Question for moms with 2 or more

VRS10 · July 2010

If your first child was early was your other child/children early as well? I had DD at 37 weeks 4 days and I kind of have my heart set on not making it to 40 weeks, especially since I hear the second child is usually earlier. I'm trying to be realistic and not get my hopes up.

wife1014 · July 2010

Why would you have your heart set on not making it to 40 weeks Confused

LemonBlush · July 2010

I've seen people on here whose first they had early and second they had to be induced for. It's different for everyone.

katana · July 2010

Yeah I don't understand, I had DS at 36 weeks and I am hoping and praying to get to 40 weeks this time....DS had so many complications even just being a little early....

JoannaJes · July 2010

Personally, I have "my hopes up" for making it as close to 40 weeks as possible.

VRS10 · July 2010

Really? I didn't think I would have to clarify that I don't want a a premature baby, isn't that a given? Due dates are estimates, I had a perfectly healthy baby at 37 weeks and I hope to again, that is have a perfectly healthy full term baby preferrably somewhere between 37 and 40 weeks.

volcrazymama · July 2010

JoannaJes:
Personally, I have "my hopes up" for making it as close to 40 weeks as possible.

This. I'm not trying to be snarky, but I don't understand why you're hoping this child is born early. Babies born early can face a multitude of health issues. Why would you wish this on your child?

VRS10 · July 2010

volcrazymama:
JoannaJes:

Personally, I have "my hopes up" for making it as close to 40 weeks as possible.

This. I'm not trying to be snarky, but I don't understand why you're hoping this child is born early. Babies born early can face a multitude of health issues. Why would you wish this on your child?

Being that due dates are estimates it is clear that my first child wasn't early, she was right on time. Since no one seems to be able to read I didn't ask your opinions, I was asking other moms for their experiences. So if you have no insight to offer then you are trying to be snarky, if you weren't you wouldn't have said anything. Like I said I don't want a premature baby.

wife1014 · July 2010

VRS10:

Really? I didn't think I would have to clarify that I don't want a a premature baby, isn't that a given? Due dates are estimates, I had a perfectly healthy baby at 37 weeks and I hope to again, that is have a perfectly healthy full term baby preferrably somewhere between 37 and 40 weeks.

While I am completely aware a baby born at any point in a pregnancy can have health or developmental issues, wishing 3 weeks of growth away from your child just doesn't make sense to me. BTW, you have yet to say why you are hoping for an early delivery.

LiLnikkiMe · July 2010

both of my boys were born at 38 weeks.

ds1 - 38w 1d

ds2 - 38w 3d

volcrazymama · July 2010

VRS10:
volcrazymama:
JoannaJes:

Personally, I have "my hopes up" for making it as close to 40 weeks as possible.

This. I'm not trying to be snarky, but I don't understand why you're hoping this child is born early. Babies born early can face a multitude of health issues. Why would you wish this on your child?

Being that due dates are estimates it is clear that my first child wasn't early, she was right on time. Since no one seems to be able to read I didn't ask your opinions, I was asking other moms for their experiences. So if you have no insight to offer then you are trying to be snarky, if you weren't you wouldn't have said anything. Like I said I don't want a premature baby.

Wow, you're a real peach. You came to a board and said you were hoping your child was born early. You said your daughter was born at 37 weeks 5 days and you've heard the second child can come earlier. Given that, if your second child was to come earlier than your daughter, you are putting yourself very closely into preterm range. I don't think the women on this board have a problem reading. I think you didn't find the responses you wanted, so you're getting your panties in a wad and accusing others of not being able to read. Maybe you should learn to write a bit more clearly.

VRS10 · July 2010

wife1014:
VRS10:

Really? I didn't think I would have to clarify that I don't want a a premature baby, isn't that a given? Due dates are estimates, I had a perfectly healthy baby at 37 weeks and I hope to again, that is have a perfectly healthy full term baby preferrably somewhere between 37 and 40 weeks.

While I am completely aware a baby born at any point in a pregnancy can have health or developmental issues, wishing 3 weeks of growth away from your child just doesn't make sense to me. BTW, you have yet to say why you are hoping for an early delivery.

I like how you only highlighted part of the quote and not the part where I said sometime between 37 and 40 weeks because that is considered full term. No where in my post do I wish 3 weeks of growth away from my child. Also, it looks like you are in the same boat as me, pregnant with your second child so you're not equipped to answer my question. So I don't understand why you are posting in here.

VRS10 · July 2010

volcrazymama:
VRS10:
volcrazymama:
JoannaJes:

Personally, I have "my hopes up" for making it as close to 40 weeks as possible.

This. I'm not trying to be snarky, but I don't understand why you're hoping this child is born early. Babies born early can face a multitude of health issues. Why would you wish this on your child?

Being that due dates are estimates it is clear that my first child wasn't early, she was right on time. Since no one seems to be able to read I didn't ask your opinions, I was asking other moms for their experiences. So if you have no insight to offer then you are trying to be snarky, if you weren't you wouldn't have said anything. Like I said I don't want a premature baby.

Wow, you're a real peach. You came to a board and said you were hoping your child was born early. You said your daughter was born at 37 weeks 5 days and you've heard the second child can come earlier. Given that, if your second child was to come earlier than your daughter, you are putting yourself very closely into preterm range. I don't think the women on this board have a problem reading. I think you didn't find the responses you wanted, so you're getting your panties in a wad and accusing others of not being able to read. Maybe you should learn to write a bit more clearly.

No I didn't get the answers I wanted because no can answer a simple question, some bored hormonal ladies decided to be judgemental and twist my words around. I heard second children CAN come earlier, doesn't mean they will, if there was any risk involved I'm sure my doctor would let me know and proceed accordingly. I never ever said I wanted a preterm baby!

VRS10 · July 2010

volcrazymama:
VRS10:
volcrazymama:
JoannaJes:

Personally, I have "my hopes up" for making it as close to 40 weeks as possible.

This. I'm not trying to be snarky, but I don't understand why you're hoping this child is born early. Babies born early can face a multitude of health issues. Why would you wish this on your child?

Being that due dates are estimates it is clear that my first child wasn't early, she was right on time. Since no one seems to be able to read I didn't ask your opinions, I was asking other moms for their experiences. So if you have no insight to offer then you are trying to be snarky, if you weren't you wouldn't have said anything. Like I said I don't want a premature baby.

Wow, you're a real peach. You came to a board and said you were hoping your child was born early. You said your daughter was born at 37 weeks 5 days and you've heard the second child can come earlier. Given that, if your second child was to come earlier than your daughter, you are putting yourself very closely into preterm range. I don't think the women on this board have a problem reading. I think you didn't find the responses you wanted, so you're getting your panties in a wad and accusing others of not being able to read. Maybe you should learn to write a bit more clearly.

No I didn't get the answers I wanted because no can answer a simple question, some bored hormonal ladies decided to be judgemental and twist my words around. I heard second children CAN come earlier, doesn't mean they will, if there was any risk involved I'm sure my doctor would let me know and proceed accordingly. I never ever said I wanted a preterm baby!

VRS10 · July 2010

LiLnikkiMe:

both of my boys were born at 38 weeks.

ds1 - 38w 1d

ds2 - 38w 3d

Thank you for actually answering my question!

Hawt83 · July 2010

1st- born at 33 weeks

2nd- born 2 days before due date

3rd-born on due date

4th- wait and see.

Stensgard · July 2010

oh for crying out loud, she's not saying she want's a premature baby with health complications. Do you people just look for crap to *** about? Are you honestly going to tell me that at 38 or 39 weeks you won't be waiting on pins and needles to go into labor?

Acendaneil · July 2010

I agree that every pregnancy is different.

I wouldn't stress too much about her being earlier than 37. In my way of thinking, or I guess you could say I have a superstition about it...is if you think she'll be early, she'll be early.

I have a friend that kept saying, "Your baby is going to be born in September, you just wait."

Yeah, I was born 3 months early and had problems, but not as many problems as some babies do that arrive just a few weeks early. Plus, my family has a history of premature births, so that's another reason why I get totally freaked if anybody says anything about September.

Anyway, I had to totally unload on the friend. I felt bad, but don't say that sort of crap.

So yeah, don't stress, I'm sure you and baby will be perfectly fine.

wife1014 · July 2010

VRS10:
wife1014:
VRS10:

Really? I didn't think I would have to clarify that I don't want a a premature baby, isn't that a given? Due dates are estimates, I had a perfectly healthy baby at 37 weeks and I hope to again, that is have a perfectly healthy full term baby preferrably somewhere between 37 and 40 weeks.

While I am completely aware a baby born at any point in a pregnancy can have health or developmental issues, wishing 3 weeks of growth away from your child just doesn't make sense to me. BTW, you have yet to say why you are hoping for an early delivery.

I like how you only highlighted part of the quote and not the part where I said sometime between 37 and 40 weeks because that is considered full term. No where in my post do I wish 3 weeks of growth away from my child. Also, it looks like you are in the same boat as me, pregnant with your second child so you're not equipped to answer my question. So I don't understand why you are posting in here.

I am equipped to answer any question I damn well please on any public message board. Unfortunately for you, you didn't like any of the answers we have provided you. You blatently said you hoped to deliver early. We pretty much told you this was an ignorant statement and you got very defensive. Your original post did not state you wanted to deliver at any time besides late (which would be after 40 weeks)...it said 37 weeks. So, yes that is taking 3 weeks of growth away from yor child.

volcrazymama · July 2010

VRS10:
volcrazymama:
VRS10:
volcrazymama:
JoannaJes:

Personally, I have "my hopes up" for making it as close to 40 weeks as possible.

This. I'm not trying to be snarky, but I don't understand why you're hoping this child is born early. Babies born early can face a multitude of health issues. Why would you wish this on your child?

Being that due dates are estimates it is clear that my first child wasn't early, she was right on time. Since no one seems to be able to read I didn't ask your opinions, I was asking other moms for their experiences. So if you have no insight to offer then you are trying to be snarky, if you weren't you wouldn't have said anything. Like I said I don't want a premature baby.

Wow, you're a real peach. You came to a board and said you were hoping your child was born early. You said your daughter was born at 37 weeks 5 days and you've heard the second child can come earlier. Given that, if your second child was to come earlier than your daughter, you are putting yourself very closely into preterm range. I don't think the women on this board have a problem reading. I think you didn't find the responses you wanted, so you're getting your panties in a wad and accusing others of not being able to read. Maybe you should learn to write a bit more clearly.

No I didn't get the answers I wanted because no can answer a simple question, some bored hormonal ladies decided to be judgemental and twist my words around. I heard second children CAN come earlier, doesn't mean they will, if there was any risk involved I'm sure my doctor would let me know and proceed accordingly. I never ever said I wanted a preterm baby!

You said:

If your first child was early was your other child/children early as well? I had DD at 37 weeks 4 days and I kind of have my heart set on not making it to 40 weeks, especially since I hear the second child is usually earlier. I'm trying to be realistic and not get my hopes up.

Those are your words. I don't think anyone is twisting anything around. You're the one who said you have your heart set on not making it to 40 weeks.

VRS10 · July 2010

wife1014:
VRS10:
wife1014:
VRS10:

Really? I didn't think I would have to clarify that I don't want a a premature baby, isn't that a given? Due dates are estimates, I had a perfectly healthy baby at 37 weeks and I hope to again, that is have a perfectly healthy full term baby preferrably somewhere between 37 and 40 weeks.

While I am completely aware a baby born at any point in a pregnancy can have health or developmental issues, wishing 3 weeks of growth away from your child just doesn't make sense to me. BTW, you have yet to say why you are hoping for an early delivery.

I like how you only highlighted part of the quote and not the part where I said sometime between 37 and 40 weeks because that is considered full term. No where in my post do I wish 3 weeks of growth away from my child. Also, it looks like you are in the same boat as me, pregnant with your second child so you're not equipped to answer my question. So I don't understand why you are posting in here.

I am equipped to answer any question I damn well please on any public message board. Unfortunately for you, you didn't like any of the answers we have provided you. You blatently said you hoped to deliver early. We pretty much told you this was an ignorant statement and you got very defensive. Your original post did not state you wanted to deliver at any time besides late (which would be after 40 weeks)...it said 37 weeks. So, yes that is taking 3 weeks of growth away from yor child.

You keep highlighting only part of my quote. 37 weeks is full term ( a concept you obviously don't understand) I got defensive because what I said was completely twisted around and made to sound like I hope for a preterm baby, which was not the case at all and no matter how many times I clarify it you insist that I'm an awful person who wishes growth away from my child. Last time I check the kid keeps growing even after they are born. And this question was addressed to mothers who have given birth 2 or more times, if this is you then answer the question and get off your high horse cause you know what I meant.

VRS10 · July 2010

Alright I admit it I want my baby to come right now and spend months in the NICU. You guys caught me! But thank you for showing me the light now I hope to go to 42 weeks and have a c-section cause my baby's too big.

wife1014 · July 2010

Please go back and re-read your original post and then maybe you will realize why we are finding this to be all shades of odd. I have a feeling you will be that person begging for an induction at 37 wks/5 days...just because you had a healthy baby at 37 wks/4 days.

And again, I don't care who you addressed this question to. This is a public message board...

VRS10 · July 2010

lajack:
oh for crying out loud, she's not saying she want's a premature baby with health complications. Do you people just look for crap to *** about? Are you honestly going to tell me that at 38 or 39 weeks you won't be waiting on pins and needles to go into labor?

THANK YOU!! (And yes a lot of people on here just look for crap to *** about, it's fun for them.)

volcrazymama · July 2010

Hey, OP - since we're so clueless to be shocked you're hoping to not go to 40 weeks, maybe you should read this.

https://www.babycenter.com/204_many-women-miscalculate-time-to-full-term-birth_10325013.bc

wife1014 · July 2010

VRS10:
Alright I admit it I want my baby to come right now and spend months in the NICU. You guys caught me! But thank you for showing me the light now I hope to go to 42 weeks and have a c-section cause my baby's too big.

You are an a$$ just for making this statement, let alone the original post.

UrbanHippieMama · July 2010

wife1014:

VRS10:
Alright I admit it I want my baby to come right now and spend months in the NICU. You guys caught me! But thank you for showing me the light now I hope to go to 42 weeks and have a c-section cause my baby's too big.

You are an a$$ just for making this statement, let alone the original post.

Yep. Just what I was thinking.

VRS10 · July 2010

Those of you who answered the question, thank you!

Other posters you've failed to make your point or any point at all.

wife1014 · July 2010

VRS10:

Those of you who answered the question, thank you!

Other posters you've failed to make your point or any point at all.

We didn't have to make a point. You did that yoursellf...

VRS10 · July 2010

Volcrazymama thanks for the link, reading it now. My point about the due date was that it is an estimate because they can't pin point conception, perhaps my 37 weeks actually was 40 weeks just miscalculated.

shaymichelle89 · July 2010

VRS10:
Alright I admit it I want my baby to come right now and spend months in the NICU. You guys caught me! But thank you for showing me the light now I hope to go to 42 weeks and have a c-section cause my baby's too big.

bahaha you terrible woman you!!! they should ban you from having kids!! . I'm just going to chalk you up with the woman who have elective cs and don't breastfeed. j/k I hope these ignorant b*tches get a clue haha Love my October ladies!!!

beautifulsin90 · July 2010

volcrazymama:
JoannaJes:
Personally, I have "my hopes up" for making it as close to 40 weeks as possible.
This. I'm not trying to be snarky, but I don't understand why you're hoping this child is born early. Babies born early can face a multitude of health issues. Why would you wish this on your child?

This. All of this. I understand you had one child be perfectly healthy but all babies are different and each day you can carry your baby is a blessing.

grr_aargh · July 2010

DD: 41w3d

DS: Induced at 40w on the nose.

This time I expect to carry to 39-40 weeks. At least. It's my sincere hope I can carry to 41w so I can finish teaching my fall classes before this baby is born. Since I'm counting on it, I suspect it'll be my first early baby.

Having carried my DD for so long, I have kind of a resentment of women who deliver at term but early. I think they are spoiled. And I typically hope they carry their next baby to 42 weeks.

Because I am mean.

Temp110085250009077 · July 2010

I was induced 6 days earlier with #1 and went into labor 13 days early on my own with #2 (although I did need a little push from pitocin). I'm hoping #3 will also be a week or two early.

beautifulsin90 · July 2010

wife1014:
VRS10:
wife1014:
VRS10:

Really? I didn't think I would have to clarify that I don't want a a premature baby, isn't that a given? Due dates are estimates, I had a perfectly healthy baby at 37 weeks and I hope to again, that is have a perfectly healthy full term baby preferrably somewhere between 37 and 40 weeks.

While I am completely aware a baby born at any point in a pregnancy can have health or developmental issues, wishing 3 weeks of growth away from your child just doesn't make sense to me. BTW, you have yet to say why you are hoping for an early delivery.

I like how you only highlighted part of the quote and not the part where I said sometime between 37 and 40 weeks because that is considered full term. No where in my post do I wish 3 weeks of growth away from my child. Also, it looks like you are in the same boat as me, pregnant with your second child so you're not equipped to answer my question. So I don't understand why you are posting in here.

I am equipped to answer any question I damn well please on any public message board. Unfortunately for you, you didn't like any of the answers we have provided you. You blatently said you hoped to deliver early. We pretty much told you this was an ignorant statement and you got very defensive. Your original post did not state you wanted to deliver at any time besides late (which would be after 40 weeks)...it said 37 weeks. So, yes that is taking 3 weeks of growth away from yor child.

lol I love that answer

laurenfeuker · July 2010

lajack:
oh for crying out loud, she's not saying she want's a premature baby with health complications. Do you people just look for crap to *** about? Are you honestly going to tell me that at 38 or 39 weeks you won't be waiting on pins and needles to go into labor?

This.

Tricia879 · July 2010

laurenfeuker:

lajack:
oh for crying out loud, she's not saying she want's a premature baby with health complications. Do you people just look for crap to *** about? Are you honestly going to tell me that at 38 or 39 weeks you won't be waiting on pins and needles to go into labor?

This.

I also agree with this! I also have a friend who was antsy for her baby to come by 35 wks. She delivered at 37wks 1day and her son was 5lb 5oz.. His only real complication was being small and Jaundiced..

For my child since this is my second I would like to go on time or a little early since my DD was 9days late and it was no picnic! Plus my EDD is almost Halloween and I want to be home with my daughter. So call me a bad mother or whatever you want but I do not want to go late again! If my son is on the big side I would hope they wont make him grow to 10lbs or more either!

vaness77 · July 2010

Try looking on the Two Under 2 Board. I see this question asked a lot and haven't seen any arguing like this Smile

ZoeyMarie · July 2010

I have an idea. How about everyone answers the question she asked "If your first child was early was your other child/children early as well?" And then leave out the parts where you try to make her out to be a bad momma because she wants baby to come at full term--which according to some books (even thebump!) is anywhere from 37 weeks to delivery...I'm pretty sure when push comes to shove, we'll all be hoping the baby makes an appearance as soon as it's healthy for LO to do so...

For so many of you who get annoyed that people don't type properly or use proper grammar, how about getting off your high horses & reading the actual post and answering what is asked as opposed to going off on a tangent that is fairly irrelevant? OP didn't ask for a pre-term baby...

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