S/O Taking the first year for granted

stever · June 2010

Even before Jen's wonderful post I'd been getting misty-eyed about Mikey's first year. Not only feeling a bit sad that he's transitioning from babyhood to toddlerhood, but feeling sad because I feel like I missed so much of his first year... and I was right here.

I feel like I spent so much time when he was NB-6 or 7 months just feeling exhausted and overwhelmed that I overlooked what a wonderful time it was. He was always the love of my life, but I resented when he would only nap for 20 minutes at a time after not sleeping for more than an hour the previous night. Or 7 nights Tongue Tied

Now I can't believe I wasn't always staring at him and taking mental snapshots of him when he was wee instead of crying because he wouldn't let me nap.

Does any of that make sense?

ml0904 · June 2010

Oh yes it does, I was thinking the same thing. It is almost making me sob because the first magical year is over. Don't get me wrong I love each day and the wonder of finding out who she is becoming but I wish I would have enjoyed that early time more

busybea · June 2010

ohhh, that TOTALLY makes 100% complete sense, I think we have all felt the same, in one way or another, but in all honesty, I think that we have truly taken those mental snapshots and enjoyed our "babies" much more than we give ourselves credit for.

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carladillon · June 2010

Understood! My cousin's wife just had their first baby a few weeks ago, and I just so want to take them by the shoulders and tell them to treasure every moment because it goes so fast!

And you know - soooo many people with older kids would tell me that, and I'd be thinking, "Yeah, I wouldn't mind things speeding up a bit so she would get through this 'waking up every 2 hours' period!". But now I understand...I REALLY understand...

ShannonLK · June 2010

I have boys that are almost 15 & 11. It goes by much fast than you can EVER imagine - trust me!! I think because I know this it makes me appreciated my time with Logan even more.

Enjoy the crying. Enjoy the smiles. Enjoy it all. Once it's gone you can't get it back.

M.Amy · June 2010

I totally understand. I remember during my maternity leave I would be so excited when Matty was napping so I could watch tv or do laundry or basically anything that didn't have to do with watching him.

Someone once told me that the hours go by slowly but the months and years fly by. Those words ring so true to me!

YaraC · June 2010

I understand even though my LO isn't even a year yet. I regret all the times while she was tiny that I wished she would just sleep and sleep somewhere besides on me because I had so many things I needed to get done. Really? What better did I have to do than sit there and snuggle with my sweet tiny baby?

daisydana · June 2010

I know. We all feel it - time flying by. I'm sure you have stopped and taken mental pictures when you've felt it happening. We all have, but it doesn't make time freeze. Enjoy Mikey everyday as much as you already have. Hugs.

superaunt · June 2010

as sick as this may sound, in a sense i'm almost glad i was forced into being a WM after only 9 weeks because it really made me cherish all the little moments with her - including the wakings and whatnot. every.single.moment. never once did i wish time go by faster; never once did i worry about the laundry or what to make for dinner. i told my husband, my family, my friends that those 9 weeks belonged to me and my baby- as do the weekends now and any days off i might get...

Pesky · June 2010

absolutely! Which is why I have enjoyed this the 2nd time around so much more. I wasn't so tense and worried, I knew that it would fly by and knew enough to enjoy all the stages as well as I could.

Peppernut · June 2010

I totally get it! I also call my mom a lot more often!

leffe1 · June 2010

It makes so much sense to me. I still have to catch myself to enjoy this time even though it can be difficult! Thanks for reminding me once again.

Puckchick07 · June 2010

Totally makes sense! As you can see, you're not alone in thinking this.

KD288 · June 2010

Can not agree more...We have all said it and we all agree...it goes to fast!!! Crying

BTW, Mikey's birthday is my 6th anniversary!

peeper72 · June 2010

You are in good company it seems!!

I feel like I wrote almost this exact smae post just a few weeks ago - something about her first birthday looming just sent me into an emotional tailspin. I love her so much - every new thing is so wonderful but also means leaving babyhood behind, which is so sad because I don't want to leave it behind!

stever · June 2010

Aw, thanks girls!

I knew that we all felt the similar way, I was just concerned that I'd worded it oddly.

fiazo · June 2010

Absolutely. Between your post & Jen's, you both hit on what I have been feeling alot of lately. I guess because they are nearing a year? We anticipate the future, we mourn the past (of what will no longer be). We need to live in the future.

After I watched my video of her walking, I watched a video of her when she was 2 months old just lieing there, arms & legs flailing, & so happy. I cried.

nisems · June 2010

Me too. I feel like she is changing so much right now and while it thrills me, at the same time it crushes me that she is no longer my baby. I had an emotional outburst last night - I cried like I did in those first post partum days - you know, the huge tears, the ugly cry face, all of it. DH looked at me like I was crazy and when he asked what was wrong all I could get out was "she isn't my baby anymore. and someday she is going to HATE me"

I've really tried to take all of the stages in, and never ever wish away any of it, but life does get in the way sometimes. I guess all we can do is our best to live in the moment and enjoy the heck out of these sweet little ones that we've been blessed with. Oh my....gotta go before I start sobbing at my desk.....oy.

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