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Would you anonymously tell on a co-worker

SaraSmileSaraSmile
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Our company has a strict policy that you can leave or come in 1.5 hours withbout being penalized.  You have to work 3.5 hours straight before leaving to be docked a half day.  We have a sysem that we log in and out of on the computer that HR monitors to keep everyone "honest".

With 2 kids I am already out of time and have had to take unpaid time off recently.  Once I came in and 2 hours later the daycare called and I had to go get my son with pink eye.  I got charged a full day and my commute is an hour each way.  My company wouldn't make an exception for me - they never do (I had a similar experience when I needed an ultrasound during pregnancy and I was charged a half day when I only needed an extra half hour to leave early).

Anyway, yesterday a girl in my department left at 10:30 for the entire day.  I was there when she deliberately asked another co-worker to sign her out at noon so she would only be charged for a half day rather than a full day.  This is someone who has no kids and has PLENTY of time left to use until the end of the year. 

 I am considering sending an anonymous note to HR.  WWYD?

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Re: Would you anonymously tell on a co-worker

  • kittycarrkittycarr
    I wouldn't say anything.  It's not your business.  She'll get busted eventually.
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  • SaraSmileSaraSmile
    That's the thing, she won't get busted and this isn't the first time they have done this.  I work in a very small office and managment is never here - they are out selling.  Our HR department is in another office (which consists of 1 person). 
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  • kittycarrkittycarr
    It's irritating but unless it directly affects you and the work you do, just go about your business.  Either she'll be busted because a boss may come looking for her and find her gone or someone else will rat her out.
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  • excitedtobemrsexcitedtobemrs
    I would want to, and might let something casually slip about trying to get a hold of her at 11am & not being able to...but I don't know.  I mean, sure...it's not fair but it's not really goign to benefit you or the time you have available.  She's dishonest, like kitty said -- that will eventually catch up with her.
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  • SaraSmileSaraSmile
    Yes she works in my department so I had to do a bunch of work in her absence yesterday.
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  • sooosiesooosie

    Since she's in your department and you had to do her work, I probably would say something.  That blows!  I'd hate to be a "snitch" but if that affected me she'd be done.

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  • newwifeynewwifey

    No I would not say something unless I was specifically asked. I am sure I would be similarly ticked and I get why it is unfair. But nothing good will come out of it for you-- all you have done is spread the misery. And as the others have said, if it doesn't impact your work in any way it just isn't your business. Don't worry, the karma bus always catches up with these types.

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  • kittycarrkittycarr
    Say something to her rather than tattle tale to the boss.  If you would go to the boss, why would you do it anonymously?
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  • julygaljulygal

    First off, is an anonymous note really going to work?  I mean isn't she going to piece it together that HR had to of found out from someone who works closely enough to her to notice what she is doing.

     Secondly, what is reporting her really going to accomplish?  It sucks she is being dishonest, and it sucks you are playing fairly and getting penalized for it, but truthfully what is the end result you are wanting out of reporting her?

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  • newwifeynewwifey

    OOps, just saw your response that it does impact you... in that case, I'm not sure what I would do. I still think I would take the high road and say something to her rather than take the approach that she somehow needs punishing...

     

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  • DaiLyghtDaiLyght
    imagejulygal:

    Secondly, what is reporting her really going to accomplish?  It sucks she is being dishonest, and it sucks you are playing fairly and getting penalized for it, but truthfully what is the end result you are wanting out of reporting her?

    This sums up my feelings on the matter. I understand where you coming from and you want to see her get caught. But, I honestly believe too much in karma and if she's doing this enough, it will catch up to her eventually. Not to mention, you might find yourself in a similar situation someday. You don't know all the details to her story.

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  • stacynikkistacynikki member
    It sucks but I think I would just let it go.  Karma and all that.  It'll come back to bite her. 
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  • EliseB0323EliseB0323
    I think if you are going to "tell on" someone, you should have the balls to speak up and do it in person.
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  • Flem052204Flem052204

    1)  would would never tell on someone anonymously.  If you really believe you are doing the right thing, at least have the guts to stand up and do it in the open.

     

    2) Even 2 year olds are taught not to be tattletales.  I think a more responsible and adult way to handle the situation would be to approach management/HR with a well thought out alternative to the current absent/tardy plan.  Use your examples to show how it is not always fair but keep your coworker out of it.  Present it as a solution rather than just a way to whine about your co-workers.

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