How to handle RE appointments with little one

nrjf01 · July 2010

My DH and I are now actively TTC #2. If no BFP by the time our daughter is one I plan to head back to RE. I am concerned how to handle the appointments. Trying to get a sitter or my parents to watch her is stressing me out just thinking about it. We don't have that much family close to us that could help. When I was TTC #1 I was upset seeing patients bringing thier little ones to appointments and swore that I would never do that. How do you handle this?

MrsT1209 · July 2010

I don't take her.

Even though I already have one, watching the very much pregnant woman with 4 kids come into the RE's office today still hurt.

She's in daycare though and I schedule appointments during the work day so it doesn't impact my time with her in the evenings.

schoolsoutbride · July 2010

I'm lucky that my Mom lives nearby and can watch him.

There was one time when she was out of town and my regular baby sitter was out of town. I had to bring him then and asked them to bring me straight back to a room.

The office seems ok with it, but I don't like doing it.

AMYBL33 · July 2010

I was concerned about this too only because I really didn't feel like letting my parents know that we were having fertility issues. I ended up having to tell them though because I need them to watch my son when I have appt's. I can't imagine bringing him. He's almost 4 and it would be a nightmare. I guess I could have looked into a sitter, but I feel more comfortable when he's at my parent's house.

smbd · July 2010

I left dd with MH or my grandparents. There were only 2 occasions when she came with me & I didn't have an appointment with a dr/nurse those days. Once was a blood draw at the hospital lab, and the other was an u/s & blood draw - I made sure I got an appointment for the u/s that was reserved for people who had to bring children.

*I saw my RE at a satellite office at the hospital so I was fortunate that the women's u/s lab schedule was made to accommodate IF patients first thing in the morning (starting 2hrs before it saw any other patients) and it had a blocked time slot for 2if patients that may have to bring children with them.

franciscaz · July 2010

I just bit the bullet and paid for a sitter. I couldn't take Harmon for other's sake. Summers are good b/c there are high schoolers looking for work so I had girls in my church watch him.

Some ladies here have had offices that were OB and RE in the same building. So what they have done is wait in the OB section and have the nurse grab them. Is that an option?

cheetah*run · July 2010

My RE does not allow children in the office-no exceptions out of respect to the families.

Is your family not able to help? I am in the same situation with family, so I schedule appts when DD is at school. If it does not work out with the schedule, I go alone, provided DH is not needed.

SkypekWithoutAC · July 2010

Our RE's office doesn't allow it, either. DH has a flexible schedule, so so far he's been able to watch her during my appts, but I did ask one of my SAHM friends to watch DD if he can't, and I have another I could ask if she can't.

kellyloveszach · July 2010

My RE office has very strict rules about no children in the office. I have to arrange childcare with the family and friends. It is stressing me out already but it something we have to do.

soon2Bmrs.AGEE · July 2010

My office has a no kids policy too. I agree with everyone else. It was very hard on me to even see an 8mo pregnant lady there on my first visit. I would never take DD but she is also in daycare so I don't have an issue. I hope you're able to figure something out. I am sure this only adds to the stress.

DeputiesWife · July 2010

I dont take DD with me. We have NO family where we live. When I had to get my IUI I had to go the office 2 hrs away, DH had to work, it was a lot of logistics but we figured it out. I had my neighbor come over.

I think that out of respect for the patients there it would be best to leave your child at home.

The main office I go to has a little waiting room for patients with children.

MandyMilller · July 2010

Wow, my RE's office actually has toys in the waiting room! In fact, they had better stuff than my pedi's office.

Fortunately we didn't have a long road with RE, and I also have family closeby who watched her when I did have to go. However, if it was allowed at my office and I HAD to take her I would have. I'd try to be considerate, but it's not up to me to decide the office's policy on kids.

hoping4more · July 2010

Yup my RE office loves when I bring my DD. They have toys and ask about her when she is not there. Although my RE is also an OB and takes other ultrasound appointments so that may be why.

queenbone · July 2010

I think I took DS every single time. I had asked about the policy on children at an orientation before we signed on. DS is not in daycare and it is nearly impossible for me to find a daycare that does drop in service here in town. With so many appointments I couldn't have my PT working moms cover for me on short notice.

I have never understood why people get so upset over this. I was IF the first time, getting pg with DS wasn't a cure of my IF, it seems impractical to think that you'll never need to come back for treatment after your first child.

MrsMoher · July 2010

There are constantly kids and pg ladies at my REs... in fact there are two of the nurses who are pg right not. They have a big basket of toys like a few pp mentioned. That being said, I really don't want Eli there when everytime I am taking off my cloths, so we have MIL watch him for us so we don't bring him.

lauraNkieran · July 2010

You know reading this made me realize that I have no idea if my RE's office has a no children's policy. The dr does know I have a 10yo but never mentioned anything about her in the office. Out of respect for others I would do everything in my power NOT to bring her with me - but I should ask about it just in case I'm ever totally stuck.

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