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Speaking of In Laws - WWYD? Long...

policewife08policewife08
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DH's family lives 2.5 hours away from us.  They don't get to see Anderson much and when they do we are always around.  (As apposed to my parents who live close by, babysit and get alone time with him.)

Next weekend DH is going up to practice with his band (they have a gig the following weekend).  He is planning an overnight trip and said he is taking A-man so his family can babysit ad get some alone time.

Here is my WWYD...  Band practice would be boring for me to watch/attend and I don't want to do it.  I also hate the location we stay when we are there overnight (bunk beds, no air...I'm a snob I know).  I don't know if I should go...

Anderson is getting to the age where he recognizes people (or not) and I don't want him to be crying all night b/c he is not familiar with ILs (which would be awful for  them as well).  And I will just plain miss him!  The few times he has stayed overnight at my parents both DH and I missed him like crazy.  Not only will A-man be gone but so will DH and I will be in a quiet house.

So would you go and hang out with the ILs and baby or do would you stay?

Anyone who made it this far gets two scoops of waffle cone ice cream!

Thanks for your advise...I really am torn!

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  • ludyjanboltzludyjanboltz

    I don't know Judy.  The thought of having the house all to myself would be pretty tempting.  Especially if I knew it was for only one night - otherwise I know I would miss everybody. 

    If that isn't enough to keep you home, then I think you should go if you think you'll be so worried about your LO the whole time that you can't relax.

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  • Mrs.S_0909Mrs.S_0909
    imageludyjanboltz:

    I don't know Judy.  The thought of having the house all to myself would be pretty tempting.  Especially if I knew it was for only one night - otherwise I know I would miss everybody. 

    If that isn't enough to keep you home, then I think you should go if you think you'll be so worried about your LO the whole time that you can't relax.

    I agree. 

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  • policewife08policewife08

    I agree that some time alone would be nice. I think I am leaning toward staying.  Especially since he will be gone the following weekend overnight and it will be just A-man and I.

    But...  Thanks for the help ladies. 

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  • ludyjanboltzludyjanboltz
    imagepolicewife08:

    I agree that some time alone would be nice. I think I am leaning toward staying.  Especially since he will be gone the following weekend overnight and it will be just A-man and I.

    But...  Thanks for the help ladies. 

    I am so jealous that you are getting a quiet weekend!!!!  DH is getting one this weekend and I am super jealous of him.

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  • AshleysredAshleysred
    I think I'd let Timm take her - not to his in laws but somewhere with people I trusted - just so I could have some time to myself.  I would go to the gym and not worry about getting a babysitter....
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  • sillybiochemistsillybiochemist

    Worst case scenario, if you decided to go then I'd find things to do so that the grandparents get some alone time with your little one.  Like if its early enough, hit the mall for at least some window shopping.  As in doing something for yourself since you probably don't get a chance to do that very much. 

    Otherwise I think having a night to yourself would be a nice change.  Take a bath, read a goofy magazine, call a friend, and just relax knowing you don't have to listen for that cry or wake up call.  It is just one night and they are only 2.5 hours away.  DH will be there to comfort him so he won't be completely with people he doesn't see every day the entire time.

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  • CanadianBride84CanadianBride84 member
    First, I don't know if you get along with the ILs.  But I am going to assume you do.  I would probably let him take him and stay at home.  You could do a girls night so that you are not so lonely, or go visit your parents for a couple hours.  I just would be afraid your ILs would feel you don't trust them with your son if your DH has already arranged for them to take care of him while he is at band practice.
    A & T Since 2009 Parents of A born July 2010
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