How do you avoid the adoption"label"? I think I am particularly sensitive to it since I have both a bio and adopted child. DS (bio) frequently tells people that DD is "mommy's baby". I really don't want him to start saying "mommy's adopted baby" . Although it is true that she is adopted, I just don't think it is relevant in most cases.
Here are a couple of situations that are sparking this:
1) Neighbor introduces me to her brother. Brother comments on how cute DD is. Neighbor says "Isn't she cute? They adopted her, actually!". I didn't find this offensive, but I also didn't get the point.
2) Friend of a Friend asks if we adopted the baby. I say yes. Friend then turns to his buddy's 10 year old daughter and says, "Just like you! hahaha". Friend of Friend then jokes, "Yeah, I have something to tell you....". The 10 year old then shrieks in horror (as expected) "I'M NOT ADOPTED!!" Everyone (sans me and DH) laughed. DS was there for this little exchange as well.
I'm kind of glad these things are happening now, because they force me to think about how to approach these situations in the future. The problem is that I just don't know how to approach them. Advice? Similar situations? Let's hear them!