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oh crap! . .

Brandibaby28Brandibaby28 member
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DH and I having been planning to start to TTC in August for at least 6 months now. We have kept this extremely quiet since I dont want everone bugging me saying '"are you prego yet?"  It's no one else's business in our opinion.  Well Just recently a close friend of our circle announced that they were TTC starting this month.  

Kinda bummed because I dont want her to feel that we just up and decided because they are and we should too. Or that I am trying to steal thier thunder If we end up preg at same time.  I know that some people can have secret feelings like that.

Does anyone else plan to announce that they are TTC? Do you think you should have to? It's kinda too late for us, it will just look like we are following the leader!

 

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  • OatoaOatoa member

    My DH and I are beginning to TTC is August too.  He found out I told my best friend at dinner the other night and began to lecture me.  He said, "Yes we're going to try but I didn't think we were telling anyone!"  I let him know that she doesn't count!  He doesn't want to announce it because we don't know how long it will take.  I guess that's why I'm starting to become more involved on this site.

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  • SheElfSheElf
    Maybe you could go out for coffee and tell her how you're feeling. This way when you do decide to tell people you're TTC it won;t come as a blind side. However, don't limit yourself because of other people. It's not fair to you. My husband and I decided to only tell a few people we trusted because we're not ready for people to delve into our personal choices but that's not the same for everyone. Good luck!!!
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  • batesaebatesae member

    We do not plan on telling anyone because we do not want the pressure if it takes awhile.

     My SIL announced she was TTC Sept '08 and was pg and m/c June '09. She had to deal with family asking if she was pg yet, and then she announced at 4wks and then had to announce the m/c within days.

    We just want to keep it to ourselves at first and then when we are ready we will let everyone know.

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  • HappyMrsKHappyMrsK member

    I havn't told anyone irl that we are TTC. I just don't think it's anyone's business except mine and DH's. I wouldn't announce it just because you never know how long it may take you to conceive.

    Even in perfectly healthy couples it can take a year or more to conceive. I would imagine that if you did announce now that you were TTC and it takes a while for you to get pregnant that you may get tired of people asking you when you are going to get pregnant. I know I would.

    I think if you do end up getting pregnant soon, I doubt your friend is going to think you are stealing her thunder if she is a mature adult. If she's not a mature adult, then who cares what she thinks. 

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