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The Monster-in-law is back in the picture - long
Many of you may remember be posting about my awful MIL. To refresh your memory...
MIL visited us in the hospital when Lola was one day old. They live about 6 hours away. At the time she was sick with a respiratory virus and neglected to tell anyone. She put her hands all over Lola's face and even kissed her on the face. At the time, I didnt know she was sick, but in the days following it became obvious. My husband blew up at her and asked her to leave. A few days later Lola became sick with RSV and even at one point stopped breathing. She was so little that her body could not handle the virus. She was intubated for 3 days and in the hospital for a total of 9. WORST DAYS OF MY LIFE. Thankfully Lola has made a full recovery and is a beautiful, happy, healthy baby girl.
Well, After a wonderful 4 month long break from my a-hole MIL, my husband and I decided to forgive & move past the whole incident. About a week and a half ago, I met MIL and FIL for lunch. This is the first time they've seen her since she was one day old. They both held her and kissed her hands and face, and once I noticed they kissed her on the mouth. I have seen MIL have a cold sore once or twice before so now I am FREAKED OUT!
WTF is wrong with these people??!! So I wrote MIL an email politley asking her to not kiss Lola on the face or mouth because we really dont want her to get sick again.
My question to you... am I being reasonable or do you think Im being a paranoid, overprotective Mama? I am so worried about my Lola getting sick again or possible cold sores on her mouth - gross. I would just be devastated. Any input would be greatly appreciated. TIA
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Re: The Monster-in-law is back in the picture - long
i think you're being nice by politely asking them not to kiss her. i would have been meaner
btw - Lola has amazing eyes!
This, and she is gorgeous!
I guess it depends on if you are afraid of her getting your DD sick or if you are afraid of the cold sores.
I totally understand you not wanting her to kiss her face or hands worrying about getting her sick, but remember that everyone gets sick so you need to tell the same to everyone.
As far as the cold sores go I get them and they do suck but I have been with my DH for 10 years now and he has never gotten one. As long as she is being careful if she has a sore then you should not worry about her spreading the sores to your DD.
You are not being unreasonable. Apparently she's too selfish to care whether the poor baby gets sick, or that you and your DH are spending time tending to a sick baby. I found something on kidshealth.org that said that you can get it from being kissed by someone who has them.
Why the eff would she WANT to kiss a baby with a cold sore on her mouth?!? Nasty! I would have flipped out on her after the RSV thing; the cold sore thing would have rekindled old issues. You were a lot nicer than I would have been.
ETA: I reread...she didn't have a sore at the time. You're probably fine. My bad.