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Telling family about the pregnancy

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I'm so upset. I don't want to tell anyone until I'm out of the first trimester and my husband just doesn't understand. My family knows because my step dad has a big mouth and I'm really upset about it. But now my husband wants to tell his family and I'm just not ready. Have any of you had this problem? What should I do?

 

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    alathamalatham member
    I can understand you being upset about it. But it's really unfair if your family knows, but your husbands family can't know. Put yourself in his shoes, you'd be really upset if you were him. So unfortunately, one of you is going to be upset.
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    Ivana_StolichnayaIvana_Stolichnaya member
    Your husband should respect your wishes.
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    MolluskwranglerMolluskwrangler member
    I wanted to tell the people I was close to b.c if god forbid something happened I would want that support.  I told my family and the people closest to me.
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    HyfagalHyfagal member

    How did your step dad find out?

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    HyfagalHyfagal member

    imageIvana.Stolichnaya:
    Your husband should respect your wishes.

    Yes, but it's his baby too. If something happens he may need the support of his family.

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    missesrumissesru member

    Either you should have decided to not tell either family until you were ready, or you tell both sides.  It's not fair to make your husband wait to tell him family if he wants to, when you've already told yours.

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    Ryan&Kristin062009Ryan&Kristin062009 member
    That stinks your step dad blabbed... did you decide to tell your family but not your husbands? If so, how come? It's probably better to decide ahead of time, but obviously its too late for that. Maybe your husband will compromise a bit, like, maybe telling just his parents, or telling his parents soon, but not right now.
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    meltoinemeltoine member

    I agree that it's not right to tell your family but not your husband's. It sucks that your step-dad couldn't keep quiet, but you don't want to risk his family finding out from someone other than you.

    We faced the same problem - H wanted to tell his family a few days ago, but my mom has a huge project at work this week so I wanted to wait until the weekend. IMO, if you tell one side you have to tell the other. It's only fair.  

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