Hello Ladies. Have you shared your TTTC w/ friends and/or family? If so, did you feel "relieved" afterward?
I am an extremely private person IRL and I have not told anyone we are TTC, but I wonder if telling my sister or possibly my MIL about our issues and upcoming RE appointment may reduce some of my anxiety, sadness, etc.
Just curious whether those that have shared with family and/or friends felt any relief in getting it off their chest?
Thanks.
Re: Have you shared your TTTC w/ friends or family?
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Diagnosed with PCOS: 10/03, On BCP to "treat" until: 7/09
Provera to end Cycles 1-9 (anovulatory)
Cycle #4 & 5: Clomid 50 mg FAIL
RE Visit: 2000 mg Metformin
Cycle 6:Forced Break, looking for androgen secreting tumor
Cycle 7:Clomid CD 3-10, 12-17 FAIL
Cycle 8: Clomid CD 3-10, Bravelle CD 12-24 Hyperstimmed
New RE: Put on Byetta, lost 23 lbs
Cycle 9: Financial Break
Cycle 10: Femara CD 3-7, IUI CD 17 BFP on 2/14/11, m/c 3/7/11
To be honest, my entire immediate family and a few close friends know our whole story right down to DH's SA results. We've been pretty open about it because I'm very close to my family and need their support, but also with some of our friends so if anyone else has to deal with IF they have someone to talk to.
That said, DH posts it on FB. When we found out about the IUI... look on facebook.. "IUI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" Really? lol. I guess he's excited but he tells everyone everything.
Me (32) DH (30)
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TTC Journey
7/2008 - begin TTC
7/2009 - began charting
9/2009 - Dx Endometriosis
10/2009 - HSG/SA (Normal)
12/2009 -6/2010 - Lupron #1 & 2
Sep-Nov 2010- Clomid Cycles #1&2 = BFN
Dec 2010 - Clomid Cycle #3 = BFP (1/11/11);no h/b (2/10/11); D&C (2/23/11)
5/11-6/11 - herbal tea regime = BFN
7/24/2011- herbal tea regime = surprise BFP
We haven't told any of our family that we are TTC or or having TTTC. We are private people too so we keep it all between us and my Bump friends of course.
At the beginning of the year when I was thinking about seeing an RE I did talk to my BFF because she had been seeing a RE for 8 years and I wanted a referral. I now talk to her a bit about our treatment since she went through IVF several times. I wouldn't say it was a relief to tell her but it is nice having her to talk to.
There are several friends who know that have gone through IF treatments (and a couple who know that I'm just super close to that didn't go through IF). Honestly it really has helped having the friends who have gone through the same thing to talk to.
That being said, our families don't know. I'm sure they suspect. They all know we want kids, we built and moved into a house that's way too big for just the 2 of us 2.5 years ago...and we're still childless. At first I said, well if we've been trying for a year I'll tell my parents. Then it was, if we start seeing an RE I'll tell my parents. Then it was, if we need to do IF treatments I'll tell my parents. We're beyond all that and I still haven't told. All I keep thinking is...I can never "untell". So for now, I'm keeping it to myself.
Good luck to you.
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It took 44 cycles, just over 3 years, 6 failed IUI's in MI, and 1 round of IVF at CCRM to get our BFP!
Beta #1 (9dp5dt) = 206, Beta #2 (11dp5dt) = 438
1st u/s @ 6w5d = 11/11/11 = ONE little bean! HB 120bpm!
?Our Baby Boy Born June 26th, 2012?
I am an open sharing person with everyone so my family knew we were "trying" right after we got married. His family has caught on too...I think. I finally had to spill the details to my mom because she is constantly pressuring me and asking bold questions at inappropriate times. Now hopefully she will think twice before opening her mouth, especially around DH.
It's a tough call, but it sure felt nice to get it off my chest to someone other than DH who hears about it all the time.
GL!
I have one friend that I told because I knew that she had gone thru something similar. Another friends knows because of all my Dr appts~he doesn't ask a lot of questions but it nice about saying "good luck"
I have not told anyone in my family because they are all BSC and I forbid H to talk to his family because they'll put too much pressure on us. so its mostly bumpy support
We've told a couple of friends, but not our families. Mainly because 1. I know they would worry waaay too much and 2. because they would be hovering. I am having a lap done and I am really on the fence about telling them about that since I will be under general anesthesia, but honestly I would rather avoid dealing with 1 and 2 above.
This....definitely.