When are you going to tell?

monlyn9 · July 2010

With my first pregnancy, several of my college friends found out right after we did because we were all together and I was not drinking. They know me well enough to know I would have at least one or two even if I was on medication etc so I had no excuses that they would believe. We waited until after the first appt to tell our parents and siblings and then over the next few weeks we told all the rest of our family and close friends when the opportunity presented itself.

This time, I don't know if I want to wait. We have our first appt on July 19. I originally wanted to wait until DSs birthday party on Aug 22 and have him open a "big brother" t-shirt as the last present. I love the idea in theory but I don't think I can wait that long. The big issue is that we are going to Myrtle Beach the first week of August with some friends (the same college group that knew first the first time around!) There is no way I can not drink for a whole week around them and them not figure it out. I would like to tell just our parents and siblings after the first appointment and wait until the birthday party to tell everyone else, but I don't think they could all keep their mouths shut for a whole month.

Part of me just wants to tell everyone now and be done with it!

What do you all think? When are you telling.

mariannerules · July 2010

A select few know, but everyone else will find out at 12 weeks. That was the same with DD

TG508 · July 2010

i told my mom the day i found out (she is my best friend and i cudnt keep it from her) and she told my dad. i also told my sister in-law the day i found out and she told my brother. but other than those 4, no one knows and we plan to keep it that way as long as we can. its driving me crazy not to tell everyone i see. our first appt is the 12th so i guess we will decide after that.

with DS i was young so keeping it a secret was easy since i wast ready for my parents to find out yet. but eventually they did and turns out they were super happy

hawkilady · July 2010

We've told our parents/siblings (my parents on Father's Day, DH's last weekend), my BFF knows because she's trying to set a wedding date and was contemplating Feb/early Mar and I couldnt not tell somebody, one of DH's friends knows because he told him he was going to be a dad and DH had to tell him too. All of these people are sworn to secrecy until end of the first trimester though when we make it public.

I'm sure a couple more will find out along the way but I really want it to be DH and I doing the telling not our parents and I dont want to have to untell people god-forbid anything goes wrong so we are trying to keep it really limited.

It is really hard not to tell though, especially when I feel like crap and am declining invites to go out with friends where they would know if I wasnt drinking, etc.

johannaknip · July 2010

We will not be telling until after 1st Tri. We may break down and tell after my next appointment (about 11 weeks) but that will still only be family.

Buckets of Moonbeams · July 2010

After early fetal echo at 13 weeks.

ETA: my mom, sister and H's dad knows.

mzclaire · July 2010

We're driving from SF to LA this weekend to tell the family (both mine and his) And then I want to tell my BFs when we get back. But I'd like to keep it secret until at least the 2nd tri for other friends and general public. I really want to tell everyone, but should something (god forbid) go wrong, I know that I'll at least have the support of my closest friends and family to fall back on.

ReeseM · July 2010

We told immediate family right away. Then we told everyone at 9 weeks after I had had two ultrasounds. Seems like it wasn't much of a surprise to most people since I had been feeling so bad!

AggieBeth06 · July 2010

Depends on how the appt next week goes!

cgr8979 · July 2010

I told most of my close friends when I found out (I was 6 weeks)...I waited to make it public (via facebook) until I had my first sonogram and heard the heartbeat (@ 9 weeks).

Jenniferk08 · July 2010

i told family on fathers day at 7wks. i've been telling close friends one at a time when i can get to talk to them and by about 3-4 months i'll fill in others.

s5m9j · July 2010

I had to tell work around 5w5d because I was having heavy bleeding and needed to go to the doctors. We finally told our parents / siblings at 8w1d. We haven't really told any other family / friends but we have already had three ultrasounds due to the bleeding so we have seen the heartbeat etc. I am just trying to be cautious.

chardonnay24 · July 2010

Best friend - as soon as I found out

My parents - after first U/S (6 weeks)

His parents - after second U/S (8.5 weeks)

Everyone else - after next U/S (12.5 weeks)

st.augbride · July 2010

I told my best friend right away b/c she knew we were dealing with IF treatments. We told our parents and dh's brother/his fiance right after first u/s with a heartbeat at 6 weeks. We have pregnant friends staying with us next week, so we'll likely tell them too. Plus, tonight a friend sent me a message on fb saying she had a dream we had a baby and asking if it means something! So, how can I not tell her now?

Danielle42576 · July 2010

Most family knows and a few friends but waiting to tell everyone else until after I have my first ultrasound on July 20th.

Want a personalized experience?

When are you going to tell?

Re: When are you going to tell?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards