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Cooper81
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I need your thoughts on a trip.
Cooper81
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So, I was just asked if I could go to a conference in Anaheim, CA in August for work. I'm so torn. I want to go because it sounds like a great conference and I would be great for prof. development. On the other hand I am still BFing and might still be at that time, although I'm not sure because I have been having supply issues because I can only find the time to pump twice at work. Plus of course I would be leaving DH with the baby for an entire week (although he would have major help from our families I'm sure) and I would miss John an insane amount. So anyone have any idea/advice/ANYTHING? My mind is swimming right now with how much I would miss John, the logistics of leaving DH for that week, if I would be BFing then (what would I do if I still was, etc), I need some kind of direction for my thoughts.
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Re: I need your thoughts on a trip.
any chance DH and John could go with you and make it a litlte vacation?
How do you think it would affect you professionally if you didn't go?
Unfortunately Dh just changed jobs and doesn't have the leave to do that, but that would be awesome. Professionaly it wouldn't hurt me at all. Everyone here understands I just had a baby and someone could easily go in my place. I just think it would be a great conference to go to and I don't know how often the opportunity would come up again.
Honestly I think you should go. For a variety of reasons....good professional development, good bonding time for Dad and lo, good mommy away time. Even though its for work, its a good way to re-charge. (I just went to Boston for a few days and it felt really good.) Anyway to make the trip a little shorter then an entire week? Maybe that can make it easier for you to go...
Reasons not to go: not comfortable leaving DH home alone with the lo, don't want to go.
I don't think I could go and be away from DD for that long at that point. If you don't think it would be held against you, I'd probably skip it.
I travel for work. I had to leave to go to training for 10 days when DS was 4 months old. I leave for 3 days every week. I am gone about 14 days a month. I know some of you will think this is awful but......
It is what it is. Now what I feel is the biggest up side is my husband and son's relationship since going back to work. My husband is SUCH a better dad becuase of me being gone. When I am home hovering he just does what I say or "suggest". You ladies know what I mean we can be a bit controlling over our little ones(: Your husband will have such great bonding time 1 on 1. I think you will cry everyday but you will get through and they will be better because of it.
My husband and I trully do CO-parent. It works for us. Dad's can be great and step up when we let them. That was the hardest part. I get yelled at for "hovering from across the country" all the time(:
Good luck. Do whatever you feel is best for you and your family. About BFing I got really sick and had to stop at 6 wks so I am no help.
I didn't travel until I was done bfing but it was one of the best things I could have done. I had a planned overnight and then on my drive home from there I got a call asking if I could go on another trip for 4 days. So I had a lot of time to plan for the overnight but no time to plan for the 4 days. And DH and EC made it. The only thing that went awry was that DH picked up the flu on the last day I was gone, so I came home to an ill DH and a stir crazy baby. But that was easily cured with a nap for DH and a trip to the park for EC.
I missed EC but it did me a world of good to spend a few days just worrying about myself.