I'm working on a paper for an English class, and I was wondering if some of you could help me out...
I personally have lost a baby through an early term miscarriage, and then another through an ectopic pregnancy that ruptured. I'm writing my paper on the emotional side of early term miscarriages, and I'm specifically working on the interview portion of the project at the moment.
My thesis is based on the idea that women who have early term miscarriages need just as much support and allowance to grieve as women who have had late term miscarriages, or have lost a baby at or shortly after birth.
I know that within this message board that fact is appreciated, but I personally experienced a lack of sensitivity from people who had never been through the same thing... Most people couldn't understand why I was grieving the loss of a baby I had never held, and "It just wasn't meant to be" was the most common response I got.
I was hoping a few of you would be willing to answer some questions I put together. I'm not looking for you to agree with my thesis... All thoughts and feelings are welcome. I'm also not looking for an specific length to any of the questions. Please, feel free to write a two page response if that's what you have to say... It's been very good therapy for me to write this paper, and I wouldn't want to hinder the same on your side if telling your entire story would help your healing process.
I'll list the questions below, and anyone who would like to respond can do so either as a response to this post, or in a private message. Please let me know if follow up questions are okay/not okay. Thank you so much in advance for your help.
Would you describe your emotions about the loss?
Having not met your baby, what is it you are grieving after your miscarriage?
Do you think it would have been more or less painful to have lost your baby at full term/at birth?
Lastly, for anyone who has lost a baby through an early term MC and another at birth, what are the similarities and differences in the emotions you went through?
Thank you very much again.