shower, and I would hate to see only my female friends.  I think if men are there, the host should probably lay off some of the really feminine games, but I hate those anyway, so that isn't a problem for me.  My husband came to my bridal shower, and I liked being able to share the spotlight. 
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  • CCFikesCCFikes
    My DH hates attention. He had no interest in a co-ed shower and just wants to hang with his friends during mine. However, we've been to a few co-ed showers and they were great fun! I would love to have one but DH would rather it be ladies only.
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  • starlettedirstarlettedir member

    DH is probably having one of his own ;-)

    He went to one his friend had and loved it so much that his BFF is doing the same for him.  It was a poker tourney. Guys had a $30 pay in our something and they got to play for $$$. However, if you brought a pack of diapers you got an $20 in  special chips. The host had some good guy door prizes that they could put the winning from those chips into a raffle for.  Apparently everyone loved it.

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  • lindsey913lindsey913
    A friend is throwing a coed friends shower for us and my aunt is having a girls shower for family and family friends.
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  • bostoartteacherbostoartteacher
    i want a coed shower! i love his friends and it is OUR baby :)
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  • AndysGrl08AndysGrl08
    DH will be at our shower, but the guests will all be ladies. My dad may come as well though.
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  • mommiromommiro

    imagebostoartteacher:
    i want a coed shower! i love his friends and it is OUR baby :)
    That's our thought is that it is OUR baby so it should be our shower...IMO if you want dad to be involved in pulling his weight once the baby comes he has to feel a part from the beginning.

    We are having a coed shower...which does increase the guest count my list right now is close to 55

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  • Kimee13Kimee13

    Personally, I'm not a fan of coed showers (wedding or baby) nor is 95% of the men that I know.  We've gone to a couple and normally the guys are all complaining because they'd rather be anywhere but there and the girls just ignore them - I really don't see the point.  DH will show up at both our showers at the end so I can show him all the loot, while not putting him on the spot. 

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  • missthickmissthick

    We are having a co-ed shower, but it's going to be more "family party afternoon bbq" then "crumpets and tea for ladies"...my family is coming from OOT the Friday before for my grandparents 50th anniversary vow renewals so it was convenient to just schedule the babyshower for the sunday after.  I'm going to see family I haven't seen since I was a kid and I don't want to exclude anyone!

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  • J's JenJ's Jen
    My family traditionally has women only at showers. My aunts are older though. I feel like if you have a younger family/friends a coed shower would be fun. I just don't see my 70 year old uncles enjoying a baby shower. 
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  • Carrano29Carrano29
    i am having a coed shower. DH wants to be there an I gave him the idea of why not him have friends too cuz i would feel bad him being with just women. So he liked the idea and his friends did, so my grandmother is hosting it and also said its great. she is excited that my pap and dad get to be involved. lol It should be fun.
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  • Lisa602Lisa602 member
    We are doing one co-ed party which will be more like a pool/bbq party and one women only party which will be more traditional. I think its a great idea. We even had a couples shower for the wedding, it was a blast.
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  • melissa4252008melissa4252008

    I really, really want to have a co-ed shower. Both my cousins did and they were so fun. DH is a bit leery - "I'm not going to invite my buddies to a BABY shower!!!" - but I've thought of a few ideas that would make it guy friendly (especially if baby is a boy) and he's starting to come around. So we'll see what happens.

    I had a traditional bridal shower, and was red as a beet and hot ashell the entire time because I was so horrified sitting in front of everyone by myself. I am not shy and don't mind attention, but for some reason I hated every second of it. I have no interest in going through that again for the baby shower. Embarrassed

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  • Mrs.AwesomeMrs.Awesome member

    My sisters are throwing a Saturday shower for me. It will be all ladies, but we're having it on a Saturday because DH is inviting all of the guys to watch college football at a nearby sports bar.

    He is super excited about it- they will get to celebrate the baby without being all gushy.

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  • bndenton07bndenton07
    well my SIL and Cousin in law are throwing my shower so its not co-ed... but i think my family is going to have a "celebratory get together" with everyone invited that will basically be a BBQ shower except only the people not invited to the shower will be bringing presents (this was actually requested by my uncles and step family.. i thought it was cute!)
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