anyone's marriage not really the same?

nwagner1 · July 2010

I feel like since we had the baby our connection has faded. Maybe its the stress and busyness of the baby. But I just feel like things are different. ANyone else?

jamielyse1 · July 2010

I feel the same way, glad you said something. I keep hoping things will get better once we get more comfortable with being parents and maybe even once we can have sex again!

CarolinaKatie · July 2010

It does change, but hopefully it will become in a good way. Yes, you have new priorities and your life will NEVER be the same, but in a few months you will be less tired and more used to parenthood. Get a babysitter and have a date night once a month (or more often if you can). Go on over night trips for your anniversary or just random times. We did not do this much at first with our first son, but eventually we did. Luckily we have parents who live nearby. If you are breastfeeding, get the baby used to a bottle so you can get out. Once our son started STTN, he went down at 7 and we'd have my sister come over every once in a while for us to go to dinner and/or a movie. We switched duties with her so she and her hubby could do the same.

coshea1 · July 2010

Just last night DH and I were discussing that even though we are around each other a lot we both feel like we haven't seen each other or gotten any quality time with each other since DS was born.

NiclynB · July 2010

I felt the same way. Especially because DH still went and did the things that we used to do together. I felt like he was moving on or something.

Then I stopped EBFing and we started letting the Grandma's watch DD. It made a world of difference.

We even went golfing last weekend....followed by beer and wings! It was awesome.

And sex helps, even if I'm not really in the mood, I make sure to attack DH once a week

dobbslv · July 2010

I thought I was going to stab my husband for like the first month, then for 3 weeks after that I didn't even talk to him. Once we had sex and reconnected, it was all better. Give it time...probably still hormonal!

erbear · July 2010

It's a new baby thing. Around 3 months, it gets much better!

LuvMyBostons · July 2010

I feel like my marriage has become stronger since DS was born. I have so much love for my husband especially when I see him with DS. We have had just a couple of fights but mostly because I've been so stressed since returning to work. And we actually have been communicating better too. For those that are stressing, I think it does get easier as your LO gets older.

sept9107bride · July 2010

for sure...DH and I seem more jumpy around each other. I'm hoping it gets better the older LO gets!

adelepickle · July 2010

I feel resentment toward my DH. He doesn't get up at night to take care of DS, nor has his lifestyle really changed. I feel like I have had to sacrifice a lot. I love my son, but I don't get me time anymore.

Shortcake2675 · July 2010

Ours is closer and better than it's ever been. We had a hellish first week with bf problems and a screaming baby and it solidified our marriage in a way I would have never imagined.

We haven't had much more than an hour away from her together since she was born, but it doesn't seem to matter.

StephanieDM · July 2010

adelepickle:
I feel resentment toward my DH. He doesn't get up at night to take care of DS, nor has his lifestyle really changed. I feel like I have had to sacrifice a lot. I love my son, but I don't get me time anymore.

This exactly! Don't get me wrong, I love my DH but lately I have some resentful feelings towards him. Since I'm nursing, I'm the one doing all the midnight feedings. The other night LO was crying and wouldn't settle back down after feeding. DH just kind of stirred a little and rolled over. I ended up tossing a pillow over at DH, startling him back awake saying "Ya know, its really not fair that you get to sleep and I don't!" - He jumped into action. lol

MWoodside · July 2010

Overall we are stronger, but one thing we are struggling with is me getting some alone time several times a week to work out. I really have to push for it.

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