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Missed Miscarriage (10 weeks)
Hey Ladies! I could really use some help,support,and advice. I went to my dr. app. yesterday, and it turns out, my baby had no heart beat. I am going in for surgery tomorrow, for the D&C. I would really like to hear some of your guy's experiences, and stories. Anything to help me right now.
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Re: Missed Miscarriage (10 weeks)
Hi hon,
I have had two d&c's (one at 12 weeks and one at 8 weeks) in the last year, and am literally laying in bed recovering from a thid similar proceedure this morning.
Physically, the proceedure is easy as could be. You'll just fall asleep, and wake up about 45 minutes later. Minor cramping and a little sore for the next few days, but nothing motrin and rest don't take care of.
I am so, so sorry for your loss, and I hope your surgery goes well. You are in my thoughts.
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m/c 12/25/09 (5w5d) mm/c D&C 4/9/10 (11w1d) Take home baby 2/22/11
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Sorry to know you are going through this too. I just had a d&c yesterday.
We went in for our NT scan at 13w5days and instead found out that baby had no heartbeat and measured 11w2days.
It is very sad, heartbreaking, and makes me angry all at the same time as this is our 2nd m/c in a row.
As for tomorrow, just try to relax. The doctors will take good care of you as well as the anesthesiologists. You can pm me if you need to. Also, as a pp mentioned the Miscarriage /Preg Loss board is here if you need them. I know how you're feeling. Take care.
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I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I also had a missed m/c (discovered at 9.5 weeks, baby measured 7.5 weeks) and had a d&c 2 days later.
Physically, the procedure is easy. You'll be under full sedation and won't really feel any different when you wake up (I felt no soreness down there). My doctor gave me some pills to help my uterus contract and those caused some cramping, but I was able to travel the next day.
Emotionally, it's really rough (although personally was easier for me than the natural m/c's I've had). The worst part for me was going into the hospotal "pregnant" and leaving not pregnant and empty handed.
Before my procedure the chaplin came in and offered to pray with us which induced my first tears that day. It was great for me because it was the first outside person that acknowledged what we were really there for - the loss of our child - not just a routine procedure.
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Hi:
I am so sorry ...having been there I wish I could take all the sadness away. I had a DNC in January of this year. Personally I think it is better to do then waiting for a natural miscarriage becasue it allows you to move on.
The procedure itself is not painful...you will be very sleepy after and slightly crampy but they will give you something to help. Just plan on resting the remainder of the day.
Plan something nice for you and your hubby.....a weekend getaway if you can; a nice dinner at your favortie restuarant just take some time to focus on the 2 of you.
Your body did this for a very good reason....the baby was not genetically sound so as sad as it may be it is amazing how our bodies work.
Stay positive and in a few weeks you can begin to try again
Good Luck
I'm so, so sorry that you have to go through this. It sucks. It's unfair and it makes you so angry and sad. I've had two d&c's - one because of problems with my d&e and one because of a blighted ovum. I agree with this poster:
I waited for 7 or 8 weeks to mc naturally and it did not work. My body still thought it was pregnant.
The d&c itself wasn't bad, but it was still pretty heartbreaking. The ladies on the miscarriage and pregnancy loss board are wonderful, as are the ladies on Trying to Conceive After a Loss (TTCAL). Good luck and T&P to you and your DH.
Unfortunately, you are not alone. Missed m/cs are a cruel thing. Mine was found at about 10 weeks, baby had stopped developing at about 5 weeks. My doctor felt a D&C wasn't necessary, since there wasn't a lot of 'stuff' to pass, so I took cytotec to induce the m/c. Honestly, I would have preferred getting the physical part over with quickly with the D&C.
I feel deeply for anyone going through this and I hope you are able to take the time you need to deal with the emotional loss and find yourself ready to move on and try again. Definitely check out the mcpl board when you're ready. Big hugs coming your way.
I am so sorry.
First off, I want to say that my heart goes out to you. I was also 10 weeks when I found out the baby didn't have a heartbeat and was measuring 7 weeks. I was heartbroken. I truly wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
While I was terrified of the D&C, anesthesia, etc., it ended up not being so bad. The hospital took really good care of me and gave me painkillers for afterward. While the painkillers just dulled the pain (which was bad in the lower back), they did make my mood a bit better.
Be prepared for people to say some really stupid, insensitive things, mainly because no one knows exactly what to say. You're going to get a lot of "It's what god wanted," "it happened for a reason," and "you'll get pregnant again." All things that aren't exactly what you want to hear when you just lost your baby. To be honest, the best thing anyone could have said to me was, "Life sucks sometimes." It summed it up perfectly.
Again, I am really sorry. I know that we don't know each other, but if you need to talk, feel free to PM me.
First, I'm so sorry for your loss. It's completely heartbreaking, and my advise to you is to take the time to grieve.
I had a D&C for my first m/c (also a missed miscarriage). It wasn't hard physically, but mentally it was hard. I was at the hospital for just a few hours and then I slept at home for the next 16 hours. I had almost no bleeding and very little cramping.
I'll be thinking about you tomorrow. Good luck.
Just lurking, but I thought I could help. I had a missed m/c in Sept. I found out at11weeks and the embryo stopped at just 5 1/2 weeks. I had a D&C a week later (the day after my birthday). It is a very sad and emotional experience. The actual D&C is not the bad part though. It was actually a relief for me. I had been feeling sick for a long time and felt better immediately after. My doctor also told me that it was not necessary to be put under for the procedure, but that he strongly suggested it because it was alot to take in emotionally. I could not imagine being awake as they sucked my baby out of me. It is going to be a hard time for you. If you told anyone make sure that you are prepared for people to ask you about your baby. Also make sure that people closest to you understand how you are feeling. My DH had a hard time understanding why I was still upset weeks later.
That being said- things will turn around for you. Just because you have m/c doesnt mean that it will happen again, and I pray that it doesnt. I am very sorry for your loss.