How does LO handle other people?

Re: How does LO handle other people?

• susanmosley member

  July 2010

  That is our DD's personality too.  Started almost immediately.  At 21 months, she still doesn't really like anyone else to hold her.  Within the last few months, she is excited to be with other people - but doesn't want them to hold her.  Around 12-14 months, she began to tolerate familiar people staying with her.  It is just who she is and how she is.  

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• momoftwinsplusone

  July 2010

  My little ones all went thru this as well. It was so hard to do anything, and even family weren't able to hold them. I went thru it and it was a phase. I think all kids go thru that seperation anxiety.

  

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• MainelyFoolish member

  July 2010

  Separation anxiety is at its peak between 8 and 14 months.  It's frustrating but entirely developmentally appropriate for your DD to be experiencing this.  It should be mostly gone by 18 to 30 months. 

  Different kids have differing levels of separation anxiety.  Your DD may have a higher level of separation anxiety that other kids because of her personality. 

  My DD had a little bit of separation anxiety but would calm down within a few minutes if we left her with someone else.  She continues to have a pretty fearless personality which is a real treat for trying to keep her from injuring herself! 

  

  

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• justme04 member

  July 2010

  My LO loves everyone.  He just smiles and flirts and doesnt mind other people at all.  It really annoys me....mainly because people will come up to him in stores all the time and sometimes they are creepy looking and I just wish he'd scream and cry. 

  The whole stranger danger conversation with him is going to be long and tedious I can tell.

  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• HarrietNJMommy

  July 2010

  My oldest (DD#1) was just like that. She would cry so hard that she would vomit if someone else was holding her. She has a very cautious personality.

  It went away when she was around 2.5. Now, at 4.5 you would NEVER know that she was ever that way.

  Mommy to Barbara 11/8/05, Elisabeth 5/13/07, Loukas 12/23/08 and Lazarus 09/25/12
  

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• axr8111 member

  July 2010

  We haven't had to deal with this with either of our kids, but have you tried walking out of the room when you pass her to someone you trust like say grandma, to see what she does? I know DS cries when we leave him with a sitter but as soon as we close the door he stops. Wondering if it might be similar with the holding....just a thought...maybe not at all similar.

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• iteachk member

  July 2010

  I could've written this, with the exception that DD doesn't even like DH to hold her/feed her/change her when I'm around, but is fine with my mom.  She too, started around 2-3 months.  I have always let MIL babysit,even though DD cried the whole time I was gone until she was about 13 months old.  Even now, she won't let anyone else hold her & if there is anyone else around us, she follows me around & cries "Ma ma ma ma."

  I left her with MIL b/c I needed an occasional break & didn't want her to miss out on babysitting her 1st grandchild.  She and I were both frustrated that she cried the whole time I was away, but time was the only thing that made it better. 

  I don't really have suggestions, except to take time for yourself (ALONE) every now & then.  Someday she'll outgrow it.  I'll let you know when that happens...

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• joelen&louis member

  July 2010

  So far at about 2 months, LO is doing well. He's pretty curious and isn't afraid of strangers... yet.
  

  

  

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