If your dd has been in a wedding

mlm1128 · June 2010

How did they do, and how old are they? DD has been asked to be in a wedding that we don't yet know the date of. I will find out in a few weeks. I think she will be fine, but if your dd is normally not shy, did she turn shy in front of so many people?

StarryNight39 · June 2010

I'm eager to see what you get for responses. Ava is in a wedding on October. I'm almost positive she will do fine, since she is usually not shy and she seems very excited. Plus I am the MOH so we will be together right up until the end.

MrsStubbs · June 2010

She did great. There were 3 other little girls with her and she ended up on my lap in the front row because it was so hot and long. She fell asleep before it was over.

joseysbride · June 2010

Rory does get shy when there are tons of people, but she was perfectly fine. She acted shy walking down the aisle, but she did a great job. The kids I cringe to see in wedding parties are the ones who throw a huge fit just before they are about to walk. I doubt many four year old girls would do that.

She didn't stand at the front of the church the entire time, though. It was a Catholic wedding so she sat with the bride's parents (my dh's aunt and uncle who she knows very well) during the ceremony.

She's in another one in August, and the ceremony is not Catholic and will be outdoors, so I'm guessing she will stand up there for that one.

PinkPiano · June 2010

My dd was in my cousin's wedding a week before she turned 3. She did great! She's normally a bit on the shy side but she had no problem.

jettagurl · June 2010

Natalie was in one last summer, but only 21 mos oldish. She's extremely friendly and did great with the walking part, it was just too much to expect her to toss the flowers at the same time. And it rehearsal she wanted to pick them back up. It was fairly small also, about 50 ppl total.

For our wedding, we had a 4 yr old and a 2.5 yr old (sisters). They both did fine in the rehearsal, but only the 4 yr old walked in the actual ceremony. She was great, and is normally pretty shy (as is the sister). I think as a bride, you have to realize that a young child is a high risk for not cooperating or bailing. I wouldn't want DD to be in a wedding where I knew the bride was over-the-top about everything being perfect...I think with any child under the age of 8 or so has a good chance of not doing everything right.

TheNextWest · June 2010

My oldest has been in a few, starting when she had just turned 4 (she's 6 now). She has come out of her shell now, but back then you never knew if she was going to get super shy at "showtime" or not. She didn't though... has always done great. She didn't necessarily look up or around or anything, she stayed pretty focused on her job. But she stood up there the whole time, not too wiggly, and stayed quiet. She is in another one this fall, and I'm not worried at all now.

j-w · June 2010

DD was in my sister's wedding in December. She was 4 years, 2 months at the time. She had the time of her life. She did nap before the 4pm ceremony and was good to go until about 11pm. She was the absolute LIFE of the dance floor. She is very outgoing and did not get shy at all.

WifeyLindsay · June 2010

DD was 2 when she was a flowergirl for my BFF's wedding. I was so nervous but my friend insisted that it's okay if DD freaks out or whatever. I was just worried that the terrible 2's would come out at full force... AND my DD tends to be shy and stubborn so I really had no idea how she was going to do. She ended up doing a great job. I think she did a better job at throwing the flowers than the other 2 flowergirls and they were older than her! We had my DH help to guide the girls down the aisle, and I think that helped. And I was a BM in the wedding so DD literally had to walk from DH to me so it was pretty easy. Anyways, i'm sure your DD will be fine.

A lot of people suggested the M&M trick. I guess you give the MOH M&M's...the MOH is the last person to walk before they send out the flowergirls, so she can say "Follow me if you want M&M's!".

skippy2310 · June 2010

Not my DD, but DS has been in 2 weddings. He was in one at almost 2 and did ok, my cousin ended up having to walk him halfway down the aisle. He was in one a few weeks before he turned 3 and did great. He's usually a little nervous in new situations and he did wonderful, smiled, held the flowergirl's hand, walked all the way down the aisle, etc.

lildevil968 · June 2010

She was in BIL's wedding when she was 3, and she did turn shy. I had to walk down, and walk her back up with me. We are in a wedding again in 2 wks, and hopefully she doesn't get shy again....lol.

brightning · June 2010

My DD was in my sister's wedding at age 2.5. She walked down the aisle like a champ, which was shocking because she's extremely shy. It really helped that there was another flowergirl who was 6 yo and DD just kinda followed her. I'm not sure she would have done it on her own.

hopefulmom · June 2010

My oldest DD was 4 and did great. She has never been shy though and always seemed more mature then her age. My DS was almost 5 and did great as well. He walked with his little cousin (age 4) and she was kind of shy and lagging behind him (not that he was running). He carried a pillow and she carried a basket but didn't throw flowers. It was a Catholic wedding and they stood at front for the whole thing. At rehearsal the priest said he would put a quarter on the floor where they were supposed to stand and when the ceremony was all overwith they could have the quarter. Well, when my niece got to the front she grabbed both quarters. lol DS wasn't quite sure where to stand since his quarter was no longer there but one of the groomsmen showed him where to stand and he did fine.

true_norskie · June 2010

DD1 was a flower girl in my cousin's wedding last summer--so at 3.5. She tends to be somewhat reserved (wouldn't call her "shy", just a little more cautious with people than not). She did GREAT! And they didn't even have a rehearsal. I was in the back with her until she had to walk up. She ATE.UP the attention of all the "awww, ahhh" from the guests and loved walking down the aisle--I can't even tell you whether she threw petals, I forget.

I didn't think she'd stand up with the party during the ceremony. The ring bearer barely made it up there and ran to sit with his parents (nephew of the groom). DD stood up there like she was just the sh* t. She sat with me in the front row for a very little bit and asked to go and stand by the MOH (my other cousin who she loves). She even marched back up the aisle with the wedding party.

We talked and talked and talked about it so she knew what to expect. She is a pretty girlie girl so she loved wearing a fancy dress and being princess for a day.

SO FUN!

Temp970088312507122 · June 2010

My DD1 was in SIL's wedding right before she turned two. I thought she'd freak out and throw herself to the ground, but she did fine. There was an older flowergirl (almost 5yo) so they held each other's hands and tromped down the aisle.

It was a Catholic ceremony, so she sat with my ILs during the ceremony.

kertybird · June 2010

DD has been a flower girl 3 times:

At 18 months she did okay, but my mom had to help get her down the aisle...it was very long and held outdooors. (October 2008)

At 2 she did much better! It was held at the same location as the first one and she did it all by herself with a little coaching (April 2009)

She did it a few weeks ago and was awesome! She made sure she walked slow, held the ring bearers hand and made sure that all her petals were gone.

The first 2 both DH and I were in the wedding, the last one DH was in but I was not. As long as she could stand with DH she does great and won't even move through the ceremony.

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