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Need a boost- One year anniversary tomorrow

browneyes_326browneyes_326 member
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So DH is stationed in Spain, I'm in the states ... we missed our first Fathers Day, Mothers Day and now our 1 year wedding anniversary together - which is July 4th, tomorrow :(

We live in Spain together but I had to come back for my sons helmet. Been here since April ... aside from the 1st month getting used to being on my own w/ DS, I've been doing good... happy for the most part. DH was calling everyday until this week. He's TAD to Naples w/ no internet and limited phone ... what perfect timing, love you too US Navy ;)

 So here I sit, been feeling weird since yesterday. Funny because I had told myself so many times that 'It's no big deal, we'll be together very soon' ... so many times that when I started feeling like I was in a funk, I couldn't figure out why. Well, OBVIOUSLY, I miss my husband, I'm a bit lonely, I feel left out of the holiday festivities .... and all i want to do is sit on the couch & eat entire pizza while watching Independence Day (only movie on TV right now ... Oh and the pizza's a BAD idea for the self esteem :0

Anyone been there? ... I'm sure a ton of you ... Tell me I won't lose my mind or gain 15 lbs this weekend :) 

 

 

 

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Re: Need a boost- One year anniversary tomorrow

  • shall923shall923 member
    I have been there. I understand. One day you are getting along just fine and then BAM you get hit in the face with sad loneliness. Last year I thought I was fine right before Valentine's Day and then when the day came I just broke down. I missed him so much. It usually passes before I gain 15 lbs. Enjoy your pizza and pity party tonight. Everyone deserves it sometimes.
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    Your son is adorable with those big eyes, btw.
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  • browneyes_326browneyes_326 member

    Thank you! That helps ... of course I know there are so many wives and babies that don't have their daddy's  / DHs for a year or more (not looking forward to that!!) but I just needed to hear it :)

     Thinking I should save the pizza for tomorrow ... the actual anniversary ... two pizza's in one weekend would not be good ... HA! 

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  • HappyMommy28HappyMommy28 member
    I've been there too.  I'm fine most days but othertimes I get really bummed.  Especially doing one of our annual things (like outdoor concerts, ballgames, or picnics) I get really sad.  I've tried to focus my attention on staying healthy and hanging out with friends.  however, There are times when I will come home and pig out on ice cream.  I don't care about weight at that point.  I want my ice cream.
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  • sophiab1sophiab1

    I had one of those days yesterday!  Just sat around watching bad movies and TV and ordered Chinese. 

    But would your DS enjoy going to a local parade or something where you are?  So you can do something to celebrate the day.  If not, I see nothing wrong with having a pity party for yourself every once in a while. 

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  • Jessalicious01Jessalicious01 member

    I've been there! DH was on his 15 month deployment during our first annivesary and just barely made it home for our second anniversary. I sat home and reminisced by watching our wedding video and looking through our album. I cried of course, but I probably would have done the same thing even if he was home lol!

    Happy Anniversary! 

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