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Bedsharers: is your toddler ever awake while you're asleep?
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As I posted yesterday, LO has been going through a phase where he wakes up in the middle of the night and can't go back to sleep. Last night he slept in his crib until around 2:30(?) and then came into our bed. DH often will stay asleep but I'm always awake when LO is - however, I have very little recollection of what happened after he came into bed with us. I know I nursed him. I know he was awake at some point again after that (maybe even twice), but I was so exhausted I guess I went right back to sleep. And, apparently, so did he! While I'm thrilled, this makes me nervous b/c our bed is on a frame without any sort of railing, so it's possible he could fall off if he got near the edge (at least there is carpeting). So, that's why I'm usually awake when he is, b/c I want to be able to monitor his whereabouts(not to mention, I'm always trying to help him go back to sleep). Anyway, yay for him putting himself back to sleep, but yikes for being asleep when he could have gotten into trouble! For this reason, we should probably make our bed less dangerous, but I keep thinking he's going to transition to his crib full-time very soon.
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LO #1 - 1 unmedicated/self-monitored IUI w/ donor sperm.
LO #2 - 1 m/c, 2 BFNs, 4th IUI worked (unmedicated/self-monitored with new donor sperm).
Life is beautiful!
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Re: Bedsharers: is your toddler ever awake while you're asleep?
Why not teach him to get down? We started teaching DD to get down from our bed when she was around 10 or 11 months so we didn't have to worry about her falling off if she got to close.
Now, at 21 months, we even have stairs so she can get on the bed by herself. If she wakes and we want to get a little more shut eye, she'll get down and go to her room to play. Our house is 100% babyproof so we don't worry about her... well, unless she's too quiet then we'll get up to check on her, but its nice that she can have that bit of independence.
DD is usually in her room all night, but every once in a while she'll end up with us. And when she does, she usually has a hard time going back to sleep (but at least she's not crying in her room). We used to have our bed on lifts to make it higher. We've taken those out so our bed is really pretty low, but still on a frame. Other than that, I make sure she's in between me and DH so that she won't roll off and I keep our room baby-proofed and close the door. We actually haven't had it happen yet that she gets down off the bed without me noticing first that she's awake. HTH!
BTW, your DS is getting so big and absolutely adorable! I just want to rub my cheeks on his little peach-fuzz head!
We've done this. He does know how to get down safely, but my concern is that he doesn't necessarily have a sense of where he is on the bed. So, he can be sitting near the edge facing inward and have no clue he's that close to the edge. One false move and he'd be over the edge. He generally sleeps in between DH & me (unless I'm nursing on the left side in which case I try to stay awake until he's done and I can move him back between us), but I worry about those occasions where I do fall asleep nursing on that side, or him waking up and crawling over closer to the edge.
I like the stool idea!
LO #1 - 1 unmedicated/self-monitored IUI w/ donor sperm.
LO #2 - 1 m/c, 2 BFNs, 4th IUI worked (unmedicated/self-monitored with new donor sperm).
Life is beautiful!
We do the same but occasionally I'll fall asleep while nursing on my left side and even when he's between us I worry about him waking up and crawling over to the edge. I'm a light sleeper but lately have been so exhausted, it's hard to know what will happen!
Oh, thanks!! I was just admiring your beautiful daughter.
LO #1 - 1 unmedicated/self-monitored IUI w/ donor sperm.
LO #2 - 1 m/c, 2 BFNs, 4th IUI worked (unmedicated/self-monitored with new donor sperm).
Life is beautiful!
Oh, how I wish I could sleep while he is awake! He slaps and pulls hair until we wake up...
As for making the bed safer, we side carred the crib and then we sleep with him between us. Also, we taught him how to get out of bed safely when he was 9 mos. old. He is so clingy that he won't leave bed without one of us anyway so I don't have worries about him getting out and causing mayhem throughout the house.