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DavezWife
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What am I doing wrong? (won't stay dry at nite anymore)
DavezWife
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My daughter turned 2 last March, and about 2 months prior, she seemed ripe for PT'ing, so we went for it, and I'd say she was officially off the dipes by her 2nd bday! yeah! (we did a very loose EC model prior, so the actual training was super easy)
At that point, she was dry all nite, every nite.
Then a couple months later she would start saving her poop for naptime, so I put her in a pullup for naps and eventually nights. We'd talk it out, keep these dry, etc. and when she would wet or poop in them, I'd make sad faces and remind her they need to stay dry. If she stayed dry, SUPER whoo hoos and a celebration.
This is STILL going on. She has not woken up dry in weeks. BUT when I get her in the morning, it's a hot load, and I KNOW she just peed. She's still in her crib and STTN. It's a very rare thing to see her have an accident during the day.
I just don't know what to do... wait until she goes back to staying dry all night? deal with the mess and laundry for a couple days... she'll get it?
How do I TOTALLY potty train my kid? (or is she young enough to still be "normal" for doing this?)
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Re: What am I doing wrong? (won't stay dry at nite anymore)
In my opinion, since you think she's capable and has done it in the past, you need to stock up on clean sheets and deal with it for a few days. Technically I'd say she's young still (DS#1 night trained at 3) but in your situation I think it seems like more a manipulation. Besides, I've done this 3 day PTing thing, and I do think most kids can do it younger than we think. We mostly had to break DS#2 of peeing right after we laid him down because he was lazy and knew he could.
With my niece they've just been waiting for her to start waking up dry, and it isn't happening. She's 5.5. They say it's because she sleeps 11 hours at night and hard, but I think if they start letting her get wet at night, she'll start getting up if she needs to. Plus they don't really regulate her drinks at night. I try to hold my tongue about this though with them because we parent very similar otherwise, but this one they've let go a little far. I'm hoping they'll see that my 2 yo usually makes it through the night (aside from last night's debacle) with a little help from us. Sure, DH and I each get up once, but DS knows better than to go in bed before/after that usually, and hopefully soon he'll start the wake ups on his own.
Since she had been doing it consistently before, it sounds like she's certainly capable. DD just PTd 3 weeks ago, but night/nap trained at the same time and has never wet her bed either. I agree with the PP that I think a lot of kids are ready earlier than we give them credit for. It just usually takes accidents, which are unpleasant
Anyway, if she's still in a crib, maybe that's playing into it; if she can't get up on her own to pee when she needs to? DD has been in a toddler bed for a couple months (so, before she PTd) and does occasionally get up to pee in the night (maybe once every 5 nights or so). I also cut her drinks off (except for sips) about 2 hours before bed.
If she's still in a pullup at night, my guess is you're going to have to put her back in undies before she'll start staying dry all night again. It'll probably take some accidents though. But she knows she can pee in a pullup, so she does, you know?
And PP, some friends of mine had the same experience with their DD. She had been PTd since 2.5, but was still in a pullup at night until 5 b/c she was wet every morning. She was saving it until morning though and too lazy to go to the bathroom (so they said). Once they put her in underwear, it finally stopped.
the evening drinking is also a culprit, I'm sure. Ava drinks a LOT of milk, and is used to about 8-10 oz at 8pm with her nana and book. She's a skinny thing (super tall) so I don't want to just cut those calories out, and despite my efforts, she doesn't wanna drink that earlier.
We have gotten her a big bed, and I was just stalling to move her in it, b/c I love that I know where she is, and she STTN. She doesn't seem to mind the crib one bit, albeit she's getting too big for it.
Le sigh. any other ideas? I'm thinking we might just wait until the end of summer, and do both the big girl bed and underwear at night... my friend got her daughter to stay dry all night by taking away her pretty sheets - she slept in 200ct plain ones until she stayed dry, THEN she got the soft girlie pretty Dora ones as a reward. I can see that working with Ava. She's got good taste. lol.