(very) minor vent - how about you?

ScissorTailedFlycatcher · July 2010

This happens about every time with BM, but she takes about 20 minutes to say goodbye to the kids. Even though she's late for work, she still takes that long. Just go. Say, "Bye. Bye. I love you," *kiss*kiss* and got on your merry way.

Anyone else, or am I just annoyed for no reason?

lvkeanu2 · July 2010

Luckily we don't have THIS particular issue, but I would be super annoyed if it were the case. She is a bit like that on the phone when we have the kids but not so much in person.

mom2one · July 2010

Goodbyes are hard. I guess when it bugs you, try to think how you'd feel dropping off Darby for days at a time? Being a mom isn't easy.

ScissorTailedFlycatcher · July 2010

mom2one:
Goodbyes are hard. I guess when it bugs you, try to think how you'd feel dropping off Darby for days at a time? Being a mom isn't easy.

I've dropped off Darby for days at a time. I didn't find it that hard.

::shrugs shoulders::

It's not because I don't love them.

mom2one · July 2010

And I find that horrifying. lol. So I guess it just depends on your personality, parenting style, etc. No need to judge her. You are just different.

J&A2008 · July 2010

I'd be annoyed, too, simply because schedules seem to mean nothing to this woman who is trying to raise two truants.

littlestbear03 · July 2010

It would annoy me, luckily we do not deal with this at all. Drop offs and pick ups usually run pretty smooth and fast.

FloF9 · July 2010

I'm annoyed at BM because whenever she talks to SS it's practically a 5 minute conversation and she hasn't seen him in a year. I mean really. How can you sleep at night lady???

By the way SS found out she just came to Miami a few days ago (Miami is about 4 hours away) with her man to hang out at South Beach for an extended weekend. Do you think she told him she was coming? Do you think she made the drive to Orlando to see him? She announced the trip on her FB though.

fellesferie · July 2010

The way that I look at it, as soon as exH or his parents arrive to pick up DS, it's their time--not mine.

I know that they're coming to get him or that I'm taking him to them, so I get extra hugs or whatever before they get here.

When they're here it's just a hug, a kiss, a couple more i love yous and it's done. If there's no chit chat between the grownups (which there always is), it would be a 2-3 minute thing.

barroshe · July 2010

My SDs BM does this every time. She goes into how much she's going to miss her, that she'll call her later that night, remember how much mommy loves you and what we talked about this weekend, etc. Then it's always followed up with whispers while they're hugging. BM leaves and SD is torn to pieces and crying her eyes out. Meanwhile BM doesn't call but maybe once a week for a less than 5 minute conversation, and the reason she misses her so much is the fact that instead of coming to get SD EOW like she should, she comes once every month or two. I think it's too much for SD to deal with, and that a short goodbye should be fine. I mean they have an hour and 15 minute drive to talk about how much she loves SD, it doesn't need to happen at my front door.

ScissorTailedFlycatcher · July 2010

barroshe:
My SDs BM does this every time. She goes into how much she's going to miss her, that she'll call her later that night, remember how much mommy loves you and what we talked about this weekend, etc. Then it's always followed up with whispers while they're hugging. BM leaves and SD is torn to pieces and crying her eyes out. Meanwhile BM doesn't call but maybe once a week for a less than 5 minute conversation, and the reason she misses her so much is the fact that instead of coming to get SD EOW like she should, she comes once every month or two. I think it's too much for SD to deal with, and that a short goodbye should be fine. I mean they have an hour and 15 minute drive to talk about how much she loves SD, it doesn't need to happen at my front door.

This isn't my exact situation (we have them every weekend), but much of what you said is how I feel. I think the majority of what she does/says just keeps that attachment there. I think attachment is different than relationship. The kids are fine after she leaves, but it'd be better for them if she didn't draw it out.

mom2one · July 2010

barroshe:
My SDs BM does this every time. She goes into how much she's going to miss her, that she'll call her later that night, remember how much mommy loves you and what we talked about this weekend, etc. Then it's always followed up with whispers while they're hugging. BM leaves and SD is torn to pieces and crying her eyes out. Meanwhile BM doesn't call but maybe once a week for a less than 5 minute conversation, and the reason she misses her so much is the fact that instead of coming to get SD EOW like she should, she comes once every month or two. I think it's too much for SD to deal with, and that a short goodbye should be fine. I mean they have an hour and 15 minute drive to talk about how much she loves SD, it doesn't need to happen at my front door.

This scenario is AWFUL and not at all the kind of thing that shortyred was talking about. I feel really bad for your SD. Shame on her mom.

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