ParentS staying 5 weeks!! Vent
I am due in August and my parents are planning on coming in(7 hour drive) to stay at my house for the first 2 weeks when LO is born andthen coming back in September and staying for an additional 3 weeks!!!!!!! Also, that last weekin September, BOTH of my brothers will be visiting so we will have a fullhouse! This is also the weekendbefore I go back to work, so I know I will be anxious!!! SO, that?s a total of 5 weeks that myparents will be staying with me at my house (out of my 8 weeks off!)
So, I think I am about to send my parents an e-mail sayingthat is tooooo much!! This is their first grandchild and they are super excited, have done somuch for him already and I know they will be CRUSHED!
I feel super loved and blessed that they are so into theirnew grandchild. But I have beengetting soooo anxious just thinking about having houseguests for that long andworried about bonding time and nursing.
So I am about to break their hearts, but I think it will allbe better in the end! Hopefully it will be a huge relief after I write the e-mail!
Re: ParentS staying 5 weeks!! Vent
I totally agree with you that 5 weeks is too much, especially when you only have 8 weeks off from work. You will appreciate the help but you also need time alone as a family. It will be a big shock for you to have your parents leave and then immediately start work. You need some alone time with baby to figure out your new life routine. Maybe your parents could come back but not so soon??
FWIW, we have a 10 day house guest policy. Any more than that and DH and I would go crazy.
I think I'd talk to them about just staying 1 week and then maybe another week in Sept. Maybe they could come stay the first couple of weeks that you're back at work so you wouldn't have to put baby in daycare right away. It might be an easier transition for you.
When DD was born my parents stayed with me for the first week. That was almost too much. I needed to be able to roam around my house with my top off practically to try to get the hang of nursing and that just didn't happen with them here. This time DH is taking the first 2 weeks off and then my parents will come for the 3rd week.
Oh hell no! There is NO way I would want over night company at my house for 5 weeks if I only had 8 weeks to be with my LO.
We have a two week rule for when LO comes home...zero over night guests period. Just me, DH and LO.
THey are more than welcome to visit during the day but I can't handle overnight and making sure everyone is taken care of. For one thing I do 100% of everything when we have overnight company: cook, clean...etc.
Not happening
Good Luck. Hopefully, they will understand!
This is me. My mom was so pushy about staying here for 2 weeks, I had to specifically ask her what she thinks that she will be doing here... playing w/ the baby while I cook and clean for her? Because that's what I would do with overnight guests but NO FREAKING WAY that I would do it now.
Good luck!